Alot of the time i feel as thought i am addicted to my partner, perhaps not as much when we are on good terms but when we fight. After a fight he tends to back away, go for a long walk and not speak to me for hours because he needs time away from me to clear his head. But i cannot handle this, whenever i have a fight i prefer to clear it up straight away and move on.
Recently i have found that i almost seem to be addicted to him when we fight, i always ring him first, txt him, and try to contact him with any means necessary. But all my attempts are met with hostility, as he gets more angry and appears to make him more angry. He wont answer my calls, reply to txt or even speak to me for hours.
On the off chance that i do get to speak to him, i end up apoligising even though none of it is my fault and i seem to let things go even though it isnt my fault and nothing ever changes!?
Is it my imagination or am i addicted to my partner?
2007-12-13 11:27:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No! It just seems like you care. I'm the same way, like when my husband and I fight I just say sorry. You have to pick and choose your battles. One stupid fight could end up going on for weeks otherwise! Know what I mean? That's the biggest part of keeping a relationship healthy is being able to apologize even when you don't think you did anything wrong. You have to be able to see it from both point of views otherwise it'll never work. I aplaud you actually.
2007-12-13 11:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by LeAndra 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, you sound needy and insecure. And, guys do not handle arguments and fights the same way as females. If he needs his space after a duel, then give it to him. Do you think it makes it a better situation when all you are thinking about is how YOU feel and how YOU respond to the fight? You are putting yourself in the position of pushing him away from you. Have some dignity and he will respect you more. And why are you fighting so much anyway? Could be that he is not a good match for you. You also sound like you may be obsessing over him. This would be unhealthy and pointless. I also do not get why you always end up apologizing to him even when you weren't in the wrong. This whole relationship, based on what you have provided in your question, sounds bad. Maybe you should get some self esteem and move on. I am not trying to sound cruel, I am answering you with my honest inclination to the question that you posted.
2007-12-13 20:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by TAP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe a little obsessive. Maybe what you really want to know is what is going on with him? He might need his space so that the two of you calm down before talking again. I am the same way. I do not like to talk during hostility because people are emotional and they may say things that they don't really mean. I rather that I wait out until both parties are leveled headed before I talk. Because I can be very mean when people swamp me with their emotions.
If it is not your fault, there is no need to apologize for anything or he might also think that you deserve to be treated that way.
2007-12-13 19:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by JB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say thatis vey common nowadays having to face that kind of situation, but to cut it all short, you must let him/her have the time on which he/she prefers and let him/her realize that he/she is wrong. Afterwards, just try to do something that would make him/her realize that what he/she's doing is out of place and not reasonable, give him/her some facts that would convince her that what ur trying to say is the obviously right thing to do, but if he/she did not recognize it, then quit and let him/her be, because if that still persist the conflict would soon find it's place. if he/she is mad just try to give him/her something that would mke him/her feel glad and satisfied (something that he/she really likes, ex. food), or so maybe try to refreshen up and try to break the ice with some jokes. On the latter part, if he/she doesn't recognize wt ur trying to say, quit it and give him/her like maybe half of the day to do his/her things on her own and let him/her do the thinking. At the end of the day what matters is u are both still together and the angry face in the morning would lessen or better be gone on the evening. ^;^
2007-12-13 19:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by zuo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys need some space at one time or another. Just because you want to be close to him after arguing doesn't necessarily mean addiction even though sometimes it feels that way when the other person isn't reciprocating the feeling. Men need space...just give it to him and he'll be back soon.
2007-12-13 19:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by GJax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only be addicted to substances or activities.
You are likely obsessed with your partner. This is not good. Seek professional therapy.
Good luck.
2007-12-13 19:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
weird, reading that sounds like me. i guess it really does happen
2007-12-13 19:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by SAVE ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋