My family (husband, I and kids) had to stay with my sister and her husband for 5 days. She said that we were welcome to stay but I found out later from her husband that she was furious and said a lot of ugly things. She didn't really speak for the first two days and avoided me. We ( my family) did not eat there, kept the house clean and only used water and electricity for bathes. We mainly stayed in our rooms.
I did not know she felt this way or I would not have ever stayed with her until our house was ready.
We were out in five days.
I bought her and her husband a $50 money order and a 40 gift card for dinner in a nice restaruant and a thank you card and told her how much we appreciated them and the use of their home. I explained that I knew it was a great inconvience and said that the $50 dollars was to help with the utilities for the 5 days we were there.
Do you think I did enough? I will never tell her that I know about what she said about us. I still hurt a little
2006-11-24 05:40:29 · 7 answers · asked by egg_sammash 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I still hurt a little from the comments she made but I am chosing to forgive her and go on.
2006-11-24 05:41:50 · update #1
Oh, I could never tell her because it was her husband that told us how upset she was. Telling her would only cause marriage problems for them and I don't want to do that. I will have to take this one to my grave.
2006-11-24 05:58:29 · update #2
Have you two been at logger heads in the past? Perhaps she only asked you to stay cause you are sisters but was hoping you wouldn't take her up on the offer. She sounds selfish to me but hey Ive got a sister like that too.I think you have done plenty,but i would have to say some thing to her,at least find out what her problem was.
2006-11-24 05:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by plumbob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people will say "you're welcome to stay with us" but don't mean it. How are you supposed to know if they don't speak the truth though? It sounds like you did all you could do to be gracious guests and giving her a gift was very kind. Next time you see her kindly say "I heard you were upset that we stayed with you and I'm so sorry if I misunderstood your initial invitation. If you ever need a place to stay, know our home is open so I can pay back the favor" (but ONLY say this if you truly mean it!). "Thanks again for those five days they meant a lot ot us." And then move on... because what else can you do?
2006-11-24 05:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by mJc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her since she is my sister, but I would say I wish she would have told me we were putting her out because we could have stayed elsewhere, I would also give her $200 for all the expenses to make her happy. You might have to tell her who told you ,but surely you could feel something was wrong and you wanted to find out.
2006-11-24 05:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a sad situation,you must be really hurt.I'm glad you decided to forgive her.Did you ever get to the bottom of her resentment?I think you have paid enough in every way.Let it go,the problem is more hers than yours.
2006-11-24 05:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by New Boots. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did enough, shame on her for making you feel that way. In the future pitch a tent before you stay with her again.
2006-11-24 05:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it was enough.however you are a much bigger person than i would have been I would have had to tell her look you could have been up front with me instead of back stabbing me to your husband
2006-11-24 05:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it was enough.
2006-11-24 05:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋