do you think once a cheater allways a cheater or do u think they will change when they meet the wright person ?
2007-12-13 11:18:55 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion i believe cheeters to a certain point will never change, A LEOPARD NEVER CHANGES ITS SPOTS!
HOWEVER i also believe if they meet the right person it could happen, 1 : it depends on the person. 2: it depends on if they want to change for the better.
Im sure its possible.And as always actions speak LOUDER than words.
goodluck!
2007-12-13 12:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by ALi x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do make mistakes. If they would rather die than live with what they have done then maybe time to forgive. You may find yourself doing the same in the future. If it happens a second time in less than a year then time to find someone else.
I know of girls and guys who have cheated on their long term partner. The first time is always forgiven ? People should learn form mistakes. Depends how much you are in love. A second mistake, maybe forgive, depends what it is..
If he goes off full on physical , then you only get one chance at best. some will forgive others value a relationship more than others and will not forgive.
I know a guy who cheats all the time, a new girl a week, always been the same and always will no doubt. He does not feel bad about what he has done so he will never have a long term relationship.
I know others who have kissed or have been kissed by others, where do YOU want to draw the line ?
If he feels bad for months after what he has done, then he really does regret it. If he cheats and gets over it in a few days then time to move on.
The line is between cheaters and mistakes. A strong relationship should be able to overcome all problems, though there is a line of enough is enough. Where you draw the line is up to you. A lot of mistakes is a cheater in my book. But a a couple of mistakes is not a cheater.
Remember the same may happen to you also. He could kiss someone and you forgive him, though if you kiss someone, will he forgive you ?
If you dump him for kissing someone, and then you get a new bf and kiss someone else while dating him, then was it really fair on you to dump the first guy in the first place ? Does this just not make you as bad as him ?
A lot to think about, good luck!
2007-12-14 07:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by exxos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cheater will change their ways, but ONLY if there is enough at stake.
If they think or know that cheating will have few consequences, or don't care about what they will lose, then they will carry on cheating.
Also, if they think they are cleverer and more charming than everyone else then they think they will get away with it or be able to talk they way out of it.
If a cheater knows exactly how much they will lose as a result of their cheating then they will think twice about doing it.
2007-12-13 19:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think cheaters will never change like the saying " once a cheater always a cheater" and it's true also even if they did meet that right person they would cheat on them too...
2007-12-13 19:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by gone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any person who thinks "once a cheater always a cheater" has never been in a situation labeled as 'cheating' NOR been in a relationship where there are certain circumstances that are more difficult to describe (aka: bf wasnt treating you right and used you, you merely talked to another guy, BOOM you cheated.)
This isnt a BLACK or WHITE issue, there is always grey in between. For you to label every person as the same just because of their mistakes is wrong.
2007-12-13 19:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this might not make me look good but I cheated on a couple of guys. But once I met my boyfriend, I couldnt do something like that to him, so i changed for him. When i had first met him i was sad and going through alot, but then i saw that he was there for me, so i changed my ways.. so i dont believe once a cheater always a cheater..
2007-12-13 19:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope they change. I am going out with an EX cheater and I do think they can change. We've been going out for 10 months and as far as I know he has been completely faithful. I Think they can change but not all of them.... only the few smart ones...
2007-12-13 19:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always will be a cheater. Its like an addiction. They wont be satisfied until they cheat
2007-12-13 19:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Dirk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person...one of my friends dated a guy and he cheated and i dated him and he didnt...i know how do i know..because unless she was going to his house at night then thats the only way because we were together from the time we woke up til we went to bed lol...but more than likely if he cheated on you..and you get back together he will do it again..because maybe something is missing...just think...would you rather be with a guy that yo had to worry about cheating everyday or would you rather find that guy who is always faithful and wants to be with you?
2007-12-14 00:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't change us...just kidding...I have changed. I stopped cheating. I don't plan to return to it, though I am sometimes tempted. What am I talking about? I would probably do it again under the right circumstances...only it's not easy to surround myself with the right circumstances. Actually, I'm not ever going to cheat again. EVER! It's just not worth the risks and the headaches.
2007-12-13 19:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by lovebird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋