My mom...has a problem with me...she states that it my fault that she doesn't have a relationship with her. And yesterday she called me a "*****", she was at the hospital and didn't want my dad to know...saying he didn't care...I at the time didn't know this and called him...and yes he did care,,,went to her side...then she called me a *****...? is a girl to do?
2006-11-02 08:29:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm guessing that this dynamic betwen you and your mother is not new. It reads like this is the latest in a long line of push and pull between you both. Can I go out on a limb and guess that your mother had you at a young age? If correct, it might explain (not excuse) her seemingly harsh projection of her own faults onto you. So what are you to do? Simply understand that your mother has probably spent many years miserable and full of regret. There is nothing you can do about it but to simply be her daughter. I'm no psychologist, but I know people and the situation you describe typifies someone who craves attention and likes to be the center of attention; while playing folks against others while she watches. In this way, she is exercising her desire to be in control. By seemingly controlling others, she feels more in control of her own life--which she probably has not felt. Being her daughter and close to her, you are most likely the closest and convenient target when she lashes out. Love her, forgive her, don't let it get to you, and use it as a blueprint for what not to do to your own children. Hope this helps. Sorry for the length.
2006-11-02 08:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by TheAdviceGuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the problem, Your mom has a problem, May be it is hormones, or may be it is depression, it could be anything. She needs help. Ask her how she feels? ask her if she wants you to go with her to the doctor? Now she may not think she is the problem. Then you have to put some distance between the two of you. Tell her that you love her. And that it hurts when she calls you names.
2006-11-02 16:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't communicate worth a darn. You need to take a English class so you can express your feelings to others before you ask questions. Also try not to type so many cuss words so I can understand what it is you are so upset about. She sounds like an unfit mother and you need to get away from her.
2006-11-02 16:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by marciacarter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey
umm maybe your mum is blaming you for things not just because she has a problem with you, maybe its because there is something else wrong with her. depression maybe? she may not mean to snap at you and call you names. she might just do this to refer her problems. its easier to blame someone else than yourself. just try and stay calm and "deal" with her for a while. stick with her and make sure she knows you are for her. she might start to open up and you may find out exactly whats wrong with her and why she is treating you like this.
2006-11-02 16:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋