My bf of four years cheated and got a girl pregnant. I told him I would give him a baby oneday but obviously he wanted one right away. He ask me do I still want to have his baby and it hurts me that he couldn't wait for me. I truly love him though and no other man completes me like he do but I really want to leave. I just don't see where I'm going and it is hard for you to leave a man who has your heart. I keep telling myself I'm ready and I need to go so he can be a better father. I don't know what to do it's so hard to not love someone who was the 1st person you ever loved and the only person you truly love.
2007-12-13 11:18:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a completely different perspective. i too am having problems with the first person i loved and i married her. not working out so well. so i KNOW how hard it is. i want out and am trying hard to do so. but it all starts with you. you said that he "completes you". that's the problem. you need to get some good therapy and work out your issues and LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF. Read the book "the four agreements" it teaches you how to love yourself and value yourself. then the decision becomes easier. i can tell you this because 1 year ago, i would have never even contemplated i could leave her. now i am realizing i DESERVE way way way more for myself. so i say again fix whatever issues you have that cause you to stay with him...the decision will be easy after that. it's hard as hell work, but i can see the difference. she does not provide me with a sense of value anymore, that is coming from me internally now. and i will have enough self-esteem to face her and you can do the same.
2007-12-13 13:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by pinched 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of what your boyfriend did to you, you have every right to question your relationship. What he did can be very difficult to over come and sometimes might not over come. You have to ask yourself, can you live with the fact that he has a child with another woman that happened during your relationship with him? Will you ever be able to get over the fact he cheated on you? If these are question you know for a fact that you can over come then stay, but if these question contiue to linger in your mind, then you need to decide what is best for you. Him wanting you to have his baby is not because he loves you sweetie, its to keep you in his life and control. Remember if you bring him a baby with all this mixed emotions, it will only get worse, and you don't need to bring a baby into the world if you have doubt about him. He lost your trust and just saying that he will never do it again doesn't mean it won't. Know he is in this other womans life for the rest of that baby's life, can you live with that? Love shouldn't hurt this way. Love should feel with out a doubt good and secure. Something inside of you is telling you something, listen to your first instinct and follow your heart. First loves are the hardest to get over when you have to but at least you know that you have the heart to love and you will love again, if not with him with someone God has planned for you. You are young and there is so much more out in the world waiting for you. Enjoy you life and being single. Babies change everthing about you. Make sure you are ready before you do. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-12-13 11:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do love him... but he doesn't love you no matter how much he says it. Because, if he loved you he wouldn't have cheated on you, got another girl pregnant, or anything like that. Just because he wanted kids didn't mean he had to go out and impregnate someone else... he could have done a lot of talking and compromising with you to work on something that the two of you could agree on.
Sweetie, you have to move on. He didn't respect you when he told you he loved and you and then when off to another woman and had sex with her. It will be hard because of the love you have for him but you have to realize all the pain he has caused and is causing you with what he did. You deserve to be with someone who will be true and faithful to you. If you stick with him you will only end up miserable in the end.
2007-12-13 11:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you've explained EVERYTHING I was thinking during Toonami's ending bumper....... Well, anyway, everyone wants to know what direction CartoonNetwork will go from here. I've read somewhere that CN is planning to import episodes of the anime version of Powerpuff Girls (forgot the title) from Japan, but, then again, I've also read that when CN finishes airing the Naruto anime, it will plan to eliminate anime from the channel entirley. As for all your action cartoons (if the previous theory isn't correct), there will be a whole new block for it Friday nights, I think everyone's seen that commercial. But all you anime faithful, no need for despair. Yes, the cancellation of toonami was a harsh blow (and a potential deathblow to CN's future), but I highly doubt that it will remove it's AS block from the channel as well, seeing that it is not originally form CN, but Williams Street ( the same people that brought you the SVES saturday night block before it was taken over by Toonami). I find it really hard for CN to fire a whole team of people who've contributed a lot to it's channel and think it's a good idea for its future success. " I just looked it up, since naruto was the main reason people watched toonami, i think, and since naruto is almost in it's shippuden era, that adult swim will begin to "pick up the slack" when it comes to the anime portion. in japan, most anime's would be considered teen, or adult content since they used different words than the amrican dubs lead you to beleive" -illusion X But it baffles me because some say the channel wants to become "kid friendly". They had that chance when they hadthe "Big Bag" block weekday mornings (i forgot when, a couple years back) which aired " kid friendly" shows. As you can see, it was cancelled (quite fast at that) , which obviosly shows that the executives know they will pull no success from being "kid friendly". If a "kid friendly" block couldn't last (even a year), what makes them think a once kid/pre-teen/teen channel now going "kid friendly" will last? All I can say is that I hope Time Warner fires the Head of CartoonNetwork, beacuse the only thing viewers will be able to do is standby and watch the eminent downfall of a once great empire brought on by the pieces of **** ,or "cartoons", they currently air "Until we meet again, Stay Golden" - TOM Toonami 1997-2008
2016-05-23 10:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me 12 years ago. I am still getting over it as I was pregnant too! My son is now 12 years old. It took me 1 sec. to leave him. My stomache turned. He was my first love for six years.
Run! remeber it is ok to love someone who deserves your love. Dont be me , It hurt so bad I never had another relationship.
I promise you it gets better the further away you are from it. Then you will look at it from a 360 degree angle.
Good luck, take the lord with you.
2007-12-13 13:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by noble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he was NEVER committed to you in the first place, and how does a man who disrespects you like that complete you?
Does disrespecting you by screwing another woman "complete you"?
No man can complete you, you are either complete or you arent and when you depend on ANYONE to complete you, you get let down at some point they cannot be your "everything".
Move on he has a child to raise with the mother.
Then next time talk this over before marriage THEN marry before sex and living together.You wont be in the same situation again then.
2007-12-13 12:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember he is the first and not the last. we experiece life to learn and grow, not to hinder ourselves. too much pain will eventually hinder ur growth to be the best woman ur meant to be. Also, a baby is a HUGE commitment, once you have the baby from him it is forever! haven't heard u mention marriage. to me marriage is not so big a commitment since you can divorce someone and never have contact again if no children are involved. a real man will see you first as his wife then the mother of his children. true love does not leave you wondering if it is really love. let it go endure hte pain so u can get over him, learn from it and ur next relationship will be even better, trust me i've been there.
2007-12-13 11:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by Divine_10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer would only be to restate everything else already on here. I know it hurts SO badly to be cheated on....this same thing happened to me about 10 years ago. My BF cheated on me & knocked up another chick. I LEFT HIM in 2 seconds flat. It hurt, but there is NO reason for you to stay with him or I am telling you....you are in for a life of misery & eventual divorce. No matter what you think now - you WILL find someone better out there for you.
2007-12-13 11:28:08 · answer #8 · answered by Bridgette 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, thats rough, I know it would be simple just to say "dump him" but being in love , it is not that simple. I know a lot of people might not like my advice, but I feel that if you want to be in this relationship, you should require him to prove his dedication to you with 'marriage' if he is truly sorry, and remorseful and want to continue to be in your life, he will make a life long commitment to you and marry you. then you can develope a relationship with the baby as well as step-mom. I think this will make you feel better about the whole situation. this happened to my cousin, the only thing is she was married, but she still loves the baby her husband made with the other woman, and is a great step-mom and even gets along well with the baby's mother. if he's not willing to marry you and prove his devotion , I would end the relationship, and pray to ask God to help you to move on, trust me babygirl, prayer is Amazing when it comes to a broken heart !!
2007-12-13 11:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be to do you probably need to let go of him and move on. Take some time to yourself and build up your self estime. It will be one of the hardest things you may have to do but time will make you feel better. One day when you least expect it someone else will come along who will love you and respect you and make all your dreams and wishes come true.
2007-12-13 11:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋