shes only 12 and doesnt have any money to support the baby! she asked me for the money because our parents dont even know shes pregnant. I dont know because its her chose and i think my parents should get involved. what should i do?? Should she have the abortion??
she doesnt want to adopt because she cant standing giving her baby up!
2006-11-24 05:14:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you should talk to her. But you shouldn't tell your parents, have her tell them on her own, If she does. If she wants to have the abortion then thats her choice but I think she should tell her parents and see where that goes. Give her some time. By the way she's 12 I think you have to be 16 to get an abortion. I don't know lol. Hope things follow through
2006-11-24 05:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is something she has to talk over with parents or school council anyone because she is only twelve and here are things she has to know about abortion it is a surgery and can be dangerous if not done properly.
If she adopts or has an abortion either way she is loosing a child.
There might even be someone in your family that wants a baby and either cannot have on or would like one so she would give the baby up but still have contact with the child
Just some things that she might not of thought of.
If you decide to give her the money for the abortion without telling your parents at least make sure she is going to a proper doctor.
because she is only twelve she might have to have your parents permission to even get and abortion.
2006-11-24 05:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by eve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very touchy area, I dont agree with Abortion because Im a Catholic and even if I was'nt I still would'nt agree with it , but I do understand the enormous difficultys pregnancy brings to a girl at such a young age. I think you should talk to sombody that you can trust and I hope you will recieve the correct guidance for your sister. I dont see any other option . Having an abortion can be a very short solution to a very big problem. I hope you can get some advice from women who have taken such a path and may advise you accordingly.. Best of luck...
2006-11-24 05:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her think about it this way: She doesn't want the baby, so she's just going to get rid of it. It will never even exist, as soon as the procedure is done. She's not ready, so it's the only answer, right?
So what if her parents decide that they don't want to deal with her any more? I mean, she's twelve, pregnant and getting an abortion. Who wants that? What do they do? They kill her. She won't even exist after they have it done. They're not ready to deal with this kind of thing; it's the only answer, right?
Right?
You HAVE to put things into perspective. Killing someone isn't the right way to solve anything.
2006-11-24 05:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by therealj5girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes 12, what the heck is going on in this world today, when babies are having babies. This is why children shouldn't have sex until they are mature enough to use their brain and to use the proper protection.Unfortunately she should have the abortion, Shes 12 and her bodies really not ready to carry a baby yet. There are health concerns also to look at and I do think the parents should know, unless they are abusive to her. Then I would suggest seeking advice from close reliable relative or friend.
2006-11-24 05:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by wildcat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO! Do not give any help to your sister to aide in her abortion. Think about it...She is only 12 and not thinking with a mature mind. You need to get your parents involved. If you go through this abortion with her now, what happens later when she wishes she hadn't done it. Who is she going to blame? You for not stopping her??? Think about it! You also say she doesn't want to give the baby up for adoption; yet, she can dispose of him/her in such an inhumane way? Please get your parents involved. I know as an older brother you want to be there for your sister, but this is out of your league. Get Mom and Dad. Offer to go with her and talk to them. Sort of mediator I suppose. Just don't do this unbeknown to them. The guilt will be too much to bear.
2006-11-24 05:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by Justonnie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is 12?! This girl was definitely NOT ready for sex. She should not have an abortion. Either way, your parents will find out what happened and if you aid in the abortion, you are partly responsible for killing that baby. Giving birth is painful, but so is an abortion. Convince her to give up the baby for adoption if she really cares about it...I was adopted and I love my life, let this baby have the same chances as us.
2006-11-24 05:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
She is a minor and she really has to tell your parents,if only because this is a huge thing and she needs all the support she can get.It is her choice to do what she thinks is best for herself. But imagine what would happen if your parents ever found out that you had given her the money for an abortion!I think you should tell her that she has to talk to your parents.
2006-11-24 05:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by jo h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... I wouldn't give her money for an abortion, I don't care if she's 12, if she did it because she was "in love" and with her consent, she chose it and now she has to learn how to affront her decisions. I would just tell her that I would support her, and yes I would tell your parents because they are still responsible for her. They are going to be upset but that will go away after the baby is born and they fall in love with her.
2006-11-24 05:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by Ecco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 12 yrs old, she is going to have trouble getting an abortion anywhere without support and counseling...I know she must be so frightened at this point. I suggest you contact your nearest Planned Parenthood office and get her there for some immediate support and counseling. As for her parents? It depends on how you think they would react. If telling them would put her in physical danger, look elsewhere for help. If they are loving parents, sit down with her and them to figure out what to do next.
2006-11-24 05:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by potterhands2002 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋