tonight my bf asked me to marry him and because i no it is true love i said yes even tho we have only been together for 6 months. we live together but my mum doesnt like him scince i moved in with him how do i tell her that we are engaged?
2006-11-02 10:03:37 · 26 answers · asked by mummy to 3 miracles 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just be honest with her. Sit down and tell her. Hopefully you guys are engaged for at least a year before you get married. I honestly believe a couple should date at least a year, if not two years before they get married. There is so much stuff to find out about a person in that time. I dated my husband for two years before we were married and even now after being married for 3yrs, we're still finding stuff out about each other. So, yes, just sit down and tell your mum the truth. My parents didn't care for my husband at first and now they love and adore him! They see how well he treats me and our daughter. Your bf just needs to try and show them how much he really cares for you.
2006-11-02 10:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know you but i do know if you have found true love you are blessed and you should start that blessing off right by just telling your mom the truth. Your mom, like most, wants only the best for her little girl and who can blame her ? :-)
Maybe when you moved in your mom questioned his intentions presuming he had an ulterior motive-turns out he did and you can tell her this. He wanted to spend the rest of his life with her baby.
I cant judge you-the guy above me is right the divorce rate is high but that is because people don't know each other. i know some people i have known for a short period of time extremely well and others I've known forever that wont share so i don't know them well-just because you know someone forever doesn't mean i know all about you just that i have known you for a long time and vice versa
What is meant to be will be and no matter what any of us think if you are happy go with that because nothing is promised
2006-11-02 10:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as possible. Imagine how she would react if she found out from someone else a few weeks from now! Just make sure that this is right for you. Don't rush into it. Your mum is your mum at the end of the day and I'm sure if she sees how happy the guy makes you then she'll be ok but just be honest with her. If she goes off on one, listen to her. She's either doing it because she really thinks this guy is a waste of space or she is afraid of loosing you.
2006-11-03 02:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let somemore time pass before you two take that leap. the divorce rate is really high because you 2 are not in "love" you're in "like". "like" is what you feel for this guy because you don't know the real him yet. you are still getting to know the type of person he has presented you with. think of it as a slice of bread, right now you falling into infatuation because your seeing the inner part of the bread that tastes good and its so good. but to be married you need to love the crust of the bread and even the crumbs from the crust at the bottom of the toaster. if you ask me its way too quick, not saying your marriage wouldnt work but the odds are really stacked against you, because if its really true love then why rush?
2006-11-02 10:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is true love then that is great so i think you should sit her down and tell her exactly how you feel and how he makes you feel and that you want her blessing but you will still marry him without it because you love him and he loves you at the end of the day if he didn't love you he wouldn't ask you to marry him and if talking doesn't work try getting them together let them get to know each other
i hope thing work out for you, good luck
2006-11-02 10:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by angel eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her and be honest, tell her you love him and that you know how she feels and that you appreciate her watching out for you but that you are old enough to accept your consequences. be humble, be respectful, talk calmly and tell her you would love her to be happy for you. You could reach a compromise of setting a wedding date in a while like a year or two, that way she can get to know him more. Maybe the problem is she doesn't know him that well, take him to visit her more often, she can get to know him and will get to love him x
2006-11-02 10:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Chaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her as soon as possible. She may be really happy for you. What you don't want happening is for someone else to tell her about it, she would have reason to not be happy then.
If its right for you then go for it, but maybe compromise and have the wedding in a couple of years as you've only been together for 6mths. good luck.
2006-11-02 21:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by Vix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do what u feel is right for you mate...i did...and 10 years later we are swtill together...myself and my hubbie met in feb 98 and were engaged and living together by beginning of june 98 we had our first baby in july 2000 and have got married and had 2 more children since...u do whats right for you and if your mom loves u and respects ur desisions she will support you good luck huni xxxx
2006-11-02 10:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all moms know more then we give them credit for.So my adivise to u is since your mom has your best interest in mind then she is seeing something about him that u don't see.So you need to wait for awhile before you do this.Make sure of what u are getting into.I have seen so many break ups because they married to quick.Good luck
2006-11-02 10:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest about your feelings and tell her now. Thats NOW.
before anyone else tells her. If she finds out from someone else she will be embarrassed because she didn't know and that will definitely lead to a negative view on the engagement.
2006-11-02 12:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋