Family & Relationships - 13 December 2007

hi i have been married for the past 12 years and after a year of marriage i found out that he was wearing my under wear to get himself off and i thought it was just a thing and it would just go away but have just found out that he is doing it again and i am horrified that he is doing that he is not the man that i married and i can not look at him anymore it has hurt me in so many ways.for the people out there who think that what you are doing is not hurting anyone is just lying to them selfs and the longer you leave it to not tell them the more hurtful it is when they find out and believe me they will.as for me i really dont like the fact he kept it from me again and the fact that i cant trust him near my under wear and the fact that i have spent so much money to bye it then for him to take it and use it on himself really makes me sick to the stomach. but i cant leave him either.i am up in arms in what to do?or how to under stand it ?

2007-12-13 11:35:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my partner of 4yrs has been getting progressively sicker over the last 2 yrs. throughout the entire time I have been there to help and care for her. In the last month they finally found the cause of her illnesses and operated two days ago...three days before the operation she asked me stay with her until she was recovered from her operation then 2hrs later she tells me to get out of her life she does not want my help anymore.
The coincidence maybe is in that time she found out her best friend had split with her fiance cos he had cheated on her... our relationship was open strong and honest and still very sexual.. so I dont understand... Maybe someone out there can help explain it, she certainly wont.. I am very confused on this issue..

2007-12-13 11:35:46 · 4 answers · asked by boxa 1 in Singles & Dating

So im home alone as in right now!!! And there is a strange creepy guy wondering moutside of my house kind of!!!! What do i do should i trun a hole lot of lights on or turn offf every thing so it looks like nobodys home!!! HELP IM SCARED!!!!!

2007-12-13 11:35:45 · 6 answers · asked by dogsr4ever 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

The judge did not care that my ex's new husband is spanking, showering, and calling him daddy. No one in the county court system will help me. Who do I talk to next? I cant afford a attorney and I was ordered to pay my ex for her attorney fees and she drives a Escadle and lives in a 500,000. house I built. Im ready to pull my hair out, why is it only people with $$$$ get what they want in court. Exspecially when her parents are millionaires.

2007-12-13 11:35:39 · 10 answers · asked by dirk0069 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my dougter doesnt no how to make friends and to get kids to hang out with her by telling them that "WON A PRIZE" off the local radio station. She saves up her money and buys movie tickets and tells kids...Hey come hang out with me
"I GOT TICKETS" "I GOT TICKETS" will they use her and its NOT RIGHT, I want her to be normal about this. I think they are catching on to, becous she keeps saying this to the same kids but they keep pretending theat that she won a prize :(

Sad mom in AMERICA
Please give us adise on how to do this right??? HOW DO KIDS MAKE FRIENDS THAT ARE GOOD AND DON TAKE TO ADVANGAGE????

2007-12-13 11:35:04 · 22 answers · asked by ★ Vaginal Discount ★ 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I divorced my husband for many of the same reasons I see popping up with my current fiancee. Lack of communication, lack of regular sex, and parts of him that seem mysterious(which brings tears to my eyes, sometimes). Communication seems to be out, cause when I try to bring things up I get accused of disrespecting him. He does spend time and help out with finances for my son and I, but I need advice about what to do? The reasons for the divorce keep coming back now so maybe I am just seeing problems where none exist. We are both in our 30's. Things were different when this started. Like I found a soul mate. Is sex now once or twice a week lame for us? Is him practically living here except Thurs seem odd to anyone else? (When he goes home on a Thurs and I try to contact him he doesn't answer, then later calls and says he fell asleep.) I don't know..Again I stress bringing it up scares me, I think he has an angry side to him that I haven't seen yet.

2007-12-13 11:35:00 · 7 answers · asked by hljones1169 2 in Marriage & Divorce

he's talking to someone else and says, "he's totally in love with her... unfortunately"
and somehow you hear about it... What would be your reaction? Why do you think he added "unfortunately" at the end?

2007-12-13 11:32:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well today at school i wasnt feeling very well so i decieded to go to the bathroom (its was last period of school) well i wasnt paying attention in the least and i almost walked right into the boys bathroom!!! well there was 2 guys standing right there 1 of which i knew(not personally but i knew him from my bio class last trimester) the other i didnt know. well i quickly closed the door and ran to the girls room!! every time i think about this now i almost start crying i am terrible with this kind of embarrassment!! i dont know what to do! any ideas??

2007-12-13 11:29:56 · 11 answers · asked by horse_gal777 1 in Friends

Ok, so I work with this girl who has major issues.... like she has bipolar and she says some pretty psycho things sometimes. She is creating drama for me just because I decided to delete her off of my myspace. I deleted her because she kept posting a bulletin like daily talking about how she couldn't stand fake people and didn't want fake friends. So since I felt that I wasn't really her friend because I never hang out with her and barely talk to her, I delete her. I also didn't like that she was 2 faced. Like she acts like someone's best friend and then talks major crap behind their backs. So she sends me a message asking me why I deleted her and I told her everything. I left it alone and so she decides to bring it to our work. She is sending crazy bulletins out and everyone at my work let me know about it. She is continually talking crap about me and I sent her a myspace message telling her we aren't 15 so knock off the crap. What would you do?

2007-12-13 11:27:58 · 1 answers · asked by Elizabeth 1 in Friends

There is this girl I really like but before I ask her out I need to know if she likes me. Someone please help me. We are friends. Not like best friends but we talk a lot. What do girls do when they like a guy? What are some signals? How can I tell if she likes me.

2007-12-13 11:27:28 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

You know how people use the tired expression "no one is going to love you unless you learn to love yourself"?

How? That is my question.

People love to use expressions like these. It sounds profound enough to give someone else the impression that they have life experience, but vague enough to not help the person whatsoever.

If you are going to use cryptic phrases when giving advice, then what the hell is the point? No one is going to get it.

It seems there is this terminology out there relating to relationships and love, and it's totally meaningless. People just regurgitate what others have said because it sounds "cool".

I remember asking my mother and older sister what women look for in men, and they said "confidence". It's taken me YEARS to figure out just what the hell they were talking about, and you know what, it can be explained very easily, IN PLAIN ENGLISH. So, the next time someone asks you for life advise, please, don't use some cryptic expression that means nothing.

2007-12-13 11:27:24 · 3 answers · asked by whoholdsthepower 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Alot of the time i feel as thought i am addicted to my partner, perhaps not as much when we are on good terms but when we fight. After a fight he tends to back away, go for a long walk and not speak to me for hours because he needs time away from me to clear his head. But i cannot handle this, whenever i have a fight i prefer to clear it up straight away and move on.

Recently i have found that i almost seem to be addicted to him when we fight, i always ring him first, txt him, and try to contact him with any means necessary. But all my attempts are met with hostility, as he gets more angry and appears to make him more angry. He wont answer my calls, reply to txt or even speak to me for hours.

On the off chance that i do get to speak to him, i end up apoligising even though none of it is my fault and i seem to let things go even though it isnt my fault and nothing ever changes!?

Is it my imagination or am i addicted to my partner?

2007-12-13 11:27:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Going to try to make this easy and quick to understand. Ok, was seeing this guy for like 6 months, nothing serious at first but became extremely close.Together everyday, phones calls, txts, smiles, songs, late nights you get the picture.I know that he had feelings for me as well as I did for him. Well we started getting distant cause he got jealous that I was friends with his cousin. Nothing was going on between us. He flippes out about it and stopped talking to me and ignored his cousin for awhile. It wasnt till he wasnt around for me to realize how much I liked him, I fell in love with him. He saw me walking the other day and called me and than showed up at my work we talked about bs and then he came over..He told me he missed me and missed being here. I havent seen or talked to him since, I dont think it was about sex cause he wouldnt have to butter me up for that he knew how i felt. Why did he just leave me hanging again? Is he just a jerk or does he care and is scared

2007-12-13 11:25:56 · 6 answers · asked by kesselchic 2 in Singles & Dating

i liked this guy and he knows i like him, when i was asking his friend out for my friend he got all mad and didn't talk to me. i made my friends tell him that i was asking the guy out for a friend. later i went up to him and asked if he was mad and y he was ignoring me he said he was getting ready for a game and going throgh emotional changes. lol.... after that day he is ignoring me like crazy and he flirts with my friend maria vera.. he flirts with her a lot even in front of me... he already is engaged....

what should i do???? I want to get back at him please tell me what to do. And don't be mean plesae be helpful

and don't write comments like revange is bad

2007-12-13 11:25:48 · 2 answers · asked by HELP 2 in Singles & Dating

What if a girl you don't know came up to you in a bar and quietly explained to you that you suspect your boyfriend of cheating and he is in the very same bar. And then she asked that you test him by going up to flirt with him, would you help her out?

2007-12-13 11:25:48 · 8 answers · asked by Mary 1 in Singles & Dating

How should I turn guys down when they ask me out (without being rude)?

2007-12-13 11:24:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

okay i have enough money saved up to buy the phone and everything but my parents won't let me get it because they think someone will STEAL it. i'm 14 and they say it's for older people. they also say they don't want me to have tv/internet on my phone, but you don't even HAVE to get tv OR internet on the phone. is the phone worth it if you dont get tv or internet on it? they also said i could get a sidekick instead but i don't relaly like those... they don't think 'm responsible enough to have that phone but i am i would neva eva lose it. how an i convince them to let me buy it?

2007-12-13 11:23:19 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-13 11:23:03 · 16 answers · asked by shyam m 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am publishing a book on poetry. Because I am really good. I didn't want my mom to know. My sister Kim blurted it out and then I was thinking KIM SHUT UP and my mom said sarcastically - ya uhuh But it sounded like ya right that will never happen. My mom is always putting me down like always what I am doing wrong. When what I did wrong wasn't anything at all barely anything. And I stopped fighting with her about 1 year ago. I will just be honest. Let her yell at me and not yell back just talk. I will accept my punishment but I feel she has been doing everything wrong. I was an accident , My mom had me because of beer , she was drunk and she still doesn't think I know. Sometimes I feel I am better off without my parents. I am not going to run away but I wish she wouldn't yell at me because I have so many more important things to worry about. School , my broken heart , Homework , Friends , Family deaths , Divorces , just everything , she doesn't believe in me enough to even care

2007-12-13 11:22:28 · 3 answers · asked by Katie S 2 in Family

I can't move anywhere else, they are living 75% of the time in the mountains so everything is fine most of the time BUT fiance is still attached I guess and when his dad asks him to come to the mountains for the weekend, it's done. I have no choice in the matter. Now that its the holidays, its worse. On thanksgiving, I went to my dads while he went to his sisters and they felt that I should have went with them even though I promised my dad first. Now it's Xmas and I told fiance I didn't want to go to the mountains but we're going since my family's parties are different days. Does this mean hes not ready for marriage if he doesnt want to spend a holiday alone with me?Also, I'm 20 wks preg. and want my kid to see my family too. How can I get the point across that my family isn't dead and isn't in another country and that seeing them is very important to me? I love him to death but I'm not ditching my whole life for him. What should I say and what should I do?

2007-12-13 11:22:11 · 16 answers · asked by templeowlchick06 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Long story, short: friend, ended long relationship, I like him a lot, he started dating girl in class, says he likes her (b/c "attractive & fun"). But gives me confusing msgs. Usually very attentive to me. Flirty. Comfortable. Notices little things. Gives me hard time to "get a rxn out of me." I've been acting kinda distant lately (dunno why) & he makes an effort to come talk to me (more than to other girls except her). Noticed I was being dif after I found out about said girl. Aware of when I'm around. Feels like mutual attraction. Might know I like him (tried to get me to admit it when drunk). But trumps girl over me. Doesn't like to mention her unless I bring it up.
I haven't told him I like him yet b/c timing doesn't seem right, esp b/c he tells me he likes other girl. How can he be so attentive & flirty & sweet & have fun w/ me, but like this girl? I can't put the pieces together & can't stop thinking about it.
Am I being the dumb 1? Or is he just confused? What can I do?

2007-12-13 11:20:43 · 1 answers · asked by laughterisnaturescure 1 in Singles & Dating

hey, im 18 and trying to get over this girl, but dont the problem is i dont want to. its silly as i know i will neva get over her if i dont want to. wots holding me back besides me still liking her, is the fact that i feel that im missing out. not missing out on her but missing out in a relationship as a teen. for sum reason im worried that i will neva find another girl??..will i or is it just me?

2007-12-13 11:20:28 · 5 answers · asked by laxem 3 in Singles & Dating

do you think once a cheater allways a cheater or do u think they will change when they meet the wright person ?

2007-12-13 11:18:55 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My bf of four years cheated and got a girl pregnant. I told him I would give him a baby oneday but obviously he wanted one right away. He ask me do I still want to have his baby and it hurts me that he couldn't wait for me. I truly love him though and no other man completes me like he do but I really want to leave. I just don't see where I'm going and it is hard for you to leave a man who has your heart. I keep telling myself I'm ready and I need to go so he can be a better father. I don't know what to do it's so hard to not love someone who was the 1st person you ever loved and the only person you truly love.

2007-12-13 11:18:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

im pregnant with my first and i am not living with the father (i just moved out). we are still dating but my family wants me to ditch him and get sole custody right away because he has 2 other kids with 2 different moms and isnt the most financially stable, plus hes 15years older than me. i want to continue the relationship bcz he promises to get finances fixed. if we end it i want to have a joint custody with an agreement where the child lives with me and visits with his father. what should i do?

2007-12-13 11:18:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Sorry about the repost, but the original wasn't getting hits..

I've been talking to this girl for a while. We are both really into each other, and I like her a lot. We are both young adults, and we have both had sex before. I have only been with 1 girl, whom I really cared about. We are both trying to be completely honest with each other. She recently told me that since her last serious relationship, she has done more things with more guys than she is proud of (possibly due to depression/self-esteem issues). It really bothers me, and I don't really know how to react, or how to handle the situation. She is well aware that I have a problem with it. I think part of my problem with it may be my own insecurities. I think I'm worried about "stepping up to the bar" in bed, so to speak. (Both anatomically and physically.) How should I feel about this and what should I do? Serious answers only please!!!

2007-12-13 11:17:43 · 13 answers · asked by mike 2 in Singles & Dating

what is your one most fav name?
ONLY ONE!!!!

2007-12-13 11:16:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Anyone else trust the hubby to shape things up?

2007-12-13 11:16:14 · 11 answers · asked by jeff b 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I have huge bright stretch marks on my breasts, hips, thighs, and arms. I dont have them on my stomach, but my breasts are the ones I am most worried about. In my school club, we have to wear a tanktop which is lowcut and a medium jean skirt. Its a club my friends started and I want to be in it but I dont want to tell them that I can wear the shirts because of my hidious boobs! My friends can wear them because they dont seem to have them but I do and I just wanted to know how to get rid of them. They are wide, long and really bright purplish red. I have a boyfriend and he is my bff's brother and im scared that if I tell her why I cant wear the shirt then she will tell him and he wont want to date me anymore because we have been dating for about 3 years and we love eachother and we have been talking about having sex, but im really self concious about them and im scared he will not want to do it and he will make fun of me and break up with me. Most of the boys I know are like that.

2007-12-13 11:15:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am the second oldest of five. I asked a question before on Yahoo! Answers about my being overprotective of my baby sister. So many have said that my siblings and I are on equal ground.

Would you really agree with that? Whenever my younger brothers and sister crack an attitude with me, I scold them with a firm voice telling them they need to treat me with honor and respect because I am their older brother.

My little sister used to treat me like her same-age friend or something. I swiftly reprimanded her for her attitude and reminded her that I am her older brother. She is 11 and I am 20. That will always be the case.

Am I being too domineering?

2007-12-13 11:14:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family