Sexual relationship advice please...?

Question

Sorry about the repost, but the original wasn't getting hits..

I've been talking to this girl for a while. We are both really into each other, and I like her a lot. We are both young adults, and we have both had sex before. I have only been with 1 girl, whom I really cared about. We are both trying to be completely honest with each other. She recently told me that since her last serious relationship, she has done more things with more guys than she is proud of (possibly due to depression/self-esteem issues). It really bothers me, and I don't really know how to react, or how to handle the situation. She is well aware that I have a problem with it. I think part of my problem with it may be my own insecurities. I think I'm worried about "stepping up to the bar" in bed, so to speak. (Both anatomically and physically.) How should I feel about this and what should I do? Serious answers only please!!!

Answer 1

imo getting over your past or someone elses is very hard, i have been with more women than my wife has been with men and im sure that upsets her to some point but also makes her happy in others. although my ex wife was with more people than most porn stars ( found out way to late, thus is my ex wife ) and that really irritated me. you have to just let it go. everyone makes mistakes but with her being with more people it will work out better for you since she will know more and be able to BLOW YOUR MIND and you will also be able to experiment more with her to learn " tricks of the trade " so to speak. as long as you are both happy with each other it doesnt really matter how many people you or her have been with. it might even make her feel better knowing that you have only been with one person. that way she can train you to what she likes. but it will back fire on her when the student ( you ) becomes the teacher =)

Answer 2

It is the past, right? If she likes, loves you she wont care, if you need to learn a thing or two then I am sure she will drop hints as to what she likes. Let her past be just that, past. The only time it has any place in your heart is if she cheated on you, be glad she was just as honest with you as you were with her, the reality that the truth upsets you could cause her not to want to tell you the truth in the future if it effects your relationship in a negative way when she tells you. I am sure that knowing you had only been with one woman before now made it hard for her to tell you in the first place. There is nothing to forgive it is past, do ask her if she has been careful to get her yearly exam simply to protect yourself and her, use prtection unless or untill you are ready for it to be serious, even to the point of a child. Most of all love her with all your heart, she is not damaged goods, she is a woman who made some bad choices.

Answer 3

Try not to make a huge deal of it because it will make her feel really bad about herself. I think that you should also try not to worry about how you measure up. You need to be comfortable with yourself though. When you start having sex, try to be relaxed and open about everything. Don't be too serious. If something isn't working then just laugh it off or try something different. If you don't act like it's a big deal then neither will she. The best way to please her in bed is to find out what she likes and pay attention to what she seems to like. Be adventurous, but have respect for her and follow her cues... Also, being hot in bed is very much about attitude...

P.S. Find out if/how she can have orgasms and make sure to give her AT LEAST one before you start the main event... Be patient with this and at least try...

Answer 4

Well we all have to learn...she may know more but if you both like eachother she would be fine to teach you things or wouldnt mind..girls do sometimes like an inexperienced guy and just getting them to have their firsts...if you are worried..don't be afraid to say so. Even if you bring it up in a joking matter (Somehow?) You can always just try your best and thats all you can do, she had to learn also..just we all do at different times...but it doesn't just happen. Dont stress it too much..we all have our first few times that we have no clue what we are doing..you only learn when you try..
Good Luck..but dont let it eat at you too much, you'll be fine!

Answer 5

I know how you feel. I am bisexual too. ANyhow my sister did the same thing. she is married and she did it with a friend and now they aren't talking. ANyhow I would tell you to stop talking to her for a while and see what happens. If she won't leave you alone then just stop talking to her period. I know it is hard to stop talking to a friend but it might be the best thing. That is why most say in fantasies like that it is best to have someone you are not friends with or close to cause feelings are always involved or wanting more and more if you are really that good. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 6

firstly dont worry about comparisons --- there will always be someone better or worse than you --- what really counts is the feeling that goes with the act --- caring tenderness affection and love count for a lot more than mere physical prowess ---- treat her well before during and after be attentive to her needs and it will be a wonderful experience for you both ---- have fun

Answer 7

You need to make her feel special and loved. Not make her feel like some piece of meat like her past boyfriends have done.

When you get into the bedroom you will find all your pasts will melt away and there will only be the moment.

Answer 8

If you trust her, try the sex thing. If you don't, don't try sex. If you really want a kid, but you don't trust her don't try it. And vice versa.

Answer 9

you need to tell her how you feel and be a man and just love probably that's all needs is someone to love her

Answer 10

personally i would let it go because atleast she was honest with you. but be careful with the diseases also.