I have a 4 month old, dad and i werent cn eachother long and split bfore i found out i was pregnant. he was not supportive of the pregnancy but has had access 2 days a week since baby was born and sometimes overnight. baby had bn sleeping in a moses basket in his house. he is now too big for it so i told dad a few weeks ago that he would need a cot if he was 2 stay ovr. a week later still no cot so i said that he couldnt stay the night again until there was a cot. last week when i dropped baby to dad for the night there was no cot which had bn promised by that night so i took baby home. now dad wont talk to me and hasnt cn his child since even tho he was given the option to.. hes now changed his number and is taking me to court. Wat should i do??
2006-11-02 10:26:58 · 11 answers · asked by singlemother22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanx every1 , it helps that im not the only person that thinks hes unreasonable. i want my baby to hav a relationship with his dad cause i think he has a right to know him so its upsetting that he would stop cn him like dis. i got in touch with his brother but the whole family arent talking to me ovr this. ive really tried to make the situation work but i just dont know how to handle it anymore
2006-11-02 10:35:23 · update #1
im not worried about going to court in so far as i cant see the judge siding with him, its just that i wanted us to be able to get along and work together as parents.. i dont want my baby having to put up with his parents hating eachother
2006-11-02 10:49:21 · update #2
huni.. ive just finished a court case.. and yer rite its not nice. but somtimes it gives em a kick up the **** they need.. my ex went for full custody.. when i let him see my son when evr he wanted.. but wasnt satisfied with that.. so after the case he gets 1 nite evry 2 weeks... nothing to wot he had.. and also has to pay maintanance.. no the judge wont side with him hun..
i was devastated when he took me to court i thort i was gona loose my son.. hes 9 by the way.. and always lived with me.. and the thort of loosing him put me on prozac.. but i got threw it and he got nothing.. and if i let him see him more then he is grateful and so he shud be after all he put me threw..i don want my son to not see his dad but they do make it very very hard for you to get on with things ...let us no how you go on chick good luck x
2006-11-02 10:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by cathrin j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't panic, the way I see it, you have the advantage in court. Just don't run away with the baby. Just relax, and love that baby as much as you can, and don't make any mistakes until the trial is over. Good Luck, and give the baby a hug for me.
2006-11-02 10:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by lilFerret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your babies father is a stupid man,he should thank his lucky stars that you are a sensible reasonable woman who realises that a child needs a mum and a dad and is willing to give him access to his child.Stick to your guns and good luck.
2006-11-02 12:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a woman explain that he has had acess write everything down dates times teh judge is going to want to knwo.plus u have the right to ask that he get proper furniture for the child
2006-11-02 10:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to respond to the court case and just deal with it. He doesn't sound like he wanted to be a father and isn't mature enough to act like one.
2006-11-02 10:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your story in court the way you have told it to us. The court system doesn't always get things right, but they're not toally stupid.
2006-11-02 10:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by amy02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell hI'm what he got him self into and that you cant do this by yourself and that you child wont be complete if you not in her life im 13 and i don't have a father and its not fair i really don't want anyone else going through this because you don't deserve it
2006-11-02 11:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by hello 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try speaking to his family about the matter i believe you are doing the right thing.
2006-11-02 10:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by Linda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him stateing some facts ..Then get the professional help you and your baby need. right now..
2006-11-02 10:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by mush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stop acting like a kid and get a bigger bed and save his money on court cause he is gonna look like a idiot
2006-11-02 10:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by inluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋