Family & Relationships - 7 November 2007

There is a family in my neighborhood that appear to be the "perfect" family. The husband is attractive, intelligent, a good provider and a good Daddy. The wife is 16 years younger than he and quite a pretty. She is President of the PTA and a good Mommy. They have 2 beautiful children, an 11yo boy and a 9yo girl. They just got a puppy; and have the perfect little house, on a perfect little street, in our perfect little neighborhood. Everything seems truly "perfect" but it's not. I know for a fact that the husband been having an affair, perhaps not his first, for over a year. The wife doesn't seem to have any idea. It just breaks my heart. I don't really know her. Do I keep this information to myself? Help, I need your advice, I'm at a loss!

2007-11-07 09:34:41 · 15 answers · asked by gem20 1 in Family

ok heres the situation. my fiance doesnt have any friends to ask to be his best man. his dad said he would do it if he couldnt find anybody to be it so now his dad is his best man. is that werid? have u ever heard of people doing that before? please be serious

2007-11-07 09:31:53 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-11-07 09:31:28 · 15 answers · asked by annomyous 1 in Singles & Dating

my brother recently turned 18; he always had a bad relationship with my mom and dad and he recently got kicked out of the house to live on his own. i know he'd been smoking weed and cigarrettes before behind our backs. He always looks tired, and sometimes he's extremely happy for no reason at all. My parents are allowing him to stay in our basement now. So he technically lives with us but pays rent. A couple of weeks ago i saw a slightly white shadow on his nose. I told him to wipe his nose& i thought nothing of it. When i come home somtimes he says he's using my room and I'm not allowed in. today he said i couldnt go in my room but broke the lock & saw my cousin who is my brother's roomate. i looked on my dresser and saw my long mirror drapped across it with 7 little piles of coke arranged on the mirror. I tried to act as if i didnt see anything. i exchanged awkward conversation with my cousin then left. is my brother on coke or is he just selling? no that ones better than the other

2007-11-07 09:28:44 · 29 answers · asked by [ x y z ] 3 in Family

question kinda self explanatory


serious answers please

2007-11-07 09:26:10 · 22 answers · asked by Panama 3 in Singles & Dating

my question is why does this happen? i have a female that i work with and the situation is like this, for 2 or 3 days in a row she will come by speak, smile and some mild conversation and then for a week we will not speak and then the cycle repeats itself, it just seems odd that one day we will be buddy-buddy and then the next total strangers why does this happen-note i do not begin the conversations when we have them she does, but why does this happen?

2007-11-07 09:24:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Our latest disagreement, after the members of the bridal party and the location of the ceremony, is the wording on the invitations.
I never realised how much conflict this thing would cause - my poor btb is freaking out trying to keep the peace and also have at least a little bit of what she wants...

2007-11-07 09:24:31 · 21 answers · asked by Lucas 1 in Weddings

why do you think they get so impassioned and take things personally?

2007-11-07 09:23:58 · 16 answers · asked by Sinead 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Mine was when i was 3 and my mom had my sister i remember going to the hospital with my dad and i was standing on a big hill and could see my mom waving to me through the window.

2007-11-07 09:22:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I have started an abuse survivor group, how do I go about people joining to make it the best possible? I want this to be a seriously taken group where people could come and safely talk to get help and help others through their own stories. What do I do and how do I do it?
Thanks for responding......lets hope I can at least help 1 other that is in the same situation I was in.

2007-11-07 09:21:55 · 11 answers · asked by C O 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Okay - I found a picture in my Fiance's sent text messages on his phone. It was a picture of his 'member'. I confronted him about this and he said he found some random picture online and sent it to a girl online who kept bugging him. He said it is not a picture of him....but I know him pretty well and I think he is lying.

Guys - should I believe him?

2007-11-07 09:20:42 · 34 answers · asked by MorganQueen 3 in Singles & Dating

What should I do? She is much older than him. Him and I are the same age. I think he is afraid to try anything with me. Should I make the first move?

2007-11-07 09:19:27 · 35 answers · asked by RoseBud 2 in Singles & Dating

I have been married for 12 years, and even now every time I give my husband a kiss, he gets a hard on... Is this normal for men who has been married for that long? How many men still get this way when their wife kisses them, and how many women still do this to their husbands after just a kiss?

2007-11-07 09:19:25 · 22 answers · asked by ESP123 3 in Marriage & Divorce

but i feel a little shy and blocked towards him.We never went more far than kissing,we have good time watching movies,talking and teesing each other.We both had other relationships before but i don't know why i feel that i don't want to move fast.He tried to make a move 1 night but i stopped him,so we continue like this.Is it better to leave it for sometime as i enjoy it ?What about him?He seems he can wait ...

2007-11-07 09:19:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If tomorrow your "love" dies would you ever date/marry again?

2007-11-07 09:18:43 · 17 answers · asked by - 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I've tried talking to my husband about sharing responcibilities 50-50 - after his mother had said something about me needing to do all of the work and him going along with it. He says he'll try to do better. However, I'm very worried about his mother visiting so often, and planting little seeds in his head. All of his life, it's only been him and his mother - no father - and she's literally obsessed with him. He's been brought up that anything she says, goes.

Despite how many hours I work, 6 days a week, his mother continues to tell him that since I have a home business, everything is my responcibility. She repeats it multiple times - and then takes him out shopping and out to eat - just the two of them - to get on his good side.

My husband, whom I've been with for 10 years, married since May, never once showed a sign of being like this. Then again, his mother wasnt around very much until now. She was gone for most his adolescence and teenage years.

2007-11-07 09:18:12 · 6 answers · asked by icedfantasies 3 in Family

for example due to divorce, abuse, etc etc
how does it affect you and how do you cope?

2007-11-07 09:17:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my friends and I wer having this conversation yesterda so I was just wondering.

2007-11-07 09:16:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been with my boyfriend for close to a year. We are very happy. We've had our differences but have always worked things out and want to be together. We've been planning on moving in together in the future (several months down the road). He has been very lovey and extra sweet with me lately. Telling me he loves me a lot more than usual, going out on extra dates during the week, and just going out of his way to be sweet to me.

So, how do you know when he is ready to marry???

2007-11-07 09:15:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Well, its a long distance relationship, and I meet her pretty rarely (once every school holidays or so).. She gets jealous really easy and mad at me quite alot for stupid things, such as I was talking to her friend the other day, and she got mad. I think this is because she thinks I'll end up leaving her for someone else or something, . so a few days later she asked me to delete her friend from msn, which i did..

what do you think about this?

2007-11-07 09:14:57 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

over the summer, i hooked up with this guy. its a loooooooong story, but basically i was in love, and he hated me, but made me think he liked me( or so i heard) it has been 3 months sience the break up and im still not over him. i dont know if i should go for him, or get another guy? can someone help me????

2007-11-07 09:13:48 · 15 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Singles & Dating

Alot of times I hear that men are so easy, and women are so smart and they can play with a guy's mind so easily. is that true?

~i know i may sound dumb, but im a teen, and i never dated or try to mess with a guys mind before lol

2007-11-07 09:11:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-07 09:11:01 · 8 answers · asked by Me M 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband is a wonderful man, who is always there for his family when they need him, and is head-over-heals for his little 6 month old daughter, and would do just about anything to see her smile!

Does anyone know of ways in which I could thank my husband this Christmas?

I want to do something unforgettable for him, to show him my gratitude for being a wonderful husband & father!

2007-11-07 09:10:28 · 32 answers · asked by ♂ Equibrilium ♀ 4 in Marriage & Divorce

The saddest day of my life is today....... I don't know what to do anymore. He was my first love, my first kiss.. I don't know what to do...

2007-11-07 09:10:26 · 57 answers · asked by ٩(̾●̮̮̃̾•̃̾)۶ Gatorade 4 in Singles & Dating

Well unfortunately, I don't have much space to work with here, but let me say that this is a hard question for me to say. Nevertheless, I feel I have to.

My step-father is an alcoholic. HIs episodes of drinking are violent, angry, and have resulted in abusive fights with my mother. The things he's done have cause irreversible harm to me, my nine-year old sister, and possibly my four-year-old brother. Luckily, he's never touched any of us. If he ever did, it would cause me to do a lot more harm to him than me.

The problem is, he only drinks when my mother isn't home or when she works late. He'll be the only one to watch us and drink alcohol or vodka he's hidden in the house. I don't know what kind of sick person would choose this over us, but he has.

If I had more room, I might be able to go into the problem in more detail but unfortunately I don't. Bottom line, I don't know what to do.

2007-11-07 09:10:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-11-07 09:09:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My wife and I have been married for a year and our sex life has gone downhill. Before we were married we made love once or twice a day. Now its like 3 or 4 times per month. I don't have to have it once a day, but a couple times a week would be great. I love my wife and I think she is very sexy. I tell her she is beautiful & sexy all the time & that I love her. I always have initiate sex... she never does anymore even though I tell her how much it turns me on when she does. She is either tired, not in the mood or doesn't feel good most of the time. I try to turn her on by kissing her neck and rubbing her back but sometimes she just lays there. I don't know whats going on with her. I know she is stressed with College and her job. Also she has changed her birth control. She tells me she loves me & cuddles up next to me all the time. Girls can you please help. Do you think she is stressed out, depressed, bad birth control, etc. What would cause her sex drive to slow down that much? Thanks!

2007-11-07 09:08:51 · 10 answers · asked by John 2 in Marriage & Divorce

So, I've been like the 'back up friend' since she turned 12. we're both 13 now and im sick of her. she says i have nothing against her and i could list a million things against her. I'm afraid to stand up to her, one day i just EXPLODED with anger and i called her a b---- and she's like what have i ever done to you, you're being a jerk! do u have PMS or something? and she stomped off. i was so mad at her that i just blocked her on aim and stopped talking to her completely. she is confronting me in front of everyone and saying , why did you say that you hate? what have i ever done to you? you're the one who called me a b----" and other junk like that. i don't want to be her friend anymore and I've told her that so many times, why doesn't she get it and move on?! what do i say to her? and what should i do?!

2007-11-07 09:08:45 · 22 answers · asked by free_to_believe_i_can_fly 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

AND MAKE TIME FOR SEX

2007-11-07 09:08:07 · 7 answers · asked by k 1 in Marriage & Divorce