I caught my boyfriend looking at porn on the internet. Is that weird? It makes me feel uncomfortable and I wonder why he does it. He says it's not a fantasy but it "recharges his batteries." Has anyone else been in this situation? We got in a fight last week but things are better now. Still, should I be worried? We've been dating for more than a year & a half, plus we live together. I guess I would feel better if he looked at it with me and not by himself.---Thanks in advance for your input.
2007-12-16 19:49:03 · 15 answers · asked by Steph 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, I think it's weird for guys to look at porn when they are dating someone. My boyfriend went through a stage where he was always on the computer and I'd catch him looking at porn. It made me sick, and in a way hurt my feelings. Every time I would freak out on him, and he just got to the point where he'd hide it. Every once in a while, I will find a nasty dvd floating around, that magically appeared behind the couch or whatever. I think it would be better if you guys looked at it together. I think most men would get turned on watching it with someone their dating. If he doesn't like the idea of sharing his porn, I would start to get suspicious. Plus I've heard that crap can get addictive in an unhealthy way. Word from the wise: I wouldn't make too big a deal about it or he might start hiding it from you like mine does.
2007-12-16 20:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soon I will in 40s and watch it frequently.
I don't think there is anything to worry about it.
I think more than 95% of males do watch porn on Internet or on TV or PC.
My wife also does not feel comfortable with it but She doesn't take it very seriously also. She makes negative remarks when I try to show her some pics or pose, some time she likes it as well.
But overall there is nothing that you should be worry about it.
2007-12-16 20:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by ssd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Looking at porn is like trying to climb a slippery slope....it's addictive and unhealthy, especially for guys in relationships. The whole thing is problematic for the couple. I think that the sooner the guy gets off the slippery slope of porn the better off he and his gal will be!!!
2016-03-27 14:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by maketheworldturnaround 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal. Haven't you ever noticed a guy and thought he was hot? I'm a woman and *I* watch porn sometimes. I suggest that you accept it for a natural part of life, understand that it isn't wrong or unfaithful, and convey to him that you'd like to watch it with him. Trust me - most guys would LOVE to watch it with their girlfriends. It's all about exploring fantasies. Your boyfriend isn't Brad Pitt, and you aren't Jenna Jameson. But that doesn't mean you can't fantasize every once in a while. It's just fantasies, nothing more.
2007-12-17 18:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by Grace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a guy who used to watch porn, thats wierd
2015-05-13 06:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ben 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang on .. there is a BIG difference between looking at porn on the net and actually signing up to a dating service and talking and flirting with people etc ...
my partner looks at porn all the time, I have no problem with this .. i'd rather he did that than go out and actually do it with someone else ... it's natural .. i know he wouldn't go else where, I trust him and he knows that ..
But signing onto a dating thing and starting to talk and flirt with other men to make you jealous is a completely different kettle of fish .. that's the next level ... although you don't say where the porn was that you were looking at ..
I would say she's the one that's been unfaithful!!
2007-12-16 20:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by pipar_maru 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is Jennifers husband and I had a similar issue with my wife....I did it behind her back when we were fighting because I
wasnt going to get any love from her so
in my mind I thought it was ok to fantasize
and do my business without her.....boy
was I wrong...she was so pissed off and
hurt by it...and now I cant get her to forget it and get it out of her mind....she considered it cheating....so she said if you can do it i can...and signed up for a dating service and started looking at men...and talking to them right in front of me...i was so pissed off and hurt that she was doing that it made me think i guess its really no different....of course talking and flirting to them leads to actual contact and would be adultery...but in her mind she viewed it as adultery what i was doing...so since she did what she did it made me think and she was right....so i have stopped all porn and pleasing myself as a result of what she did.....now i have the scarrs that she has however because i wonder if she is still flirting and talking to these guys on this dating service behind my back......hence...what she felt am i still watching porn behind her back....its a vicious cycle i hope we can end now and move on.....i wish you luck...in general i only watched it when i was mad at her or lonely but isnt cheating done when your mad at someone or lonely....so the act in itself means you are causing him to be lonely or mad to do it.....its not right for him to do it...but try to get past the past and work to do things so it never happens again
2007-12-16 20:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is totally normal, i mean he's human.
It might be a little weird and since you say you live together im sure its not because you aren't giving him any.
Just talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. Maybe you can work things out and probably end up watching it together :)
Best of luck.
2007-12-16 19:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by xrobot.ambulancex 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think u would feel better if u were with him looking at this sh*t. I'm against it. My bf once told me that he looked at some pics at work cuz his co worker was showing them. I told him that I dont like it, and I hope he doenst look now. It is not normal, and it doesnt matter what they say. its just an excuse! Good luck
2007-12-16 19:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband did the same thing. I heard the same old " its a guy thing" excuse. until he got so bad he coudnt even have sex w/ me anymore and his whole world revolved around porn and he became a porn addict. I will NEVER be with another man who looks @ porn.
2007-12-16 19:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋