Family & Relationships - 9 December 2007

I've been married to my hasband for 3 years, and my mother in law lives only 500m away on our farm.. Everytime I get a visitor she comes up, makes herself at home and doesnt leave till my friend does.. I have had issues with her being interfering, such as not knocking (just appearing in my lounge room), never asks if she can visit just turns up and almost barges in.. She gets the "father-in-law" on to me (because i respect him) she has him say things like stop playing games and just do what she says because its eaiser...Its like she can't take the word NO and if i say No like to dinner or something she annoys me and my hubby till she gets the answer she whats YES..I dont want to just roll over and I want respect from her..quite frankly im at the end with her and have given up trying to have any sort of wonderful relationship because she abuses the trust (she tells everyone what i tell her to!!) So for my husbands sake what do you think i could do as shes very intimidating..thanks

2007-12-09 10:41:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-09 10:40:56 · 12 answers · asked by Babyruth 1 in Singles & Dating

she would be all over you and want you back but she did the opposite? she ignores you.

2007-12-09 10:40:11 · 9 answers · asked by * 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-09 10:38:59 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My ex has offered to take me in with the children as I am battling cancer. I am still in love with him and I know that it would be painful for me as I have told him and he says it could never be again. In knowing that I dont want to do that to my babies as I think it will only confuse them. HE keeps telling me that I am not well I need some help and I am telling him that there is nothing I would ever do that would make things hard on my 3 and 5 year old. am I wrong

2007-12-09 10:38:39 · 11 answers · asked by db1977 1 in Marriage & Divorce

he loves to lay down and go go out of the house, h also loves to sit on the couch and do nothing further more he has no friends.

2007-12-09 10:34:49 · 3 answers · asked by that1guy 2 in Family

I can tell this guy is really into me: he flirts with me all the time, sits by me at lunch, and sometimes we see eachother after school. its obivous we're more than friends and sometimes we've been so close to a kiss before but he seems ashamed when his friends show up becuase they all think i'm a nerd or a maniac or something. I really hope that we can at least have one kiss but how important is a friends aproval to a guy?

2007-12-09 10:34:37 · 4 answers · asked by Free-bee 4 in Singles & Dating

What's your idea of geek-chic? What makes some nerds adorable/sexy, while others are a complete turn off?

I'm taking my 23-year-old nerdy guy friend shopping and need some ideas on how he can start attracting girls without denying his inner geek! :-) Thanks a bunch!

2007-12-09 10:34:21 · 15 answers · asked by Nata 3 in Singles & Dating

My mother has been mean most of her life... not going to go all 12 steps with you are anything but people have to reap what they sow. I have dealt with my mother's nasty behavior all my life. My sister has too. She is an unhappy women and nothing I do or anyone does can change that except her. Took me a long time to understand that. What infuriates me is when these types of people that have basically **** on people their whole lives and then raise their hands wondering why they have no good relationships in their life and why the ones they do have are lined with anger. I don't get it. If I treated people badly and was cruel to people that tried in vain to love me well then that is what I get isn't it. I am thinking about writing my mother an email and ask her that very question. I fought with her today and asked what did she expect? For the record I try and take care of my mother and buy her what she needs, take her places but sometimes I can't be silent about some things.

2007-12-09 10:32:14 · 8 answers · asked by daisyduck4007 4 in Family

What are some fun things to do w/ur family when the power is out because of an icestorm? lol

2007-12-09 10:30:44 · 4 answers · asked by GODFOLLOWER 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

are relationships pointless for me

2007-12-09 10:25:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Do you feel the internet has altered inter-personal relationships and made it easier for people to disconnect from their spouses/S.O?

2007-12-09 10:24:27 · 5 answers · asked by BlaBla 2 in Marriage & Divorce

theres this girl i like and i am wondering what i could do 2 make her lik me cause im not shure if she does or dosent

2007-12-09 10:17:16 · 19 answers · asked by obvlious_to_the_obvious 2 in Singles & Dating

hi.... have every body notice that in chat room or just me???
Question Details: if u dont have cam or pic every body well say bye ??? it called chat rooms for chat not the other thinges (u know wat i mean ) so is that happen only with me or all of u ther have the same .... and do any body meet a good person by the chat as frind or a lover may be ??? plzz answer me

2007-12-09 10:12:09 · 5 answers · asked by dolly 2 in Singles & Dating

my nom is getting tired of me cause Iike this guy and he likes me and he is getting tired of me talking to him all the time and she says that I am too young to date and she won't leave me alone about it and my friend leonna dous not approve of it either and I ask her why cause she says she hates him and she won't tell me the real reason her only reason is that hes annoying but hes not hes awesome any suggestions to get them both to agree with me????

2007-12-09 10:11:34 · 7 answers · asked by Haley L 1 in Friends

My husbands family (him, his brother and sister) are not speaking at this time. See both his sis and brother were scemeing to get money from their father and my husband informed his father that if he took the money out he it would cost him fees and taxes.
So my bil and sil got all ticked off because my fil decided not to give the money.
Well they have said really hurtful things about my hubby, me and our children and I don't want them around my kids.

2007-12-09 10:11:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My bf and i are 18. he's still in high school (this is his last year),and we are living with his mother. well to make a long story short, we are tired of the drama going on with his mother so we think its time to move out before anything really horible happens. but see i work at the same place as her working full time but i work night shift and she works day but like today we worked togather. but we don't have a car yet and we are paying her $400 a month plus next week well be paying off our t.v and after that we have to pay $48 a week for a bed set my bf got and a least $20 a month for my bf's credit card. and my bf works at a store part time right now and he's going full time in june. but we are in shippensburg,pa and the average cost of rent is $600 a month and all i can think of is welfare and foodstamps to help if they'll approve us. my bf wants to save $400 so he can get me and engagment ring but i told him not right now we need out of here asap. but, do u have any advise?

2007-12-09 10:07:41 · 6 answers · asked by Babygiirl 1 in Marriage & Divorce

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2007-12-09 10:07:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend of 2 years isn't ready to get married anytime in the near future (5 yrs.) Since the beginning of our relationship, I have prepared myself to get married. I am 30 and she is 28. What should I do? I love her but 5 years it too long to wait on someone that I feel isn't sure about me.

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2007-12-09 10:05:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my mom was a drug addict while I was growing up. She was abusive in every way except sexual. at times she would wake my while asleep to beat me and scream at me because SHE did something wrong. I never, even as a teen and I knew I could, hit my mom back.
Now my moms been clean for about 4 yrs. She has completly changed and is now the mom I never had. She helped me purchase a little used car and is also helping me support my two daughters. Because of my moms addiction, I was forced to grow up in fear of her and being raised in the housing projects. My mom also abandoned me when I was 15 and left the state becuase she was running from the law. I had to find a place to live and I got myself emancipated when I was 16 and got my own place.
The problem is, I feel hurt and left out and other feelings I can't explain.

2007-12-09 10:03:57 · 11 answers · asked by TM25 3 in Family

I have a problem.. the thing is, I kinda hate it when people have the same goals / interests as me.
Yeah I know its dumb & I try not to let stupid stuff like that bother me. I realize that I'm not special or different from anyone else.. but something inside always gets angry / jealous. One time I had a friend that said she wanted to do the same furture career as me..I got so angry that I randomly stopped talking to her & treated her as though she was my enemy... the worst part is, I still don't regret till this day.
Have any ideas of how I can put all this stupidity behind me?

2007-12-09 10:03:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My friend just got married to a guy. After being divorsed, she just wanted someone who LOOKED like he would take care of her. It has been a couple of months, but I just found out that he is a SERIAL KILLER!!! I was at the police station, since I am a police, and I decided to do a background check on him. He has killed 3 wemen that he was married to in the past. And to top that off, he has been in jail 4 times. With a total amount of 386 days!!! I tried to tell her but she won't listen to me! What do I do? I don't want her to get hurt!

2007-12-09 10:02:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-09 10:01:56 · 22 answers · asked by Vampire_Satara 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Well, this guy who sorta kinda talks to me asked me to the ROTC Ball. Now, I'm 15 and he's 17. At first he didn't really talked to me and then on myspace he said he didn't know me. I confronted him of this and he acted like he didn't wanna talk to me. Like 2 days later he apologized and said he noticed i was pretty. Then in my ROTC class, he would just show up and start talking to me. On myspace he then asked me to the Ball. I feel kinda akward for some reason, like i barely know the guy. What should i do?

2007-12-09 10:01:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I did that in a Vietnamese village back in the 60's. I don't think the villagers liked it too much.

2007-12-09 10:00:57 · 1 answers · asked by ChulaVista619 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband has been abused by his mother basically his whole life. From being told he was a mistake, hitting him, smacking him around, destroying his personal items so on so forth. We are having a "big wedding" next october and he wants to send her a wedding invitation but write on the inside envelope "don't even bother showing up at the wedding". I don't want to send her an invite at all so which would be a better one?

2007-12-09 10:00:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-12-09 10:00:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what does that mean??
more details: he has been w/ her for a couple years they have a baby together, he says he will never marry (again, cause the 1st time was so bad) he's trying to have another baby, so his current child will have a sibling, (his reasoning)
yet, he wants to start something w/ me
cause we have such a strong chemistry, high attraction, if we did something, it would release the tension between us etc
(these are his words)
it's driving me nuts (in a good way, cause i like the attention)
BUT he's in a relationship, i'm married....and don't want to cheat on my hubby, who is absolutely wonderful
what about just a kiss?? i know that would be cheating...but what if that's all it took... to release the tension between this guy and me? i don't even want to think about it... but i just want to get opinions no judgements, cause we haven't DONE anything but it's driving us both insane i'm only scared of it leading to more then just a kiss. i work w/ him tomorrow.
help plz

2007-12-09 10:00:25 · 9 answers · asked by this_sucks2007 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-09 09:59:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We broke up for 4 days and just got back together. we were living together but i moved out because we broke up. but now im staying with a couple of my friends i know but there all guys. i miss living with my boyfriend and i know that if i go back that there might be a chance we will fight again and not solve any problems we have. the man issues we had was he was jealous of every guy i knew and thought i was sleeping behind his back. this wasnt the case. my issue was i relied on him too much and everytime he was un happy it would make me unhappy. but now that i know that what makes me happy for myself is my dancing and singing. are relationship wasnt healthy when we were together because of the issues we had. i hated him watching porn all the time. and it was a big problem for me because it made me feel intemidated. and now he doesnt tell me all of how he feels when i say i want to come home. im not sure what he wants. i know that he was having very bad panic attacks.

2007-12-09 09:59:03 · 2 answers · asked by Mimi 1 in Singles & Dating