How can I comfort my husband?

Question

My stepson has threatened both of us with a knife and we had to ask the court to step in and help with the situation. The courts determined it was unsafe for us to have any of his three sons in our home because they expressed anger over the fact that we have rules. They do not have rules at their mothers. So we are now unable to see them outside of counseling because the judge was concerned that the oldest one would carry out his threat.
My husband misses his children very much, so do I. I need to know how to help him through this rough spot and help him see how much better things will be once we get through this. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Go with him to see a family counselor. This one's really rough, the only person who could really help is a licensed professional. Just be very supportive and let him know how much you love him and his children. And good luck!

Answer 2

About all you can do is be there for him; go with him to visit the boys as often as allowed and help him to try and get across to them that they are loved very much and that the rules were only to help keep them safe and prepare them for the adult world where there are lots of rules that we all have to follow...all the way up through the President of the United States.
Everytime the boys have a good visit with the two of you, remind hubby that he is a good father and that he is making a difference in their lives. Remind him that he cannot be held responsible for their behavior if they choose not to change. Don't let him blame mom for the way the boys turned out cause that will only make the boys resent him more if he badmouths her.
GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 3

As hard as it is for both of you time is of the assents. Love can be good and love can be sad. His boys hopefully one day will realize that he is a good father. Children need rules and discipline in their lives, this gives children good morals and understanding as they grow to become young adults. The mother of these children are not setting good examples for them, she is the problem for her own children. Both sides need to be on the same page and both sides of the families need to abide by the same up bringing and respect that the boys are ultimately looking for. These boys are rebelling against their father and the mother is allowing it to happen. Counciling is good. take time and let God take over and hopefully all will go well.

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear this as it has been my experience as well. The both of you can take comfort that you did your best to guide them and know that you two are not at fault that the kids don't deal well with your rules.That being said, their real mother will regret the fact that she ever let them get away with this sort of behavior.

Answer 5

Some parents, hurts their children, more then they know. saying things about the other parent, and all of these children's lives, they hear things about how bad the other parent is, and we don't have any thing because of them. that is all they hear, and then the kids are messed up. These kids need therapy. It is going to take time, Tell your husband, that he should let them know that he loves them.

Answer 6

The only thing I can suggest is just to be there for him. Comfort him. Hopefully his sons will mature and realize the error of their ways. Only time will tell.

Answer 7

Carry on doing what you're doing. Your husband is a grown man with children and responsibilities. He's just feeling guilty for creating this mess- and his guilt is just self-indulgent way of not taking responsibility.

Answer 8

wat is rong wiv u stoopid peepol, kids freton yer wiv nifes, ferk em off owt of it, n the evil ones kan liv wid der witch.yer bend over bakwoods n evil kids r gona shaft yer.