Family - November 2006

2006-11-02 11:54:23 · 9 answers · asked by I think... 6

I have such love and compassion for children. I am very troubled because I am not sure what to do about my situation. I have two step children (ages 9 and 11) whom I have gone out of my way for and have opened up to and have treated just as I do my own children. I have involed them in all aspects of my life. They do not live with my husband and I, however they visit every other weekend. I am at wits end because they treat us horribly. They ignore me, disrespect me and disrespect the other children in my husband and my home. When they come over, they hit my children, yell at them, and refuse to follow any of the rules that my husband and I set forth. I have tried very hard to be patient, but my nerves are growing thin. My husband tries very hard to correct his children's behavior, but to no avail. It does not help that their mother bad mouths everyone in our household, so we can't turn to her for any help. It is difficult not only on me, but my children and my husband.

2006-11-02 11:52:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

Very close, or not close at all? My siblings and I have pretty large age gaps between us, but we're still pretty close for the most part. What about you?

2006-11-02 11:51:04 · 15 answers · asked by LibraT 4

2006-11-02 11:50:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

ive been married for almost 2 years now. my husband and i used to live in my parents house (for some asians, this is a normal practice) because the house is too big for my parents and we couldnt afford to lease before. 7 months ago, i forced myself and my husband to move out of the house due to some problems with my parents. now, we are crunching on our finances just for us to fit in all our expenses. my husband and i have been having arguements about money. now im having 2nd thoughts of going back to my parents house because true enough that with me and my husband's salary, it's belt-tightening. it's not about my pride, but i believe that this is a learning for me and my husband as we are starting our life together....would appreciate any suggestions...thanks!

2006-11-02 11:41:07 · 8 answers · asked by z0e 2

my sister in law is my hubbys baby sister, she is 18. she always comes over at dinner time and im so tired, all i wanna do is curl up with my hubby and chill. she is very clingy to us and i do adore her but i need space. she doesnt call before she comes like we ask her to and i am not one to be mean. she is basically like our child and i dont wanna be a mother yet! how do i get her to give us space without hurting her feelings.

2006-11-02 11:33:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am sort of in a tuff situation just answer what you think, I havent seen my grandparents in ten years cause my mom died when I was sixteen and she died cause of drugs and I think I always blamed it on them cause I was young and dumb now Im 26 and realize it wasnt their fault but I ignored them for ten years and they probably hate me now but i want to go see them how should I go about getting through my fear of them not forgiving me for my own stupidity cause I really want to see them honest good answers will get you ten points

2006-11-02 11:23:13 · 15 answers · asked by mschmitty920 3

See I go every year and over the summer i went for 2 months..and that pissed him off cuz he says Im away from home too much! I want to go in December for only 2 weeks but I already asked and he said no. I even killed myself to get good grades just so I can go..

Can somebody help me think of something!!!!!!!!

2006-11-02 11:12:33 · 6 answers · asked by latin_babi91 2

2006-11-02 11:02:59 · 10 answers · asked by pamelahand1980 1

I have a 4 month old, dad and i werent cn eachother long and split bfore i found out i was pregnant. he was not supportive of the pregnancy but has had access 2 days a week since baby was born and sometimes overnight. baby had bn sleeping in a moses basket in his house. he is now too big for it so i told dad a few weeks ago that he would need a cot if he was 2 stay ovr. a week later still no cot so i said that he couldnt stay the night again until there was a cot. last week when i dropped baby to dad for the night there was no cot which had bn promised by that night so i took baby home. now dad wont talk to me and hasnt cn his child since even tho he was given the option to.. hes now changed his number and is taking me to court. Wat should i do??

2006-11-02 10:26:58 · 11 answers · asked by singlemother22 1

for quite a while my brother in law and his missus havent been getting on, they argue over anything and everything, but tonight his missus has punched him in the face, and marked him, now my brother in law is by no means soft but he didnt hit her back although he felt like it, all she keep saying to him was "hit me back" but he didnt retaliate.
They have a daughter together and she told him if he leaves he will never see her again,
He wants to leave but hes affraid that he will never see his daughter, i wanted to go to they house and kick the crap out of her, but it would probably only make things worse.
This isnt the first time he has found himself in this situation but now hes had enough, what can he do, as he needs to be ensured he wont loose his daughter

2006-11-02 10:25:13 · 12 answers · asked by tracy 2

okay i was searching through my sister's room. she's in college now. i found her journal. I read through it. in it she said she believe people were reading her mind and watching her. i've noticed i catch mumbling things to herself a lot. she prays excessively, i mean one every three minutes. she makes the sign of the cross every three minutes also and bows down and hits her head on the ground and raises her open arms. She also shakes her head alot. what should i do? does she have a disorder?

2006-11-02 10:16:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

manipulating and try to mess things up for her son and daughter-in-law.
Evil she can't seem to see it. How do we open up her eyes?

2006-11-02 10:11:17 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

tonight my bf asked me to marry him and because i no it is true love i said yes even tho we have only been together for 6 months. we live together but my mum doesnt like him scince i moved in with him how do i tell her that we are engaged?

2006-11-02 10:03:37 · 26 answers · asked by mummy to 3 miracles 5

Okay, so today is my birthday. I am turning thirteen and I am sick. Yes, on my birthday. And my 13th birthday of all of them. Anyways, normally on like my families birthdays, we normally have like a cake and at least one gift, you know to celebrate. Well, we do that normally EVERY birthday but today I woke up expecting it and there was NOTHING! All that happened was I got a "Happy birthday!" and that is about it. I mean I know we are having money problems but we were having money problems when it was my brothers and sisters birthdays and they got something. I mean I am just sad. I mean my big 13 and I have nothing. I am so sasd and I am trying SO HARD not to show it but I mean on your thirteenth birthday didn't you get something? I mean somthing? I mean My family and I were going to go shopping but I doubt it now. I mean I am really upset! I don't really know I can cheer myself up and I am not sure if I have that right to be mad. Please talk to me.

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2006-11-02 10:00:44 · 22 answers · asked by Juice 3

I hate mines with a passion! Hes so embarssing an tyrannical!

2006-11-02 09:46:26 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

my ex partner has contact with my daughter he works and pays no maintanance if i can i will drop her off or pick her up i have moved house no further away but he refuses to come and pick her he wants me to meet him half way but it wasnt a problem before,i dont wont to commit myself as i don always have fuel in my car all the time as i am on benefits as he is the one that works and pays nothing at all for her up bringing surely its up to him to pick his daughter.

2006-11-02 09:24:15 · 40 answers · asked by dina w 1

the cops catch her trying to get into the church about 3:am (she thinks its sunday morning) or she thinks I'm my mom's new husband, or she's inlove with an old car & keeps paying $1000.'s to get it fixed, last but not least, she'd wear her "garments" over her clothes!!! ....this really happened.

2006-11-02 09:17:09 · 8 answers · asked by strange-artist 7

how many people are going through "rough times" and have children??? Explain??

2006-11-02 09:07:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I heard my dad talking on the phone with someone saying that he was going to leave my mom.and that he kinda wont because he dose'nt want to leave me and my brother.but im scared that he'll leave my mom.what should i do or what can i do?

2006-11-02 08:58:48 · 4 answers · asked by buble c 1

Ok, some info first...I am a 16 yr old boy who excels in school and has never done anything wrong...my parents are split up and I live with my mom only . I have no siblings.

The problem: I CANT DO ANYTHING. It makes me so angry...I'm not allowed to go out...not allowed to just hang out with friends...not allowed to do anything. I get invited to parties and everything...but I can't go. I don't really get to choose my friends, my mom has to approve of them. On the rare occaision that I'm allowed to leave the house, my mom interrogates me about who,what,where,when,why, how, how long..etc. I've never done anything... I've never been to a party, concert, etc..

I know most teenagers go through this but IT IS BAD...I know when I go to college (if im not forced to live at home) I'm going to EXPLODE and ruin my life with a sudden realization of freedom...I have a job but I make minimum wage which would be impossible to live off of, and I know moving out would be a stupid idea anyways...HELP

2006-11-02 08:57:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 24 my little sister just turned 14. I was reading her myspace page the other day and read a blog she posted recently saying how she's lonley and wants a boyfriend so bad. She went on saying that she wants someone to hold her and love her and make her happy. I haven't brought it up to her yet that I've read it. Growing up neither me or my 3 sisters had a great relationship with my dad. Because of that I had horrible experiences with boys growing up. I didn't realize what I was doing then, but I constantly sought the love of a "man" and suffered alot because of that. I don't want her to go through the same. It hurts me to see her heading toward the same road of heartache and disappointment.
What can I say to her to help?

2006-11-02 08:50:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My stepson has threatened both of us with a knife and we had to ask the court to step in and help with the situation. The courts determined it was unsafe for us to have any of his three sons in our home because they expressed anger over the fact that we have rules. They do not have rules at their mothers. So we are now unable to see them outside of counseling because the judge was concerned that the oldest one would carry out his threat.
My husband misses his children very much, so do I. I need to know how to help him through this rough spot and help him see how much better things will be once we get through this. Any suggestions?

2006-11-02 08:43:30 · 8 answers · asked by flutterbybug4me 1

makes no sense to me. wouldn't there have to be something already existing there for that to happen any opinions on this

2006-11-02 08:39:56 · 8 answers · asked by hhii j 1

My husband might be owning a car wash. He called me today and said he would be working from 7:30-6:00pm 7 days a week. I should be happy for him, he has been looking for a business for a while, but I am sad I will not see him very much :(. Is this wrong not to be happy for him?

2006-11-02 08:33:14 · 22 answers · asked by Virginia Gal 3

everything i have done, everything i have wanted to do, my parents did not agree with me. they are stricked, and barely let me go places.
when skool started, i wanted to be in the girl's soccer team... of course, my mom did not approved it! i trained for 2 months straight, every single day running, working out, lifting weights, stretching, walking with a soccer ball everywhere i go and everything that goes along with it. i was in a streaked diet, just so i am fit enough to make the team.. and i am proud to say that i did make it, but now, my mom wants me to QUIT! i don't know what to do! what can i tell her? they never have my back, for anything! this has been my goal for a long time, and she wants me to walk out of it...is that even possible? i am telling her i am not quitting, but she is determined to get on my way.... plz help me...

2006-11-02 08:33:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom...has a problem with me...she states that it my fault that she doesn't have a relationship with her. And yesterday she called me a "*****", she was at the hospital and didn't want my dad to know...saying he didn't care...I at the time didn't know this and called him...and yes he did care,,,went to her side...then she called me a *****...? is a girl to do?

2006-11-02 08:29:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom told me that it was ok for me not to go to college because " College isn't for everyone". Well i really don't know exactly what i want to get my degree in but i don't want to drop out. I went back to undecided. But i told her that i didn't know if i wanted to go back in the spring..but now i do. Now she's all on me about not going full time and all this stuff...and not to take too many classes til i know what i want to get into....

i wanted to get my classes out of the way that i'll need for any major...but according to her i can't.....AH HELP!!

2006-11-02 08:26:46 · 6 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5

I have a court order for my daughter's father to pay child support every week. So far since the order he has only paid 4 times. We just went to court recently, because he wanted a reduction, but he was denied. He owes me $1,535. The hearing officer told me to go another place in the same town for an enforcement. If I decide to go what will they do? Is there a certain amount that they look for in order to put out a warrant for his arrest? Since the order was established about 4 months ago he hasn't seen our daughter. Hopefully he'll just give up his rights so my husband can adopt her. He hasn't done anything for my daugher since the day she was born.

2006-11-02 08:25:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hate admiting this, but I'm really wanting to get some unbiased imput. My (recent) ex-boyfriend, in my opinion, displays behaviors w/ his sister that don't seem "normal". They are both in their mid- twenties and they still do stuff like wrestle (jumping on top of each other, tickleing, giggling...). She demands a lot of attention from him and gets angry when she doesn't get it. One night my ex and I had a party, and they disappered for half an hour to fight because she was mad that he wasn't calling her enough. At another party (and this made me cry) a bunch of us were just sitting there and he started smacking her butt and pulling her against him and picking her up. It really embarrased me. It's a bunch of little things. I do realize his family is more affectionate than mine, but I just got a weird vibe. I really don't think they have crossed any lines, but I definitely don't flirt w/ my bro? What are your thoughts on this behavior?

2006-11-02 08:23:16 · 25 answers · asked by Amaranth 2