My friend just passed away on Christmas day.
and everything I try to do to take my mind off him brings it back to him, and horrible thoughts.
I try to listen to music to try to alter my mood, but it just seems to get worse..
Anyone have any advice?
2007-12-29 15:40:51 · 6 answers · asked by [♥] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, let yourself mourn and think about him. Think about not only the sad times, but the happy ones too. Make up a memory book or box. You can get a shoe box and decorate it and put everything you want of him in there, pictures, notes from him, printed out e-mails, prayer card from his funeral, his obituary, etc. The reason you can't stop thinking about him is because you're not through mourning. It happened less than a week ago. You can allow yourself more time. If you really think it's still consuming you after a few more weeks, look into seeing a counselor. Sometimes they have free ones at school if you're a studen or contact your church for a referral.
I'm so sorry for your loss. God bless you.
2007-12-29 15:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Grandfather just died on the 23rd, we were very close so I can appreciate what you're going through. Not thinking about someone that we've lost would be disrespectful to their memory. Instead think about all of the great things that person did during their life. In time our wounds will heal and we'll be able to accept our loses, but for now just try to think about the good things and not your friends passing. Also, remember that being sad about it isn't a bad thing; it's the first step toward acceptence.
2007-12-29 23:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by shaun1986 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is definately hard. My grandmother that raised me passed suddenly with a brain tumor and I still to this day think about her and cry but I know she would want me to not be sadden by her loss. So I usually just do things around the house or go for a drive and think about all the memories we made while she was here with me and I know right now she is happy in heaven with all her family and friends that I have seen her cry at there funerals. So she is still with me just in a different world right now and I want to live a happy life and when i do pass i will be with her and can share my life with her and she can tell me hers.
Hang in there it will get better.
2007-12-29 23:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. My aunt recently died a couple weeks ago and it really hit me. But you've just got to move on. Just think about how much fun they're having in heaven, with God and Jesus and everyone else.
They would want you to be happy, so do something to honor them and cherish yourself. Have fun tomorrow, hang out with some friends. Or if you're just staying home, listen to your music.... and rock out. ANd if you can't stop thinking about them, try to think of happy thoughts.
Because that's what they would want. :)))
xoxo
2007-12-29 23:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out with friends and family in order to keep your mind off of it...sorry about your friend! Time heals all.
2007-12-29 23:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by prairiefire_14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Denying reality" says it all.
Why not embrace the joy he brought into your life.
Forgetting him isn't doing him any honor.
2007-12-29 23:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by dude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋