How can I make myself attractive?

Question

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I'm really scared that I'm not pretty enough to be choosy with men.
I'm one of those unfortunate looking women who are stylish and really smart and from a good family--meaning that I do want someone on my level in terms of profession and smarts.
But I'm really young and really scared and so very sad. I've been depressed since I was 13 and I think my life has no point if I'm never going to be happy or satisfied with love.
I'm really in need of help. I have pinpointed an area of plastic surgery which I would benefit from--eye-lid surgery and a nose job, but that is for when I'm a little older.
I'm a totally screwed? Am I not pretty enough for someone decently attractive or should I just learn to live with myself for the rest of my lonely workaholic life?

And I know I've asked this before.
Listen, I'm an emotionally abused girl and I just want different opinions.

Answer 1

you have a very pretty face and gorgeous smile. im not just saying that to be nice, i'm pretty brutally honest =)

you don't need any surgery. what you can do is get a haircut, highlights and spruce up your wardrobe for a self esteem boost.

an attactive guy would def. like you but he'll notice you more if you just are stylish (IDK how you dress, just giving an example) and confident. you dont have to settle for ugly guys <3

Answer 2

Who you are inside is what really determines ones beauty. How do you feel as a person? If you feel good about yourself on the inside, you will reflect that on the outside.
In regards to the hair....make a special day for you, take a friend or two, hit the salon and see what fun ways you can make yourself over. Braces are not ugly....and the zits, go away....drink lots of water, eat healthy and exercise. In between, try a combination of gentle cleansing scrubs that are non-abrasive non-oily and be good to yourself! No guy/girl is worth a negative image of your own self-perception!! Best wishes! STAY BEAUTIFUL.

Answer 3

When I feel unattractive, I hit the beauty salon! Go all the way! Nails, haircut, highlites, waxing, facial. I get a glycolic peel done once a month, makes my face look beautiful! If you're feeling pretty on the outside, you'll feel pretty on the inside. Oh, and don't forget some sexy new clothes to go with the new look!

Answer 4

Well, their are numerous ways. I think everyone is beautiful (Yes, i know right?) and you shouldn't be worried so much about your appearance. Just think about it, if you became "model" pretty or whatever you want to call it, and you fell in love with this gorgeous guy, got married, etc..what's gonna happen when you get older? People need to learn that personality is what matters, because if you're only looking for looks, what's gonna happen when you began getting grey hair, and wrinkles?

Answer 5

You are a beautiful young lady. Don't you dare get plastic surgery! In my opinion no need for it. I suspect your depression is getting the best of you. Seek counseling or therapy. No, I'm not saying get on meds or anything like that you need someone to talk to about these issues and get to the bottom of what is really bringing you down.

Answer 6

I looked at the picture. You are attractive. You aren't truly beautiful because you have not chosen to bring out your true beauty. It is inside of you waiting for a chance to emerge. But I see lots of potential with very little change.

Watch some of the makeover shows on TV if you can. You would learn that they look for your good features and try to emphasize them, to direct attention away from any negative features. Your smile looks very nice, very pleasant. That's a good feature. Your eyes are nice, too. Learn how to apply a subdued makeup. Your hair can be similar to how you have it but with just a little more work to keep it as a "frame" for your face (as opposed to a veil).

You mentioned that you have been abused? That is the source of your fear. Someone you trusted betrayed that trust. It is not uncommon for you to feel the way you describe. I cannot give you professional advice on this exact topic because I'm the "wrong" kind of doctor for your situation. Seek a therapy group or a woman's outreach center or a community center function that deals with abuse. You need to get over the side-effects (and natural ones, at that) of your past experiences. You would be surprised how even a little therapy can help.

I'll share something with you. I went through a phase when I feared I would never find love. Some bullies at school were very mean to me when I was quite young - and I bought into their crud. It took me a long time to realize that they were pitching crud rather than truth. It isn't as extreme as your case, but the point is that you can have feelings of being unworthy and all it does is make you sadder. It is the SADNESS ITSELF that keeps some people away. Sort of like a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I would put off surgery until after you clear out your head of the negativity. You should be quite capable of love, but the natural response to betrayal of trust is reluctance to trust again. And THAT is coloring your life negatively. You see yourself in a bad light because you have issues left over that you don't need to keep.

As to your appearance, don't worry. You've got what it takes with very little change required to go from attractive to darned pretty. If I weren't already married and about three times older than you, Hell, I'd look you up myself.

One more word of advice. Because of your special history of betrayal of trust, you need to not rush into any relationship. Building trust takes time. Give yourself that time with ANY guy who interests you. Don't give in to despair. Don't give in to hormones. Don't give in to fear. Do give yourself time to adjust to the changes that can/will occur once you learn how to trust again.

Answer 7

what are you talking about? your pretty enough to be a celebrity!!!! I dont know, I get lots of guys liking me but it's never the guys i like.... Everytime I like a guy and confess to him, none of them ever liked me back!!! But your just too young right now, some people wont have a sweet heart until college (I still dont have one....><) and there are okay looking girls that have boy friends by 6th grades.... Just wait a little...^^

If you feel discourage about you looks, just put on really nice clothes, change your hair style, and maybe a little make up...^^

Answer 8

You look pleasant, or ordinary.
You might want to try your your hair a little longer than shoulder length. If you want to feel more confident and glow a bit, try a little make up.

Answer 9

u r pretty...good looking girl u just need to be confident always think that ur pretty and hot....try to color ur hair (high lite) a little make up and hair cut that more layers....
i always said that to myself even im not one too...but i feel beautiful now no matter what othe ppl say iam beautiful....
gud luck

Answer 10

I dont know who told you you werent attractive but they are wrong. A guy is not worth going for if they dont like you for who you are and what you look like. If they dont think you are pretty enough then he is a jerk.