Family & Relationships - 16 December 2007

in love with family members

2007-12-16 20:40:37 · 11 answers · asked by ndr_meriweather 1 in Family

ok, this is gonna be kind of long, so u all know.
so, recently, my girlfriend who i loved more than life broke up with me. i seemed to have gotten over her. but now, we are just like normal friends. but everytime i read something she sent me, like love notes and stuff, i cry from missing her so much.
since then, ive been hangiing out with this other girl who i was told had a crush on me. last night, i tried to ask her out, but she said that she would, and shes sorry, but shes got a bit too much going on now to have a boyfriend. i asked her, "maybe in the future?" and she was like yeah. ive really started to like her now too.
ok, well, now for the question. i know why my old gf broke up with me, and i know i can fix it. so i was wondering, should i ask for a second chance with my old gf, or wait and see what happens with this other girl? any advice at all is greatly appreciated.
thank you in advance

2007-12-16 20:37:28 · 21 answers · asked by Roxas 1 in Singles & Dating

I am only talking to you cos I can't see you.

2007-12-16 20:34:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-16 20:34:43 · 13 answers · asked by green5storm2 1 in Singles & Dating

and could you please also tell me why? thanks.

2007-12-16 20:34:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My boyfriend gave me a promise ring, but ever time that I bring up weddings, or us getting married, he kinda changes the subject. Why? I have told him I want a nice wedding, not something too expensive, and not something to simple ( like a beach wedding ). I want to be able to invite over all my family and I am mexican, so I have a lot of relatives. Could the expensises be scaring him away? But I am a girl... it is every girls dream to have a nice wedding, RIGHT???

2007-12-16 20:34:21 · 10 answers · asked by Agabo#11 1 in Weddings

my step father is real funny when his is sleep beacuse he gets up and starts to scream,runs around and starts to fight the air. At the same time im also kinda scared because he might hurt me or my mom one day. Plz tell me what a can do

2007-12-16 20:28:12 · 4 answers · asked by dre 1 in Family

She considers it cheating or being unfaithful and wants nothing to do with me anymore. I am not going to do it anymore but now she isnt wanting me sexually anymore and thats causing me worse problems since im not watching porn and relieving myself its building up and she isnt here for me anymore...im frustrated...and i wont go back to it because it will only make things worse then it already is...how do i get her over this and want to be with me again...

2007-12-16 20:23:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My paychecks went to groceries, bills, and entertainment. His went to furniture, investments, HIS credit card bills. Now I'm at a loss for any proof that anything is even half mine.

Not living where I want to live. Desperately want to move. Tired of being treated like a barefooted slave. If food isn't on the table, it's the end of the world. If the weekend doesn't involve HIS plans for a good time, its the end of the world.

I don't remember the last time we even did something I want to do. Want to move, want to live on my own, but still love him. Afraid to abandon him. Afraid to be on my own as well (even though I KNOW I could make it and succeed far better than he could).

Any advice, helpful or not, silly or serious, whatever you got. You all know that ONE word can trigger a thousand thoughts. Many thanks in advance. Cheers to my friends in the UK.

Merry Christmas!

2007-12-16 20:21:44 · 18 answers · asked by Emily Chicago 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-16 20:17:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My mother would always complain that I don't help out much. Today, just hoping to please her, I did help out. But I had no idea that there was wine in the plastic bag I was carrying. I was about to place it on the counter but since the plastic bag came from the floor of the car, I figured it must be dirty so I placed it on the chair. It rolled and it fell and I broked the wine.

My mother was so mad she cursed me. I was hurt. On top of that, she said I was being irresponsible and stupid when I explained that I expected wine bottles in a box. Not in a plastic bag!

Was I wrong. I'm really hurt. I want to cry. All I wanted to do was please her.

2007-12-16 20:17:11 · 6 answers · asked by Pmel 2 in Family

I am a young single mom with a almost 5 yr old daughter. Me and her dad are not together since years ago, he has moved on and gotten married and divorced, but between us there is no chance of reconcile. For me I find it hard to move on and fall in love with someone else, there is a part of me who feels guilty when it comes to falling in love, i feel I have no right to have a boyfriend that I would be doing wrong if I do have one or fall in love..what can I do to make myself feel that its ok to move on and take away those feelings of guilt?

2007-12-16 20:14:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If you are single, do you hope to find someone in the new year?

2007-12-16 20:12:10 · 21 answers · asked by ? 3 in Singles & Dating

WILL A GUY WITH A LOT OF EXPERIENCE KNOW IF I PUT FAKE BLOOD AFTER SEX ??
CAN YOU DO THIS AND PUT IT IN THE SHEETS OR IS THERE A WAY YOU CAN TELL BECAUSE THERE IS NO BLOOD IN HIS CONDOM???
I REALLY NEED TO FIGURE OUT HOW I WILL DO THIS OR ELSE I CAN GET KILLED AND NO, THERE IS NO OTHER OPTIONS SO PLEASE STICK TO MY QUESTION AND HELP ME!!!!

2007-12-16 20:10:21 · 16 answers · asked by shiri 1 in Singles & Dating

I just get that vibe from most asian girls I know.

Are they into the same things sexually? I guess I'm just clueless when it comes to asian sex customs. Masturbation?

This is just based on what I have observed. I also have never come across an asian girl that I thought was interested in me as a BF or sexual relationship.

2007-12-16 20:10:00 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok... I'm In So Over My Head.... I had this boyfriends James** for just over a year, we both decided we were better of as friends and we stayed best friends, about a month after we split I started seeing one of his mates Andy**, he said he was fine with it and we stayed best friends me and Andy** have been together a year and a half now, I never really got over James** he was my first love and I just thought it was normal... The other day me and James** were out and we talked for about 2 hours, I have began to develop very strong feelings for James** and he likes me too but what about Andy**? I don't want to leave Andy who I Love for a filling, but I don't think it is fair to be with him if I like some one else!!!
Help!!
There is also one other thing they are really good mates they both work together and they play football together on saturday and sunday!!! They see each other all the time...
** changed names...

2007-12-16 20:08:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met a friend with a girl yesterday.
He was my closed friend few months ago. I kept some secret from him, and he misunderstanding that I had changed. We end up with arguments. We had not contact each other anymore.
How am I going to say to him that I am still the one that he knows?
I can’ tell him the secret because this is going to hurt him much.I can only keep it for myself..how???

2007-12-16 20:04:41 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am in love with a woman that I can not have which she is married with children. She is not happy in her marriage as the reason we sneak around to see each other. We have not have sex since seeing each other for the past month.

She says if she gets involved with me she will loose everything. We still see each other only if I insist. I leave notes of kindness for her but the last few notes she have ignored them. We work 3rd shift together and once that end she will go back to first shift and I may not see her again.

I am not sure if she is confused as to what she wants. I know she loves her children but not her situation. She seems to be doing everything on her own and never mentions her husband.

She is a beautiful and kind woman and I do not know what to do. I came to her second job at the advise of my friend and I believe that was a mistake.

How do a win a woman (hispanic) that is uncertain of things in her life. I will see her tomorrow night, what shoudl I do or say.

2007-12-16 20:01:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i have one on my side ;but i need another .

2007-12-16 20:01:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'm 25 weeks pregnat now but I broke up with the father of the baby because he wanted to sleep with other people but still wanted to see me.. Well I called my mom and she helped me pack up and move in with my family.. Well a few days later I went over to talk to him and we desided we wanted to work on thing because 3.5yrs together was hard for either of us to throw away...
Well I got pregnat the doc said was a week after I left him... We have been working on things and I found out alot of stuff I didn't want to know about with him... He says his changing thing for me and he has changed something but I still don't trust him...
But right now his my only option to move out of my parents and quit smoking and so my babies not around 2nd hand smoke..
My 16yrs sister told me she doesn't care about the baby and wants nothing to do with it and my parents don't want to be at the hospital that day because his parents are there.. All because they treat him like trash even before this all happened.

2007-12-16 20:00:31 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

The short and skinny of my situation is that I have a slight addition to pornography. I do not look at it often but every once in a while I will click on a website that I know about to see, lack of a better word, what is new. I have never tried to seek satisfation elsewhere but I do find myself pulled to this world. I have, not that it is a valid reason, been able to track the episodes to points where levels of stress are elevated and sexual relations have decreased between my wife and I. I have made major improvements in the amount that I use to watch but I have not been able to completely remove it from my life (either through spam or easy access to free sites).

Now that you know some of the history of my situation. I know that I have stumbled (and I do every 1-2 yrs) but does this make bad Husband and partner. There is nothing else that I do that one would view as unfaithful. Am I wrong and to what level would you consider it?

2007-12-16 19:59:57 · 13 answers · asked by ChaRiaLer 4 in Marriage & Divorce

The ones who REALLY ARE miserable with thier wives, and they REALLY ARE stuck. and they REALLY DO wish they could dump thier wives for you? many say its an excuse, a lie,b ut arent there some situations where theyre telling the truth? if so, how do u know the difference?

2007-12-16 19:59:07 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He acts like he likes me but he doesnt really. He sleeps about..hes even that desperate for some that he sleeps with the females staff at his army college! (but im not meant to know) ..He flirts with me in texts and when we're together he kisses me loadsss!! Even down my body and things go a bit further haha (NOT ALL THE WAY THOUGH) But anyways is he just a playa? I like him sooooooooo much && its like no matter what I do I cant get over him. He'll do something wrong and it some how turns round not to be his fault and I punish myself and he just traps me! Like the other day I asked him if he was out of army college this weekend..he said no and yet he went to meet my friend && her boyfriend (hes best friends with her boyfriend) and I went maddd thinking he lied to me! ..Turns out he was only allowed out for the day so I got mad at myself and jus pigged out loads && now I feel fat!

2007-12-16 19:57:54 · 10 answers · asked by Yorkshire Gurlie ♥ 3 in Singles & Dating

A while back I was talking to my GF and she mentioned offhand that years back she was doing something on her step-fathers computer she found BDSM/bondage stories he had written.. and then later pieced together that her mother (whos dead now) and this guy were doing that kind of stuff together. Am I wrong to be a little weirded out by this?

First off no, i'm not a prude and I realize this isnt so uncommon these days..but come on, the guy is in his 50's, thats just a little ****** up. He lives a normal life, works for a local supermarket, no one knows about that side of things.. if me and her had kids one day I don't think i'd want them going near him just on general principle.

Now i'm not saying that people who have unorthodox sexual practices are by nature prone to bad behavior but I just don't trust the guy at all after finding that out.. its like, if someone can have that whole secret life going on, what else are people hiding these days?

2007-12-16 19:57:14 · 12 answers · asked by Concerned 1 in Family

I have known this girl for a while now, and I know, deep down in my heart that I love her, and she loves me, but not the same way. She loves me as her best friend, and I am just so heartbroken, because for the first year, she led me on, and then she told me she didn't want to lose our friendship by dating me. I am about to give up on love altogether because everyday I wake up and feel a huge, empty hole in my stomach. I cry almost constant when I am home, and whenever I see her, her beautiful face reminds me how much I hurt, and it kills me even more. What should I do?

2007-12-16 19:56:36 · 5 answers · asked by matrix man 2 in Singles & Dating

I finally got into a relationship with this gal that i've a big crush on.Yeah,great..But after a date one day I noticed that she's got tattoos on her back and thigh..Argh,I dunno if i can accept that.I mean she's got a great body but all the tattoos are just a turn off.What do u guys think if u were in my situation?

2007-12-16 19:56:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a male close friend and well he invited me to attend a concert and also to go to an anime fair

i was unable to go with him to the above events but he invited me out again to accompany him to go around the mall and to watch a movie just the 2 of us

we met in front of the theater

I find him real cute

we met back in college, when he asked for my number he said would anyone get mad if I ask for your number?

plus he sends me sweet txt messages

can anyone pls tell me does he have feelings for me or am I just misreading his actions. he's a nice guy

2007-12-16 19:52:47 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I caught my boyfriend looking at porn on the internet. Is that weird? It makes me feel uncomfortable and I wonder why he does it. He says it's not a fantasy but it "recharges his batteries." Has anyone else been in this situation? We got in a fight last week but things are better now. Still, should I be worried? We've been dating for more than a year & a half, plus we live together. I guess I would feel better if he looked at it with me and not by himself.---Thanks in advance for your input.

2007-12-16 19:49:03 · 15 answers · asked by Steph 5 in Singles & Dating

Just to play Devil's Advocate here.

'Meeting' at first through email, then IM, and moving on to telephone conversations, at what point, if any, would you rely on your instincts about a someone you meet online?

Do you think older people tend to do less 'game playing' than younger people?

While bearing in mind that anyone can hide behind a computer, meeting someone in a pub or other public place for the first time is not much different, is it?

You still have to rely on what they tell you about themselves as being the truth, even with the benefit of 'reading' facial expression and body language.

If you did follow your instincts, did you find you were way off the mark when you actually met?

Or was there a point where your instincts told you something was wrong, and you later found out you were right?

And, finally, did you trust your instincts and find you were right to do so?

2007-12-16 19:46:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My mom cheated on my dad and I'm so angry at her, I feel like I never want to talk to her or see her again, but we're close. What should I do? This is the second time and I forgave her for the first time, she's also not being responsible when it comes to the younger kids in the family that need her. The holidays and are coming up so it's going to be really hard. What should I do? She can't keep doing this to my dad.

2007-12-16 19:43:36 · 10 answers · asked by Agnostic 4 in Marriage & Divorce