I hate admiting this, but I'm really wanting to get some unbiased imput. My (recent) ex-boyfriend, in my opinion, displays behaviors w/ his sister that don't seem "normal". They are both in their mid- twenties and they still do stuff like wrestle (jumping on top of each other, tickleing, giggling...). She demands a lot of attention from him and gets angry when she doesn't get it. One night my ex and I had a party, and they disappered for half an hour to fight because she was mad that he wasn't calling her enough. At another party (and this made me cry) a bunch of us were just sitting there and he started smacking her butt and pulling her against him and picking her up. It really embarrased me. It's a bunch of little things. I do realize his family is more affectionate than mine, but I just got a weird vibe. I really don't think they have crossed any lines, but I definitely don't flirt w/ my bro? What are your thoughts on this behavior?
2006-11-02 08:23:16 · 25 answers · asked by Amaranth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's definitely an interesting situation. It's really hard to say one way or another because his family is overally affectionate. But at the same time my siblings and I are affectionate but definitely not in the way you describe your ex and his sister. It also kind of sounds like maybe his sister didn't like him having a girlfriend....Is this why you aren't together anymore?
2006-11-02 08:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His behavior sounds at the least suspect. I have found that siblings that come from parents that aren't very loving and parents that don't give lots of attention to the children are Closer then in other cases. However; Close is one thing but Too Close is another. I would go with my best instinct. If you were there and got the vibe, chances are your not far off base. They really may not realize that this kind of behavior is wrong. But then again there is the chance that you are jumping to conclusions. I wouldn't think so by your description. Have you ever tried talking to him about it. He might not be that open to conversation on the subject. Good Luck. You have a tough situation.
2006-11-02 08:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe not incestuous but something weird is definitely going on. A brother and sister can be affectionate and friendly but it sounds like they cross the line...a lot! If you are getting a weird vibe, you should trust your instincts, they are usually right!
2006-11-02 08:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you should keep him as your ex. That one thing for sure. But you are correct that some familys are more affectionate than others, MOST familys do not engage in butt slapping. IS ONE OF THE ADOPTED? this may be cause for the odd attraction, and it definatly sounds like attraction, to be emerging. Of course that still constitutes incest. Sometimes adopted folks feel like "its ok, we are not blood family" even though that is a sick notion!!
2006-11-02 08:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds a bit strange to me. The question is not whether it is actually incestuous. It may be, but you might have a hard time figuring it out. The question is, does it make you uncomfortable? If it does, then get out, which it sounds like you have already done.
2006-11-02 08:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by bb80266 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Probably just a very strange family dynamic and no one let them know what the appropriate levels of touching and displays of affection are. Just be glad he's an ex because its not normal and it wont just go away.
2006-11-02 08:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by brett.brown 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it really shouldn't matter. They are both over 18 so no laws are being broken. No one is forcing themselves on someone.
Look... he is your ex ... your EX!!!! if you don't like the vibes then just make sure he stays your ex.
Pretty simple.
Just move on with your life and let them move on with theirs.
Why spend any more time wondering about this? He is your EX!
2006-11-02 08:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not exactly "normal". In fact it might even be incestuous. But there doesn't seem to be really a problem with it.
If I had a hot sister (which I don't). Heck yeah I'd try and hit it.
There's also the possiblilty he might be gay (serious). And that he likes being around girls, but that behavior around non-drunk girls wouldn't work to well.
As for you, if you're really comfortable about it, have you thought about asking them?
They will realize that you're uncomfortable and control their behaviour a little more.
2006-11-02 08:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by chickenpoo 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Being sexually fascinated in every person, including kin, is relatively a psychological and chemical reaction and is very popular. questioning this is popular to have any sort of sexual courting with close kin isn't.
2016-11-27 00:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessarily incestuous, but neither is it normal, especially if they're in their 20's
Definitely a good thing for you he's an ex, recent or not.
2006-11-02 08:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by lowflyer1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋