my partner of 4yrs has been getting progressively sicker over the last 2 yrs. throughout the entire time I have been there to help and care for her. In the last month they finally found the cause of her illnesses and operated two days ago...three days before the operation she asked me stay with her until she was recovered from her operation then 2hrs later she tells me to get out of her life she does not want my help anymore.
The coincidence maybe is in that time she found out her best friend had split with her fiance cos he had cheated on her... our relationship was open strong and honest and still very sexual.. so I dont understand... Maybe someone out there can help explain it, she certainly wont.. I am very confused on this issue..
2007-12-13 11:35:46 · 4 answers · asked by boxa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dang, that seems harsh, but to give her the benefit of the doubt, is she saying this to you to spare you more ordeal, maybe she thinks you could have a better life without her? Or is she really done with you? Unfortunately there is no way any of us can truly answer this question for you as we don't know you two and have no way of really knowing her motives. No matter what though, this sounds really sad and I feel for you. Just so you know, a lot of single women out there would like a guy like you who is so devoted, so, if it IS over, then do your best to pick yourself up and continue your life because it is not worth it to let it permanently keep you down.
2007-12-13 11:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by TAP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's start by wishing your gal a fast and complete recovery.Having said that , I am as confused as you are on her motives and why she is behaving this way.However, I have some ideas which follow and which I hope might enable you to make some sense out of this conundrum.1)Although, she has had surgery for her problem, her condition is actually terminal2)If she is terminal, she wants to get rid of you to spare you additional pain; remember, you watched her get sicker over a two year period with the trauma this caused.3)her condition is not terminal but she is going to get worse and need more care and she is trying to free you to have a new life before that occurs4) she is a selfish gal who no longer needs you now that she is cured(or treated) and wants to start afresh with a new person5)a combination of all the above. After four years of dating, you deserve to get some explanation from her even if it means never seeing her or dating her again. I suggest you sit down with her, ask her to tell you the truth even if she knows it will hurt you, be prepared for information that you may not like hearing, and be ready to go your separate way if necessary.I wish you the best.
2007-12-13 20:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is scared, as she is very entitled to be. She wants you there but probably doesn't want to hurt you. I am sorry this is a tough situation. I would go see her anyway, if she really gets mad and tells you to leave more than once then do as she asks but I can almost guarantee she wants you there, she may not want to show you how venerable and afraid she is.
2007-12-13 19:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by Me, again 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably doesnt mean it i wouldnt worry
2007-12-13 19:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by Madi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋