So, I've been like the 'back up friend' since she turned 12. we're both 13 now and im sick of her. she says i have nothing against her and i could list a million things against her. I'm afraid to stand up to her, one day i just EXPLODED with anger and i called her a b---- and she's like what have i ever done to you, you're being a jerk! do u have PMS or something? and she stomped off. i was so mad at her that i just blocked her on aim and stopped talking to her completely. she is confronting me in front of everyone and saying , why did you say that you hate? what have i ever done to you? you're the one who called me a b----" and other junk like that. i don't want to be her friend anymore and I've told her that so many times, why doesn't she get it and move on?! what do i say to her? and what should i do?!
2007-11-07 09:08:45 · 22 answers · asked by free_to_believe_i_can_fly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh, I went though ALOT of this junk. Well, first off say something like "I just don't want to be friends right now, ok? If you want to talk to me do it in private, and not in front of everyone. " And then just stop talking to her. I don't blame you..
Well, good luck. If you need anything send a message.
Haha, i'm reallyyyyyy bored, send something if you want to chat(:
2007-11-07 09:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you hurt because you were a back up friend??? Since when does position matter??
Apologize. You were wrong to explode and call her the b word. She was wrong to confront you in public, but you apologize first. If she doesn't apologize, that's her problem.
You never purposely hurt someone, you explain quiety, rationally if you can, that you are ready to move on and meet more people. Don't harm her, bad mouth her, just move on. If people gossip about her, don't participate. (that's really hard!) In fact you should always speak kindly of her in the future (even if it galls you inside). You will come out as a kind and generous person, not one who calls her "friends" the b-word. Avoid these confrontations, nobody comes out looking good.
2007-11-07 17:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever it is that she did to you you need to tell her out of respect even though you don't like her. It's important to forgive her and not continue to be mean. You don't have to be close buddies with her but you should keep it at least distantly friendly. She obviously wants to know what she did to maybe make it right and that means she could be a good friend if you let her. It's just important that you communicate when someone or something is bothering you before you blow up at them. If she is intimidating then maybe writing her a letter would be a better idea. It's easier to just try to block someone out and not tell them whats wrong but in the end you burn bridges with people and you will find yourself friendless. Good luck and I hope you can assert yourself with her or work it out! Take care!
2007-11-07 17:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by loseit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok just say to her something like, You have been going on about it over and over, why dont you just leave it and let me carry on becuase i dont want to be friends with you any more, you treat me like garbage.
If you say something like this she might realise what shes like
I had a friend exactly the same but she embarressed me infront of a whole lot of people so i said to her that she thinks shes so good now, maybe she shud just take a look at herself and she might realise how shallow she is and she realised she was bieng horrible and has acted the same as everyone else since
Or you could just trust your self, do what you thinks right and go with what you thinks a good idea.
2007-11-07 17:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just really want to be your friend. And is hurt by you calling her a b**** ,and thinks that the only way to get back at you is to confronting you in front of everyone. If you really don't want to be her friend. Then just write her a note or unblock her on aim and just tell her how you feel. And that you felt like a back up friend and you didn't like and don't want to be her friend anymore. you have other friends that want to be your friend and not just have you as a back up friend.. Hope I helped.
2007-11-07 17:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by jamilove04330 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to just avoid her completely. I know teenagers can be so unpredictable due to hormones developing in such a strange way. That's nature. But if she keeps following and confronting you in public, you can report her to your teacher, and or principal. Treat her the same way as if a stranger is harrassing you. Report, report, and report with details, don't be afraid of her, or of doi ng so.
2007-11-07 17:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Dwarf_planet2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god, i have the exact same problem. I met this guy in the 2nd grade and he was my freind for about 2 years and then i matured and he didn't. well he keeps on stalking me everywhere, finily i said "STOP" and he did for a year but is still at it. I just ignore him most of the time but dont just shun him ill say hi every once and a wile and you should too. My case is diffrent (ive known him for 7 years now) but its still like yours. good luck, and remember dont totaly shun her, be nice.
2007-11-07 17:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be her friend and make her your back up friend. Put her off, always find better things to do. That way you don't have the drama of her thinking you don't like her, but you rid yourself of her by not spending any time whatsoever. Passive aggressive, but works wonders :)
2007-11-07 17:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by zhanz_liao 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do expect what you are doing. Be the bigger person and try not to let her get under you're skin.
2007-11-07 17:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! honestly, i think you should tell her how you feel but without exploding and calling her out of her name....if you feel you can't do that, then just ignore her but i think this whole thing is childish.
both of you have a lot of growing to do.
2007-11-07 17:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by simply-e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋