my parents are never behind me...?

Question

everything i have done, everything i have wanted to do, my parents did not agree with me. they are stricked, and barely let me go places.
when skool started, i wanted to be in the girl's soccer team... of course, my mom did not approved it! i trained for 2 months straight, every single day running, working out, lifting weights, stretching, walking with a soccer ball everywhere i go and everything that goes along with it. i was in a streaked diet, just so i am fit enough to make the team.. and i am proud to say that i did make it, but now, my mom wants me to QUIT! i don't know what to do! what can i tell her? they never have my back, for anything! this has been my goal for a long time, and she wants me to walk out of it...is that even possible? i am telling her i am not quitting, but she is determined to get on my way.... plz help me...

and i study a lot. my grades are top level, and i take all honor classes... i just don't get it

and she will not give me a reson why she doesn't want me to play... she just says no, u won't do it. no explanation or anything. i am sick and tired of it, i do everything to make them proud of me, she is still ******* unhappy

Answer 1

Try talking to her. I know you've said you tried to, but actually look her in the eyes, and ask her, not in a demanding way, but in a calm, sensible manner as to why she doesn't want you to play. If she won't answer you, write her a note or a letter or offer her some kind of service, like doing your chores for a month or something, and see what she says. If the answer is still no, talk to another family member, like is your father around? ask him what his opinion is. Maybe your mother is afraid you'll get hurt. Or, ask her to come to one of your practices and see what she thinks. Maybe if she sees how good you are, she'll let you continue playing. But remember, don't be mean and demanding. Try to act calm.

Answer 2

Tell her that you are old enough to make your own decisions. Tell her that this is very important to you, and you worked hard to get on the team. Also, tell her that you only wish that she could be proud of you (Try a little guilt trip). I reccommend just talking about it with her, then even if she doesn't give in, tell her you're doing it anyways.
Good luck, and congradulations on making the team!

Answer 3

Looks like you could spend a bit more time studying (poor spelling/grammar) instead of dribbling the ball. If you are living under your mother's roof, you have to abide by her wishes. When you're an adult, you can do it the right way. Too bad you didn't get dealt a permissive mother.

Answer 4

Let your mom read your complaint you just wrote here, and allow her to read the responses too.

In todays society, YOUR MOM should be PROUD and HAPPY that you have GOALS!!

What you need to do, is let her know you could be out there doing drugs, pimpin yourself, being a loser..............................AND she's TAKING your decent goals and shutting them down!!

YOUR MOM best open her eyes when it comes to child raiseing.......any time we get goals from OUR children, we're to JUMP on it and let it ride!!

Your mom needs to be so proud of you, instead of shutting you down.
Wish I could help..............have her email me:
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I raised 4 children as a single parent, alone and I'm so Proud of all of my children. I let them follow their dreams, and they all graduated!!!

Answer 5

ask her why she wants you not to participate. Tell her that kids that are in sports are healthier and tend not to smoke, drink or engage in sexual behaviour.

keep your grades up.

Answer 6

tell her no