ive been married for almost 2 years now. my husband and i used to live in my parents house (for some asians, this is a normal practice) because the house is too big for my parents and we couldnt afford to lease before. 7 months ago, i forced myself and my husband to move out of the house due to some problems with my parents. now, we are crunching on our finances just for us to fit in all our expenses. my husband and i have been having arguements about money. now im having 2nd thoughts of going back to my parents house because true enough that with me and my husband's salary, it's belt-tightening. it's not about my pride, but i believe that this is a learning for me and my husband as we are starting our life together....would appreciate any suggestions...thanks!
2006-11-02 11:41:07 · 8 answers · asked by z0e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Times are tough for everyone at times, so dont feel bad about that, Ive been married 17 years & we are both working our tails off to keep our heads above water. Living with your parents is a big help as far as living costs, I'm sure, but its hard for two families to live together, it also can cause a lot of fights. Everyone argues over money, but there is nothing better than having your own space. If your parents don't need you to help with their living costs & you can make it, even if you have to squeak by every month, I would maybe give it a little more time, tough it out, sit down and talk to each other & try to come to an agreement not to argue about money & just see what unfolds..good luck to you both!
2006-11-02 11:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by lesa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay where you are....it does not matter where you stay in regards to finance...whether with parents or not , unless you pay no rent when with them, your financial situation would not change...if with parents , they help you financially ,what is the difference from asking them NOW ? Hopefully , things will work out in the near future...you are not the only couple that face such situations... so toughen up....Also ,being away as couples is ideal on the long run ...you manage your own affairs without outside forces , you know...Hope for the best.. God bless
2006-11-02 11:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by srjione 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn how to live together. Discuss the finances and compromise on some sacrifices (i.e. no more eating out once a week) What are your goals? Do not live beyond your means, if this means downsizing to a more affordable house or car, you need to do that. And remember, even if you make more money, that doesn't mean you will HAVE more money. Some ppl get further in debt when they make more money.
2006-11-02 12:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jnine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have a better relationship if you guys stay out on your own and work together. It will bring you together. All couples have arguments but living with parents is not the best.
2006-11-02 11:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about moving to a smaller place that costs less? Or perhaps to another area that is closer to work? Try to cut out what you don't need. Don't eat out, cook meals at home.
I admire your custom of living with your family, but sometimes we all need our independence.
2006-11-02 12:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask God to lead and guide you. if you are leasing you move and still pay! staying at home with your parents and spouse can be very stressful for some. make sure you are spending on necessities and not so much on wants. you are going to do great.
2006-11-02 11:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by william w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying in a Joint Family, will ease your financial position.Also it's a pleasure for having all the nearest loved one are close to you.
2006-11-02 11:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most parent love your children so go with your hubby to get their help and tell them your problem. They will be happy to accept it. Happy Family.God Bless All of you.
2006-11-02 15:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋