for quite a while my brother in law and his missus havent been getting on, they argue over anything and everything, but tonight his missus has punched him in the face, and marked him, now my brother in law is by no means soft but he didnt hit her back although he felt like it, all she keep saying to him was "hit me back" but he didnt retaliate.
They have a daughter together and she told him if he leaves he will never see her again,
He wants to leave but hes affraid that he will never see his daughter, i wanted to go to they house and kick the crap out of her, but it would probably only make things worse.
This isnt the first time he has found himself in this situation but now hes had enough, what can he do, as he needs to be ensured he wont loose his daughter
2006-11-02 10:25:13 · 12 answers · asked by tracy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your brother sounds like a pretty good guy who is in a lot of turmoil right now. Before he leaves, and I say before because there is no question that he must leave, but before he leaves, he needs to get legal counsel to start custody proceedings.
He can definitely start with some of the spousal abuse hotlines that are available in all the phone books. He may be embarrassed about this, but he needs to realize that he is a good guy not a soft guy. It takes a stronger man to not hit a women when she is hitting him and totally out of control. It is against the law for her to abuse him as equally as if he were abusing her. And, if he files charges she could very well lose custody of their daughter completely. He needs to talk to counsel and he needs to call the police the next time it happens and ask that she be charged with assault. The police will support him.
It is best if you stay away from her. It sounds like your temper would get away from you and you yourself would land in jail and actually hurt your brothers cause. Be there for him. But, don't get violent.
2006-11-02 11:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by BParker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get out of that house. Domestic violence agains't men is serious and he needs to report her to the police. He has done well not to retaliate and that shows what a decent person he is. Where children are concerned it is always difficult but he needs to put his own safety first and then deal with the childcare issue after. Besides if he stays this will only get worse and that poor little girl might end up with no Father. Also if she is capable of hitting him she may hit the child so her safety is paramount.
2006-11-02 10:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hit him and there was physical evidence to the fact then he should have called the police. They would have took her away, only thing is if she claimed the same thing the police might take him away as well, depending on the location and the officers.
The evidence of abuse will be photographed. He then needs to file for divorce and full custody with no visitation rights to see the child without someone being there with them.
This isn't about him or her it is about the safety of the child. If she can hit her husband she can hit her child.
2006-11-02 10:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by James C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive read enough she is mental and if he leaves her he needs to file for custody because she isnt fit with her anger problems she has issues and he doesnt need to hit her back he needs to press charges on her because just like it is wrong to hit a women its wrong for a women to hit a man its called abuse no matter what the abusers genDER is and she needs help and if help isnt what she wants then maybe jail time is what she needs . and he has every right to be mad with a b!tch like that who thinks she is above the law where she thinks she can just hit someone and get away with it she needs a reallity check and he needs to give it to her domestic voilence isnt only when a man hits a women . HE NEEDS TO LEAVE HER *** AND TAKE HIS DAUGHTER TO AWAY FROM THAT CRAZY B!TCH .
2006-11-02 10:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they gained't be your sister n rules in basic terms better halves of your brother n rules yet possible call them your sister n rules no injury in that. Cousins, Uncles and Aunts are in basic terms area of the kinfolk. Grandfather and Grandmother are additionally favourite as in rules.
2016-10-21 04:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
report it to the police now. 3 reasons. 1st, she might report him with a wild story 2nd, the shock of them turning up might actually start the path of the couple sorting it out and third , if things do finally go pear shaped, it will help his cause in the divorce
2006-11-02 12:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he can call the cops on her for assault and since she's threatening to not let him see the daughter- he has to take her to court for that and it may be a while until he's able to get a settlement and see the daughter- he shouldkeep it cool with her and stop argunin so much
2006-11-02 10:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way any court would stop him seeing his daughter. Next time she hits him, he goes to the police. She will probably be imprisoned and forced to have help.
Who knows, it might be the saving of their marriage.
2006-11-02 19:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's abusive, he can have her arrested, the same as a woman can have a man arrested for abuse. then he can take custody of his daughter and make it so there is supervised visitation for the mother and make her pay child support!
2006-11-02 10:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by Gramms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He most definitely needs to have her arrested and then he needs to get a lawyer to make sure that he will be dealt a fair deal
2006-11-02 10:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋