There is a family in my neighborhood that appear to be the "perfect" family. The husband is attractive, intelligent, a good provider and a good Daddy. The wife is 16 years younger than he and quite a pretty. She is President of the PTA and a good Mommy. They have 2 beautiful children, an 11yo boy and a 9yo girl. They just got a puppy; and have the perfect little house, on a perfect little street, in our perfect little neighborhood. Everything seems truly "perfect" but it's not. I know for a fact that the husband been having an affair, perhaps not his first, for over a year. The wife doesn't seem to have any idea. It just breaks my heart. I don't really know her. Do I keep this information to myself? Help, I need your advice, I'm at a loss!
2007-11-07 09:34:41 · 15 answers · asked by gem20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't know what she knows - and you don't know about their relationship. Since you are not a close friend of hers, this is not something you should get involved with.
If you are not close to them, how do you really know about an affair? Somebody else told you? Unless you actually saw them in the act, you really don't know for sure.
2007-11-07 09:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am wondering, can you give us all more info on how you know this husband is cheating? Is it something you recently saw? Where you out and saw him? How do you know? You did say that he was much older than the wife, so he might have a daughter or a niece, who knows.
If you don't know this woman, I wouldn't say a thing. I would try to get to know here and have her out in the community more. Maybe there is a good reason. Which I doubt, but if you can help her get a sense of being her own person, maybe that might help.
2007-11-07 10:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by Vetty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is such a hard position to be in. I as the woman in the 'perfect' relationship thought that I wanted to know. Are you close friends with her? If not than it might be better off to leave it alone. He'll get caught eventually and you wont have to be involved in all the emotional fall out from the truth coming out. And whatever you do dont sleep with him to. Thats what my informer did.
2007-11-07 09:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Becki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you don't really know her....I'd keep it to myself. If she thinks her life is that "perfect" then let her live her life that way. It shouldn't be up to you to destroy her false sense of security. Maybe she DOES know and would rather have everything else be perfect so she has chosen to not make an issue of it with her husband.
2007-11-07 09:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really know her... so why would she believe you. Good chance she already knows, but doesn't want to come face to face with it. Best you just worried about your own life in that perfect little world and not someone else who is not asking for your help.
2007-11-07 09:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't assume the wife doesn't know. This is absolutely not your business and you should definitely keep it TOTALLY to yourself and tell no one. People need to work things out their own way. You said you don't know these people. Nuff said!
2007-11-07 09:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by DW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you want to be told something like this? Do it just the same way that you'd want to find out...be gentle...but be willing for any fall out especially if you can't provide proof when telling her...she's more than likely not going to believe you unless you do have proof...Good luck...remember be gentle!
2007-11-07 09:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, how do you know...hearsay or first hand knowledge?
anything less that first hand knowledge....butt out.
However, if you do have first hand knowledge...she needs to know...disease and all that...bring the name of a good lawyer..she needs protection.
2007-11-07 09:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by A A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Never borrow from someone else's problem or create problems yourself.
2007-11-07 09:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just leave if you think he is cheating on you or why don't you just ask him...I do think it is you the wife..sorry
2007-11-07 10:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by bette69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋