Family & Relationships - 24 October 2007

hi frens.i am a 21 yrs old girl having a bf.we r getting married in a few months,we hv sex many times,but wht i hate is anal sex which my bf always insists for.Now wht to do,he has been trying for it from 6 months but i am not allowing it.He says it is exciting but i think i am not ready for this as i am very scared of this as i hv heard of many things abt it.Now wht to do..pls help!

2007-10-24 20:11:25 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for like 2 months now and we have gone on 7 date, and been to like 4 dances together! But I really want to get closer? How do I knowif he wants to and how far in should I go? Because I mean were already pretty close but I keep wishing to move on in! LOL! HELP!

2007-10-24 20:10:34 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Shes on birth control, weve been dating for over 2 years, and have been sexually active since June 22 of this year. We didnt use a condom the first 10 or so times bc niether of us had any STD bc we were both virgins. We live together and are financially sound if she did get pregnant. anyways I am not emotionally ready for a kid (although I do want them someday) and her friend just got pregnant while on birth control. This worried me a bit so I suggested to her that we use condoms just to be a little extra safe for now, but she said no. She said that her friends tell her its not as good with a condom, and she feels that we wouldnt be as "connected" if we used one. Im not emotionally ready for a kid yet (although if she did get pregnant i would honestly be excited, but i want us to have some more "just us" time first). Anyways my question: if she wont let me use a condom, is there any other way to be safer against preganacy? I dont know what I can do

2007-10-24 20:09:12 · 20 answers · asked by Sebastian 3 in Singles & Dating

I am like talking to somebody for an hour, and they're being friendly and everything and all of a sudden outta the blue, they more ocld and distant and talk to me less and aviod being near me, what's the problem, and I wonder what could of happened

2007-10-24 20:06:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'm 22 yrs old and Im gettin married December 30,2007 and this is my 1st marriage and were gonna exchange gifts but I was wondering what kind of gifts do you give each other? Im not really sure and Ive been to only 1 wedding but I was too young to remember. So any advice would be apperciated.. Thank you.

2007-10-24 19:55:46 · 20 answers · asked by Sweet N Loveable 1 in Weddings

Ok well im 17 years old & i have a lil brother thats 13..anyways like its weird knowing he's grwoing up now & he started dating this girl thats like just bugs me she seems just so concieted & with an attitude..but the thing is i have never even got to meet her yet. like how she is on myspace and how my mom said she was makes me just want to kick her *** cause i dont want her to like brake his heart hes like soo sprung like its crazy i never seen him act like this ..hes been with other lil girls that i know of and hes never been like that ..I want to tell him what i think about this girl cause he always tells me what he thinks about the guys i go out with .but i dont know if i should cause i told him once shes not pretty and he go t like mad ...i want 2 tell him but scared like i dont want him to be mad at me & not only that we dont live with each other but i see him all the time & if we fight then that means we stop talkign for like a every long time should i tell him or what?

2007-10-24 19:54:35 · 4 answers · asked by tart 1 in Family

Details please, like height, hair, personality qualities, easy and sleezy or reserve and ladylike, and whatever else you think makes the best kind of girl.

2007-10-24 19:53:35 · 7 answers · asked by ♥ 1 in Singles & Dating

if your friend or something dies, yea you would go to the funeral and all but would you really care, i was with some friends and there best friend died, and on the way to the funeral they were acting all happy and makin jokes n stuff.

2007-10-24 19:53:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been with my husband for 7 years now, and I have been married for 1 and 1/2 years.
I am really scared cause I am not sure what to do about this situation.... I love him! I just hate what he does to me.
I am not the perfect woman, I am a little over weight, I am cranky at times.. and sometimes I am plain mean.
The thing is, he is very abusive to me. He is the only man I have been sexually active with. I think that I might have felt obligated to marry him too...

About two years ago, he got into drugs and slept around claiming he never wanted to see me again, he came back to me a week later starving and crying for help, I couldnt turn him down, I loved him ya know...?
Since then he turned into a verbally and physically abusive man. He has punched my in the face, choked me till I almost passed out, thrown me in the wall, and hit me repetivtly.
He stopped the physical abuse about a month before we got married. Now he is very verbally absive telling how much he hates me.

2007-10-24 19:51:13 · 17 answers · asked by ?? ?? 4 in Marriage & Divorce

A friend I've known for years is starting to get on my nerves. I'm seeing a pattern where her stories aren't matching up to other gossips and stories.

For example, someone called me saying my friend rushed to tell her that I stirred up a heated situation between the two, which is not true. She had called me to gossip and I just said i knew about them but didn't give any opinion.

And whenever she retells a story, it exaggerates how I did something wrong, makes me a laughing stock and her look good.

We use to be best friends but I stopped hanging out with her alone. However we have the same group of friends and it is affecting friendships and my sanity.

If I approach her alone, she gives the diva attitude. If there are people around, she acts all cute and innocent. I don't know if I do anything about it or if I should.

2007-10-24 19:49:34 · 3 answers · asked by lojix 3 in Friends

Me and my boyfriend are one hour apart (thats by air flight!) hes In Melbourne and i'm in Sydney, one state away. i feel hes gonna break up with me because hes all stressed, hes worried about school he said he thinks hes gonna fail (and i think thats my fault because in stead of studying hes being hopping online and on the phone to talk to me!) he said he doesn't know about what he wants anymore and i know the major issues making him feel like this is actually the distance and he even said to me i don't think its good we go out because I'm up here and your down there and I'm worried about other guys. so i was wondering what can i do to save this? year 11 is finishing tomorrow, and my family and i are moving to his sate in December, so I'll be with him soon, but what can i do now, i really cant bare to lose him, hes the best bf i have ever had. please no advice saying dump him! coz thats not helpful at all. thanks! ♥ x

2007-10-24 19:49:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-24 19:46:53 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-24 19:44:39 · 11 answers · asked by Elizabeth T 1 in Singles & Dating

My friend was really mad at me cuz i didn't pay him $5 i owed him. My family doesn't even have any money at all right now.
My dad woke me up at 6:00 this morning b/c he neded ten dollars for gas money and i didn't have any.
I cry all the time b/c of this and no one understands and they think that thier parents are atms.
He has been really mean because of this and wont let it go.
What should i say- he talks about it all of the time.

2007-10-24 19:44:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I Met this girl through millionairecupid.com and we chat , talk for some time?
So I ask here , would you like to go out for dinner one night....She said sure..
Next time I met here we talked alittle and So I ask her I she Mind If I called her, she said no then she Gave me Her Number.....
Ok, I called her I got no answer. So I seen her and I have told her I called today , she said did you leave a message. (NO)
SO As I was leaving She said to call me this week, which was lastnight she saidthat.
So my question is When should I call her ? the Next day or wait two days or else.....?

2007-10-24 19:43:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

People say single is better, but some say having someone is better. Have you guys ever find yourself laying in bed at night alone and feeling lonely and wishing that there was someone next to you...?? but I don't want to rush into a relationship, and break up eventually. Wanted to wait and find the 1 which can keep for the rest of my life.

2007-10-24 19:41:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been in a serious relationship for about 3 months and I love her with all my heart. I have been trying to balance time with her and time with my friends and it seems like when i spend more time with the other, the opposite gets upset. I have been sick for about a week and we havent been able to see eachother as much as we normally do. I have alot of health tests and things coming up and she is my support, but lately i feel as though she thinks i am ignoring her, but i am not trying to. She means the world to me and has told me she would only ever dump me if I cheated. Am i just too paranoid or is there something i can do to help her not feel neglected? i stride on being a good boyfriend and i have told her i would do whatever it takes for her.

2007-10-24 19:38:51 · 6 answers · asked by amshamah 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

Elsewhere, I have mentioned that I have no family. That is not exactly true. My mother is alive and I have 3 half siblings. Just that it has been many years since I attempted to have anything to do with them.When I was 10 (almost 11) my mother remarried. Two weeks later he kicked me out. A difference in religion. I was already an athiest. I won't want to give his religion. Just say he was in all respects a very bad member of a respectable faith. But I never received support or any other help from then on. Last time I tried to develop something with my mother was 7 years ago. I mention I am a reserve sheriff officer. She was supporting my 3 half siblings drug habits, 2 meth users, the other preferred crack cocaine. One a major jewelry thief, my mother the fence.Happily out of my jurisdiction. I would like to have something of a relation with my mother, but cannot think of anything. Nothing will change and I cannot tolerate drug users or anyone aiding them. But someone else might.

2007-10-24 19:37:31 · 4 answers · asked by genghis1947 4 in Family

2007-10-24 19:37:08 · 15 answers · asked by supernatural_butterfly_purple 1 in Friends

Ok, for those of you who read my other one theres a second part to that story. So i still like that girl a lot, she comes first place in my mind, but this other girl who i haven't seen since 5th grade (5 years) has become a lot more attractive! I just recently saw her at school and didn't even know she existed because we have a different schedule. She noticed me and commented me on how different i look. After that I started seeing her everywere, its like if she is appearing out of the blue when i never saw her in those locations before. I still like the other girl more but this girl is more straight forward...I need advice...(im not good with dates)

2007-10-24 19:36:35 · 4 answers · asked by Shaunathan Shizzle 3 in Singles & Dating

Its just been pretty boring latley and i want to spice it up a little so what can be fun and safe at the same time?

2007-10-24 19:36:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

so there's this guy who I thought was really cool
we have been texting each other like crazy & text everyday for hours upon hours
come to find out yesterday he tells me he's still 'in love'(according to him its a special kind of love) with his ex gf (who mutually broke up with him 6 months ago) BUT he said he likes me.... & respects me
umm I know some of yall have prolly been in my shoes & I was flabbergasted! I didn't know what to say.. I was crying on the phone to my friend while I was texting him.. I was heartbroken to say the least.
umm what should I do next????? fer sure I'm gonna take a few days to cool but should I talk to him, continue texting as we have been, etc.? :-\

tonight he texted me saying goodnite :) (and yeah he only does the smiley face when he's happy......ugh)

2007-10-24 19:34:45 · 2 answers · asked by Just Me. 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Every time we have someone sick in the house my family is ALWAYS playing the blame game. Last time dad was in the hospital my aunt came up to me and told me that he was there because of ME. This time, I was completely overwhelmed, so I went to jump rope for a while as a distraction. Lo and behold, as soon as they saw me, the attacks started again. 'You're not even human! How can you jump rope when your dad is sick..." Is it wrong to want to get away for a while? I do everything I can...

2007-10-24 19:29:22 · 5 answers · asked by Amoondo 2 in Family

I meet my father/dad/ after 30years after a long search. And everything went fine at first, then he told me all about himself and some of my family from his side. As it turns out my dad and some of his family uncles etc.. Have been underworld gangsters for more than 50 years which blew me away and some of the stories he told me well...! Anyway we dont talk now his choosing I thought I gave it my best shot. So now Im in the dilemma of should I open up and write a book about what I know? I also know the film industry was and still is interesed in making a film about certain characters. I dont think I owe my dad any loalty as I looked for him for all those years. He didnt look for me and its not my fault i know what i know now.
Well what should I do?
What would you do?

2007-10-24 19:28:19 · 11 answers · asked by Gogo Mojo 1 in Family

help. my boyfriend has an ex on myspace that continues to talk to him and he responds back to her. she tells him that she loves him on his page and he showed it to me because he didnt wanna seem like he was hiding anything. but she continues to leave pic comments and all. he broke up with her after a while because she mad him sad alot and he developed feelings for me. they've never even met in person and NEVER will. so i dont see why it bothers me. she was at the bottom of his friends list when they broke up and he made me number one and now she's number 5 all of a sudden. i feel that she's trying to break us up. she always calls whenever im over at his house....and i feel like she's trying to break us up by calling him "hers" i dont like it at all. what should i do? should i have the right to feel this way? plz help. serious answers only. thanx

2007-10-24 19:25:26 · 7 answers · asked by Chenelle B 1 in Singles & Dating

Ever play emotional roller coaster?
Me neither!
But it sounded good at the moment!

Tell me your favorite mind game, when dealing with members of the opposite sex (oh, I guess if you're gay, then significant others). Be creative, have fun & please use your imagination with all safety devices unlocked!

2007-10-24 19:24:13 · 16 answers · asked by Andy K 6 in Singles & Dating

so we have been messing around with this guy for about a month now, and we had sex this weekend for the first time ..... the only time he texts is when he wants some or when he wants to get his hair braided. the thing is i have never never bothered to initiate anything either... i never call or text i just reply to his. last week he sent a message on facebook asking me to go to his room and just sleep next to him after i get off work in at 7 in the morning. i never went. the next day i asked he what was upto he never replied ....tit for tat iguess.
the other thing is he is really good friends with my ex and i think that makes him uncomfortable ..i really like this guy... i think.... so how can make him want more than sex? or at least find out if the face that he is friends wiht my ex is what is holding him back?

2007-10-24 19:21:49 · 7 answers · asked by aydu 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-24 19:21:38 · 16 answers · asked by morayo_007 1 in Friends

im trying to make a cd for my bestfriend to listen to for when i go into surgery and stuff

2007-10-24 19:16:12 · 14 answers · asked by livingthemoment 2 in Friends

we have been together for a few months and i do love children, i have 4 others but i dont even like this girl, we have no common ground. im afraid if i tell her the truth she will be very upset and that might hurt the baby and to be sure i would never want that, but by not telling her i feel like im doing something terrable. i know im wrong to lead her on but ...... what the heck do i do?

2007-10-24 19:15:46 · 22 answers · asked by samiam24348 2 in Singles & Dating