Should a man put his wife before the kids or the kids before the wife?

Answer 1

both never chose one over the other

Answer 2

It would depend on the situation. If the wife were harming the children in any way, then the kids first definitely. Turned the other way around in my situation, and the child first for his own protection. I find that parents in a loving situation seem to be able to balance these things out. Perhaps if you gave a little detail, your question could be answered better. Children are so innocent and vulnerable, and in a good situation, the children and women are loved in different and some of the same ways.

If this a situation where a woman is pregnant, and it is suggested having a baby would kill her, then that should be her call with all your support behind her, or if this is a situation where she is having say four children, and saving one or two children will help your wife and the other children to be born healthy and fine, then that's another dilemma. I have a friend who suffered a very difficult pregnancy, knowing that she could loose the child and also endanger herself. She told me that she would let this child in her womb go because she already had a child that needed her everyday, and a husband that needed her. However, she had her baby and they are all wonderful!

Perhaps you should sit down and talk to your wife about who she puts first, or how you guys can balance this all out. It depends if this is a healthy situation or a unhealthy one that has led you to ask this question. I hope you find the answer to your ?. It'll take some soul searching, most likely, since you can't decide for yourself. Is there someone you respect in your everyday life you could talk to about this? Is there something in particular that has led you to ask this question in the first place? Good luck, and have a happy 2008.

Answer 3

Depends on the circumstances. If the child is hurt and needs attention (like a kiss on the knee), then I'd say child. But if it's just an ordinary day, the wife needs to come first (just as the husband should come before the kids) because it's very healthy for the kids to see that you love and support each other. That's going to give any kid a sense of security, even if it means that they come second.

Answer 4

It depends. The wife should be first because you are setting an example for your kids but kids are still very important. I would say they are about equal but everything a man does for his wife will be looked upon by the kids as an example.

Answer 5

This is a tricky question. A good man will always love his wife and children more than anything else but the wife is the partner and it should always be known to the kids that, otherwise, especially if they are older, they will try to play you for one another! I believe if you have an amazing and close relationship with your partner, you will always have one with your children. The parents getting along lovingly and having respect for each other is the best thing that you can do for your kids.

Answer 6

It goes without saying that children need to be cared for.

To keep a marriage intact, which in fact is better for the children, the couple relationship must be maintained.

It is a serious error to put the children first. The couple came first and needs to stay that way for the children to have that home which is so lacking in this world.

It does not take long on this post to understand how many marriages are lost because the parents put thier children before thier marraige. How often do parents end up wondering who this person they are married to is. It is due to neglect of the relationship.

Take care of the couple and there will be plenty of care available for the kids.

Answer 7

You shouldn't have to choose. Husband and wife are the parents to the children, the children need both parents. It should all be the same. You should love the kids and the wife, the love is different for the wife but doesn't mean that she should be treated unequal to the children.

Answer 8

A wife's needs, are different than a child's needs ... so it would depend on the situation.

It would also depend on the age of the kids. For example .. a 3 year old child would have to have their parents ... where a 33 year old would not.

A man should put his wife first when the kids are grown & gone.

Baby children, have to have help .. and the parents are responsible.

Answer 9

am not sure but i know that the man is the head of the household and both husband and wife should put the kids first. you marry your wife but you and your wife created your kids so you two have a responsibility to put them first and you made that decision clear when you started a family.

Answer 10

Husband and wife come before the kids. The parents are the leaders. If they do not replenish themselves then the kids dont anything. Happy parents - make happy kids. That creates stability which makes kids feel safe.

And not to judge but some would say that idea of kids being the light of all things in the parents life is where the self-centeredness comes from in adults.

Answer 11

Happy kids come from happy parents...like the "cow" commercial, LOL. Children will grow, meet their better half, and make a life of their own before you even notice is happening. Men and women who focus their entire life and energy to their kids and relegate their spouses, in the end, wind up alone, bitter and forgotten. If you make your wife happy, you'll have the happiest kids on the block...the formula doesn't fail.