Family & Relationships - 29 December 2007

My husband and me just got married in October, but we have been living together since last December and had our son in June.. so you can say we never really got to have the newlywed moment. We are fighting a lot (mostly small but today one large fight), and I know everyone says that the first year of marriage is the hardest but how was everyone else's experience? Today's large fight came down to him saying that he doesn't know if he loves me anymore, and I am not sure what to do. I love him with all my heart, and I try to show him when I can (when my 6-mth-old and his work/sleep schedule allows me). We have had 4 fights that have came down to us almost ending, but we have always worked through it and were fine after that. This is our first big fight while married, and I am worried that if these large fights continue that we could end in divorce because he doesn't think that this is normal. When things are good with us, it is nice.. it just isn't when it's going bad.

Any suggestions?

2007-12-29 15:41:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My friend just passed away on Christmas day.
and everything I try to do to take my mind off him brings it back to him, and horrible thoughts.
I try to listen to music to try to alter my mood, but it just seems to get worse..
Anyone have any advice?

2007-12-29 15:40:51 · 6 answers · asked by [♥] 1 in Friends

i dated this guy for 5 years and he cheated on me with my best friend she ended up pregnant. he begged me for over a year to take him back. i wouldn't but i did continue to slep with him. the other woman moved with the child out of state and he was torn up about it and he asked me what to do. i told him to follow his child. while he was living out of state he called me about once or twice a week always telling me he loves me. i told him to stop saying that and he asked me why and i told him that love was gone from our relationship the day she took the pregnancy test. well about two years ago he married her. he said he did it for the child. a year ago they moved back and we continued sleeping together . the problem is i am pregnant and am so confused. i have not told him yet. i do still love him but the other woman will always be in the picture. help!

2007-12-29 15:40:37 · 19 answers · asked by adk_in_ar 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I live in Tx and my 14 year old daughter step daughter asked me and her father if she could come live with us? of course we told her YES but we wanted to know why, and she told us that she is always confined to her room and if she goes into other rooms her step dad yells and tells her to go back to her room because him and her mother are talking and she is interrupting. He will also sometimes tell her that she is not invited in there. Her mom & step father always make her do the laundry and housework and tells her 10 year old sister that it is there job because they go to work to pay bills.

We got asked this Thanksgiving and we have asked the 14 yr old to be sure this is what she wanted. We went to an attorney and they said it would not be a problem at all it is the daughters choice. The daughter said she was 100% sure and is now very excited and already talking about things. I do not want her to be disappointed if anything happens and it does not go in our favor!! Could it?

2007-12-29 15:39:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Ok, so am in high school. I met his guys and we became frinds for a year now. I want you to understand that he like-alomost the cutest guy in the skool ( small school) and he kind of cokc. Any way, through last year he atced like a complete jerk at times. and this year i just had enough so i wrote hime this letter sayiing EVERTHING that i dilike about him. Alos, my mother called his mom saying that i've been crying over him. And not onl that but he has a gilrfriend who is in a highrer grade who now think s that am jealous out her( but am really not) and not only that but i use to have sort of a lil crush on him..now we barely talk but i dont want this tension between us to be there. Plus i kno w that he's one of those guys who like guys casing after him..but i just regret doing what i said and rightnow i dont know what to do :(. What do you think is going on in his mind. His mom said that in his house he aslways talks about me too..i dont know how to take that

2007-12-29 15:37:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im a pretty girl trying to get through college and i dnt have time 2 hold down a 9-5 so dnt judge me just help me find the richest bacholers that dont mind spending like hey should!

2007-12-29 15:37:02 · 9 answers · asked by la la 2 in Singles & Dating

and he is really cute and stuff and like we smile when we pass eachother but how do i make it go further i want him to do seomthing!!!

2007-12-29 15:35:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-29 15:34:10 · 3 answers · asked by Romeo 3 in Singles & Dating

I always just said thank you because that's how I respond to compliments but I think this is a special case because he should only be complimenting his wife. What's a good response that would make him stop?

2007-12-29 15:29:37 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

cause I can't love what iz love mortalzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz bwahahahahaha

2007-12-29 15:29:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I can't talk to just anyone about this and my husband don't understand, so I was hoping to talk to someone that might understand marriage in the sexual nature, and someone that understands Fibromyalgia.

2007-12-29 15:23:39 · 6 answers · asked by hwyshoney_2000 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I just turned 18 a few weeks ago, and he just turned 23. We have known eachother for about 4 years, and have been really good friends, and we have been dating for about 6 months. He is stationed in Cali, and I live in New York. We are from the same town, that's how we know each other. So anyway, he is here on vacation, and his friend Stephanie flew up from North Carolina to see him for a week, and he is here for only a week. He says he has to hang out with her on New Years because she has no one, but we planned this vacation for us. I feel like she is invading, and I don't feel like I am over-reacting. He got here today, and we hung out, and she flies in tomorrow. She leaves the 5th, he leaves the 6th. So far, he is spending every single day with her, and only coming out here on the 2nd. Am i wrong for feeling like she is invading and am I wrong for being angry?

2007-12-29 15:22:08 · 1 answers · asked by Celia 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-29 15:21:31 · 45 answers · asked by toonice 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-29 15:21:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

what is your favorite photo from your wedding day? was it posed? caught in the moment? at the church?
why is it your favorite?

2007-12-29 15:20:02 · 7 answers · asked by xtcwmeg 3 in Weddings

i like this girl alot and iwas jus lookin for a song that i could like dedicate to that or somthin that smular to falling in love with someone and then somthin split you apart...i kno it sound stupied but i dotn kno somethin bout that girl i jsu want a song thats kind of simular to that ok thanx..._ im 15)

2007-12-29 15:19:26 · 18 answers · asked by wrtaft33 1 in Singles & Dating

can anyone tell me how a 19yr old good looking male can become a porn star in nyc. how do u go about it ? what are the steps ? where do u go ?

2007-12-29 15:18:21 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

and he sent me a naughty nude pic of himself, do i have the right to show othres this pic too? can i post it on my blog or elsewhere online with his username on it. I also know him offline and think I might try posting it up as a flu=yer in the local gay bar. Is this wrong or, since it is my pics folder on my laptop, i have a right to use it as i please. He does have a pic of my face and bra. I feel he may use my pic however he wants, as i am sure he does, if u know what i mean.

2007-12-29 15:17:55 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

http://i225.photobucket.com/albums/dd287/anagavalda109/Photo4.jpg
This has bad lighting, but you get the idea.
I'm really scared that I'm not pretty enough to be choosy with men.
I'm one of those unfortunate looking women who are stylish and really smart and from a good family--meaning that I do want someone on my level in terms of profession and smarts.
But I'm really young and really scared and so very sad. I've been depressed since I was 13 and I think my life has no point if I'm never going to be happy or satisfied with love.
I'm really in need of help. I have pinpointed an area of plastic surgery which I would benefit from--eye-lid surgery and a nose job, but that is for when I'm a little older.
I'm a totally screwed? Am I not pretty enough for someone decently attractive or should I just learn to live with myself for the rest of my lonely workaholic life?

2007-12-29 15:17:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I mean I like other kind of men but i'm more attracted to asians.

2007-12-29 15:15:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My best guy friend and I fell in love with eachother (we are mid 20s) a few months ago and have now been in a relationship for two months. I still feel in love with him, but I just don't feel like the relationship is working out and I'm not sure if I want the relationship anymore. Are these normal feelings? Have you ever felt that even though you still love someone that you don't feel like the relationship is worth it and that it is too much battle to withstand?

2007-12-29 15:11:28 · 7 answers · asked by Tiffany H 1 in Singles & Dating

guys- what do u look for in women?
gals- what can i do to show my crush i like him?

2007-12-29 15:10:35 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have alreadly attempted to call it quits but he begged me not to leave..I stayed. Im bored with him..what can i do?

2007-12-29 15:10:35 · 1 answers · asked by atoctod 1 in Singles & Dating

I mean I see these people at my church who are so happily married and I am so wanting the same. I feel so unworthy to men. I mean no man wants a overweight woman. Face it!!! It doesn't matter if I have a good heart or not. Men look only on the outside of a woman. I am getting really tired of it too. It just isn't right. I try so hard not to let it get to me but it does. I talk to my friends but it seems I just get over this hump with this on teh way I feel. I feel so alone. ALL the time!! I know this is a pity pot but it gets unbearable sometimes.

I am just venting, Thanks for listening

2007-12-29 15:08:57 · 25 answers · asked by conny 6 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-29 15:04:46 · 17 answers · asked by teetiemom 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My wedding is coming up soon and My fiance and I both decided that we will just look together for our wedding bands and we want to get them engraved with something special..I got my band from macy's because it was on sale, but I don't know where to get it engraved at? Any suggestions on where to get it engraved at and how much does this cost? I live in around philly if this helps..TY!

2007-12-29 15:03:31 · 2 answers · asked by lilly 3 in Weddings

My bf wants to kiss me but im really nervous?? Any surgestions for the first kiss? tongue??? ahh!! I have asked this before but i still need surgestions..cheeks or lips?? and we are always with his freinds..is it a good idea to be alone?? He always touches my butt..is that bad?? What should i do back....???

2007-12-29 15:01:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i think i really hate my dad...
about a month or so ago, my dad my diagnosed with serverre emphasyma, from smoking, the doctor told him that he had to quit smoking and he had to use oxygen. my dad quit smoking and he used the oxygen, for only a month. and then a few days ago he started smoking again. i got very mad/upset with him and i told him that i hated him and i hope he dies. at first i thought i didnt mean it, i tryed to apoligize to him but he told me that i wasnt really sorry, and he told me that i had to leave until i learned to be "nice and respectful" towards him. that made me even more angry at him.. for the past 2 days i have been staying at my moms boss' house, thinking about everything that happend, and i realized that i think i really do hate my dad and i meant everything i said. and i have the grudge against him, i cant stand to look at him or hear him or anything....i dont want to hate my dad, how can i let go of this grudge?
(sorry about the spelling mistakes)

2007-12-29 14:56:07 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Some of you may have read my other posts...My BF is a decent guy, but he just does not get my motor going. What can I do to turn this around??
Has anyone out there been able to make the physical attraction happen?

2007-12-29 14:55:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

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I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. I absolutely love everything about him except how he handles money. About a year ago we laid everything out on the line about our future. One of the things we discussed was money. It turns out that he was about $20,000 in debt (credit card) which shocked the heck out of me!
He owns his own condo and has a roommate. His roomate gives him $400 for rent ( believe his mortgage is $1200) his roommate does not pay him utilities (which I think would help big time!- he's too afraid to ask now because he has lived with him for 3 years and he's afraid he might altogether move out. The $400 a month really helps.)
My concern is that I truly do see a great future with him. I am in no position to move in or get married just yet. I would like to start/finish grad school. I hope to start school next fall and the program is 2 years long-very intense and you cannot work. If I cannot work I obviously can't contribute financially to a marraige- so I plan on waiting to advance our relationship further until I am finished with school.
I realize that he has plenty of time to change. His consolidated his credit card and is really trying to save money (though he hasn't). With his work schedule he cannot go back to school and persue another career at this time. He has too much to pay for. I don't mind helping him out but I am so sick of paying for everything because he doesn't have any money. -- does that sound bitchy?
The other day I looked at his cable bill and he pays over $140 a month for cable and internet! I think that's outrageous. I know he can get that for cheaper.
How do I express my feelings about money without hurting his feelings? I know that money is a really touch subject in relationships- I do make more than he does.
What should I do?

2007-12-29 14:49:57 · 3 answers · asked by CJ 1 in Singles & Dating