I got my heart broken today.... I really don't feel like living anymore... ......?

Question

The saddest day of my life is today....... I don't know what to do anymore. He was my first love, my first kiss.. I don't know what to do...

Answer 1

How old are you?

Answer 2

The first one is always the toughest to get over - they always have a little piece of your heart. However this fades with time, and once you are over your initial depression (which is perfectly normal), you will realize that there are many more people in the world who may be a better "fit" with you.

I am guessing that you are fairly young - probably still in your teens? At that age we are very vulnerable emotionally and also often insecure in our self-image or have self-esteem problems. This too can be overcome.

I would recommend that you try to forget relationships for a little while and put your attention and energy into doing something that you may have a personal interest in, for example, sports, art, writing, saving the environment, etc.

You might also want to learn about things that you are interested in but did not have the time or energy to pursue when you were putting a lot of energy into your former relationship.

Get involved with groups who are doing interesting things. You may find that you naturally hook up with someone who has similar interests in such a group - and that can be a basis for a longer-term relationship.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Girl, I understand how you are feeling, and so do many,many other people. I know right now seems like the end of your life, but weather you want to believe this right now or not, you will come to see that it isn't the end of you and it isn't the end of love. You will find someone or they will find you and you will feel all those wonderful feelings that it brings with it. Pain really stinks but non the less it is necessary to feel so that you learn what not to do or deal with the next time. If it wasn't for the bad to go with the good, none of us would ever learn to appreciate what really is important in life.
Right now lean on those that you have. Hang with friends and family and give your heart time to heal and your mind time to adjust to things on your own. Trust me, in a while you will start to feel much better and be o-k with your life again. Time does heal the wounds. One day you will look back and probably be glad that it happened this way. Why? Cause you will have someone that loves you just as much as you love them and wouldn't trade them for the world. And you wouldn't have them if you still had what you think you lost.God is smart. He knows if he really gave us full control of our own destiny, we would most certainly screw it all up by thinking life was over every time we had our feelings hurt or our heart broken. Trust in fate of faith, it is what guides us.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

Welcome to life! Listen we've all gone through that. It is a part of growing up. In time you will feel the pain less, and less. Sharing your love with someone else is risky, they may not respond the way you hope they will. You may find that you were the only one that was actually sharing your love. He may have just been enjoying your company. But on the other hand if you don't share your love it will not grow. Think of it like a rose! If you don't give a rose water once in a while it will die. So do what we all do, take your chances and learn through each experience. Good luck. You just hit a bump in the road, you didn't fall off the edge of the earth!

Answer 5

Sweet heart, no one ever dies from a broken heart (unless they have been married 60 or so years). There's always a better fish in the sea and you will get better at picking the best mackerel. All relationships are stepping stones to the best one and in that case you marry that fish :) Take each day at a time and keep very busy and you will live. Call up some old friends you have neglected since being with him and go out and have some girl time. Take care, T

Answer 6

I'm sorry, but please... get over it... My first boyfriend, first crush, first kiss, etc. dumped me about a month or so ago, in the middle of my clinical depression and a period in which I was already suicidal, so PLEASE do not complain about how horrible your life is because ONE guy, your FIRST guy dumped you. Instead, go out and find a new guy -- a BETTER guy. Believe me -- I know it feels like s*** and all, esp. if YOU were the one being dumped, but you have apparently depended way too much on that one guy to make you happy, and now you're paying for it.

Wait a few weeks. Or a few months. However long it takes you to get out of the inane funk you've apparently fallen into. And then go out and try again. This is NOT the last time you are going to feel like this, so you might as well get what strength you can from this first experience to bolster your defenses for future funks.

Answer 7

It is hard to replace that kind of love. But in life it takes events like what your going through to learn how to better yourself. Don't get yourself to thinking it's the end of the world, this world has plenty of fish out there so someone better will come along. Don't hurt yourself ! Your family and friends will be very hurt if you do such a thing. If he broke your heart and left you, then that is not true love. He did not love you enough to fully commit to you. There is nothing wrong with you. Your heart is big enough to show how much you can love, so he is the one losing something good , not you. Your first love may be gone now, but friends and family will never be gone, look for them to be there for you to lend a crying shoulder. Go ahead and cry, it's good to let it out and not hold it in.

Answer 8

this is goignto be blunt...but move on. I mean, dating and breaking up is a very major pat of growing up. If it happened today, of course you feel like crap. Take everyhting that reminds you of him...EVERYTHING, even if its your favorite cd, and put it in a box in the back of your closet. DO NOT LOOK AT IT. Go to the move store or if you have cable and on demand...get some icecream or whatever your favorite guilty pleasure food is and watch sad movies and cry all night long. talk to your mom, maybe she will let you stay home form school tomorrow and take a sick day. The best advice i can give you is that, if a guy dumps you, than he doesnt realize your full potential, and wasnt really worth it in the first place. I know its hard to see now, but in a few days youll feel better. I am assuming that he never meant to hurt you, and probbly feels horrible that he made you feel so crappy, but like i said, its part of growing up. Ive been dumped too many times to count and dumped people even more. Its not fun, ever, but know waht you get out of it. Time to grow and find yourself. Do your nails, take a reall long relaxing bath...do stuff for you. my first love...who was my first time...cameto me and broke up wih me because he cheated on his friend who was a guy. Although it doesnt sound that bad, i was ruined, and i had a lot of problems after that...its hard, and i feel for you...but you just need to keep moving foreward. Its funny, because one day youll meet somone and theywill be your second love...

Answer 9

Take it as a learning experience. You cannot live life without pain. Sometimes the people you love leave you, and that's something you learn. Dying won't make you feel better, it'll just make you dead. There's no fun in that. There is so much out there to do. Sky diving, hang gliding, rollerblading, skateboarding, painting, reading, laughing, hanging with your friends... Go do something fun with your friends and get your mind off it. It hurts now, but it will hurt less as time goes on, and once you do some introspection, it will teach you a lot about yourself that you didn't know.

Answer 10

Listen sweetheart, it sucks getting hurt in a relationship, whether it's your first or hundred and first. Every single person here has gone through it and survived. You will be amazed at how fast you can recover. Just look at it as a learning experience. Time heals all wounds as they say. Just give yourself some time. It's okay to be sad for a while, but understand that there are probably going to be many more guys for you in your lifetime, and one of them is going to be the guy that you fall in love with and spend the rest of your life with. Hang in there, it will get better, I promise.

Answer 11

Sweetey -- TIME will take care of this. We ALL have to go through it -- it IS a part of life! You'll always remember your first love and we ALL know you are hurting inside but I swear to you......years down the road, you'll have forgotten so much about him. You'll get through this -- THIS TOO (PAIN) SHALL PASS. You are living and learning and you are young with a full life ahead of you. First loves very rarely make it into a marriage if that is what you were expecting. That is reality. I'm sorry you are hurting right now but things WILL get better --- I PROMISE.