My best guy friend and I fell in love with eachother (we are mid 20s) a few months ago and have now been in a relationship for two months. I still feel in love with him, but I just don't feel like the relationship is working out and I'm not sure if I want the relationship anymore. Are these normal feelings? Have you ever felt that even though you still love someone that you don't feel like the relationship is worth it and that it is too much battle to withstand?
2007-12-29 15:11:28 · 7 answers · asked by Tiffany H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it a week or so.
After 32 years I am still hot for my man. Things change and run warm to hot but never cold. You should feel like you always want to be with them.
Mid 20's is still young. You may not be ready yet.
2007-12-29 15:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ ♥ C.J. ♥ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. It happens to everyone, I think. I can't even think of the amount of times I've felt like throwing my partner out, but I haven't because I know I don't really want to. ;) I recommend you go and read some books on relationships, they will present different situations for you to consider. Some things will make you say "Der, doesn't everyone know that?" Other things will make you say "Oh, that's us! Is that why this is happening!!"
It sounds like you are moving out of the honeymoon stage. This is good, because it means you are on your way to a deeper more permanent sort of love. Having been friends for so long, the honeymoon stage will be shorter than it might otherwise have been, because you know each other so well. Read the books. There are lots of little problems that can trip us up if we don't know a) they are there, and b) how to negotiate them. My guess is that things have become a little bit too routine and you're getting bored. Tell him you feel your relationship has stagnated a bit, but the cure is for him to take you on a spectacular date in a fortnight's time. If he asks why a fortnight, tell him he needs time to organise a fantastic date, and you need to find a gorgeous new outfit. If he is silly enough to ask you where you want to go, tell him it's his responsibility to organise, and your sister/best friend is waiting to hear how great the date was, and you won't have a story to tell if you organise it yourself.
2007-12-29 23:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, yes, I certainly have had those feelings. First, talk with him about the relationship. Tell him the truth. Then, ask how he feels. If you are happy with him, don't blow it. Find a way to talk through the relationship and work things out.
2007-12-29 23:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suppose the question really is why do you feel this way??? --- what has happened??? ---- you both need to decide what is the most important thing at the moment --- your relationship or other things external --- and yes any relationship can be worth fighting for if thats what you both want ---- best wishes
2007-12-29 23:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to see how you feel in a few weeks. Your feelings in a relationship fluctuate quite a bit.
2007-12-29 23:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by cody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are not meant for each other. You can't make the relationship work if you're not feeling it. When you're in doubt like this, just leave.
2007-12-29 23:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by gm0nk3y 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm feeling it now after 7 yrs and he also was my best friend thru out highschool.......lets c where we end
2007-12-29 23:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋