grandparents?

Question

I am sort of in a tuff situation just answer what you think, I havent seen my grandparents in ten years cause my mom died when I was sixteen and she died cause of drugs and I think I always blamed it on them cause I was young and dumb now Im 26 and realize it wasnt their fault but I ignored them for ten years and they probably hate me now but i want to go see them how should I go about getting through my fear of them not forgiving me for my own stupidity cause I really want to see them honest good answers will get you ten points

Answer 1

I honestly doubt that they hate you. Misunderstandings happen and I'm sure that they understand you were young when your mom died. I'm sure they are just waiting and hoping that you will come around and realize that they do love you. I would call them first or write a letter and just go a little bit at a time that way you aren't hurt any more than you need to be if by some reason their feelings are still hurt. But you can talk that way and if you do come to find out that they aren't angry with you and they don't hate you (which they shouldn't) then you can arrange with them when a good time would be to get together with them. I'm sure everything will be fine! Good luck!

Answer 2

Be honest with them. Let them know how you were young and felt a certain way, but now that you are older you realize it was not their fault and you are sorry you blamed them. Tell them you would love to have a relationship because you missed out for so many years. Nobody could turn that down unless they were cold hearted and then who would want people like that in their life anyway...good luck!!

Answer 3

well i think that they will understand because you were young and just lost your mother if they really love the small stuff will not matter you are there grandson and life is to short for all the bullsh!t so call them go by and tell them what you was feeling then and just lay it all out on the table and see what they say if they love you they will understand if they dont oh well then you will know you have been right all long , my parents dont do anything for my kids and they make it very plain about how they fill , so unless your grandparents have told you they didnt want to talk to you they are probally waiting for you and just waiting for you so call them

Answer 4

Try sending them a nice card and say how much you feel a need to connect with them once again. I am certain that they would be very happy to hear from you and would be more than willing to discuss with you any concerns that you have/had regarding your mom's death. It's so easy when we are younger to forget the one's who are important in our lives but as we mature we begin to realize how much they mean to us. And like majority of good grandparents they will welcome you back with open arms. That's why we always hurt the one's that love us most because their love is unconditionial and neverending. There will probably be tears shed when you do reunite, but they will be tears of pride and happiness. Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

Unless you honestly told them time after time you hated them, they'll accept you just fine. Grandparents are very forgiving, so even if you did tell them you hated them, they'll still accept you.

Don't worry about them rejecting you. If they don't want to see the kind of person they've become, that's there problem. Try and come across honest, like, "I know I made a mistake..." bla-bla-bla...

hope things work out!

Answer 6

I am a grandparent , I think they would truly love to see you. No need to ask for forgiveness it's gonna be done when they see you for the first time in along time. There is nothing to fear, be like the Nike commercial and "Just Do It!" Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!

Answer 7

Sweetie I don't believe that they hate you at all!! If you are uncomfortable calling them write them a letter and tell them just what you wrote on here. I would bet that you would get a letter back saying how much they would love to see you. Take a chance or you will never know. Good luck.

Answer 8

they are your grandparents and they will always love you. Its good to know that you are going to make that 1st step because you never know when they will pass on as i have just recently found out.
Good luck and just remember that it is not their fault and you are doing the right thing.

Answer 9

dude if you want to see you'r grandparents then you should write them a letter and apologize for pretty much being young and stupid. Then tell them that you would like to see them and give them you'r number so they can call you .

Answer 10

just go visit them and tell them that u r truly sorry. and reassure them that u dont think that its their fault anymore and tell them that it was ur moms fault cuz it was her decision and not theirs (im really sorry to here bout ur mom) if ur gonna go do it u should do it now or sometime soon cuz im sorry to say but their not gettin any younger and if somethin happens to them b4 u get a chance to tell them then ur just gonna hate urself for not gettin a chance to say that ur sorry and end on good terms with them so go visit them im sure that theyve been waitin for a long time

good luck and i hope i could help and i hope u go to visit them and get reaquianted with them again ; )