My husbands family (him, his brother and sister) are not speaking at this time. See both his sis and brother were scemeing to get money from their father and my husband informed his father that if he took the money out he it would cost him fees and taxes.
So my bil and sil got all ticked off because my fil decided not to give the money.
Well they have said really hurtful things about my hubby, me and our children and I don't want them around my kids.
2007-12-09 10:11:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Problem is my 10yrld daughter wants to call and go see her aunt. I don't want to tell her the things that her aunt has said about her and her siblings and myself but I don't know what to tell her.
2007-12-09 10:13:49 · update #1
I have been avoiding saying anything about it but she knows something is up.
2007-12-09 10:14:52 · update #2
after what she has said I have no desire to be anywhere near her nor do I want her near my children.
2007-12-09 10:17:55 · update #3
I want to make this very clear. At this time I do not want my bil or sil around my children at all. They took a fuss between them and my husband and dragged me and my children into it.
This is a direct quote of just one of the things my darling sil has said "Your home is disgusting, your children are illiterate and your wife is PURE white trash."
I do not let people like this near my children.
Keep in mind I had absolutely nothing to with the original argument.
2007-12-09 11:25:49 · update #4
Why not go visit the sil with her so your daughter can spend time with her? You don't HAVE to leave her there alone with them and you'll be able to monitor conversation. You should eventually TRY to get back part of the pre-scheming relationship, for your children's sake. After all, some of my fondest childhood memories are those of times spent with aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. And before you know it, all this will blow over and the good times can flourish once again. It may take some time and effort, but I think it's worth it!
Best of luck!
ymmf
2007-12-09 10:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is 10, so she is old enough to know a little bit about the situation. Just tell her that right now Dad and Auntie are not getting along...just like she doesn't always get along with her brother. Don't tell her why...tell her it is a private argument...but that Auntie is really upset, and has said some really mean things about Daddy, and you don't want her to have to hear those things. Reassure her that Daddy and Auntie will make up and everything will be ok, but for right now we all need to keep our space...just like when she is mad at her brother, she needs to get away from him for a while.
2007-12-09 21:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach them the values of standing for what's right and the principles and morals that go along with that title. It sure means that at times you'll get your feelings hurt, but it doesn't last as long as a lie or finding out later that you were misled....the truth shall set you free! joel
2007-12-09 18:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by jaguar1753 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell your daughter a little of whats going on, and leave it upto her to decide if she wants to contact her aunt. Let her ring her, and stay out of the conversation, but tell your daughter before she rings that she still has to clear any plans with you first, before she says yes.
truth is the best policy
2007-12-09 18:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by razza1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, stay away from the in laws...I came out of a very serious same type of deal relationship and they are nothing but schemers. I would say if you can maintain the fil relation do so to protect him if he listens...ok...Distance your family from the money hungry yo yos...You are protecting your family.
2007-12-09 18:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your daughter is young and if it has happened with my children (actually is has ) I told my daughters that it is grown up stuff and now is not the right time.
2007-12-09 19:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋