we have been together for a few months and i do love children, i have 4 others but i dont even like this girl, we have no common ground. im afraid if i tell her the truth she will be very upset and that might hurt the baby and to be sure i would never want that, but by not telling her i feel like im doing something terrable. i know im wrong to lead her on but ...... what the heck do i do?
2007-10-24 19:15:46 · 22 answers · asked by samiam24348 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you already have 4 kids you know the drill.
2007-10-24 19:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Tubby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well condoms and a conscious sound like a wise choice for you. Other than that, I'd support her through the pregnancy, but try not to lead her on. I would be honest about how you feel, but make sure she knows that you are NOT abandoning the child. Be there, be supportive, and make sure you NEVER leave her wondering where you are. Just because you don't have feelings for her doesn't mean this child deserves anything other than all you can give.
P.S. Get snipped.
2007-10-24 19:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by munkees81 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a pretty crummy situation. But you shouldn't lie to her because no one deserves that. Having said that I'd really not want to have to tell a person in that situation I had no feelings for them. Tell her that you don't know how you feel any longer and you are not sure if you want to spend the rest of your life with her, maybe? That you'll always be there to take care of said baby and all but you're not sure you are the right partner for her and vice versa? Whatever you do don't tell her you never loved her that would be the second worst thing she could hear. Whatever you decide to do, good luck. :(
2007-10-24 19:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Star X 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can,t go around impregnating women and then decide that she is not the one , grow up if you keep going like this in ten years time you will have hundreds of kids knocking at your door, your lack of consideration towards the children is appalling if you confess to liking kids .... tell the poor girl that you are not proper father material and that she and the child would be so much better off not knowing you, as you are not going to be able to set much of a example for any of your sons in the way to treat woman , and raise a decent family .
if your problem is the cost of condoms well you need to snap out of it , because the cost of raising children is more ......
2007-10-24 19:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by justanother1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 things. one works for present, other for future.
Present, you're saying this and that about her but afraid to tell her the truth because you dont want to upset or hurt her feeling. well, take like this, you will have to suck it up for the next at least 18 years. are you ready for that? if there is still a chance of her getting an abortion, then sweety, **** her feeling and tell her the truth, this is your life you are talking about! and this isn't something you should hold in just cause you dont want to hurt her. rather she knows the truth then live with this feeling for the rest of your life.
For the Future, WEAR A CONDOM!!!
2007-10-24 19:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's kinda funny that you have to take a test to get a driver's license, but don't need one to have sex. You found common ground briefly for one night, it shows your thinking with the wrong head.
Maybe in the future you will think about other peoples feelings and put them ahead of your own gratification.
2007-10-24 19:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Rudy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell her how you feel, but be sure to tell her how much you care about the baby and how you will be there to support them. if you dont feel anything for her you cant keep at it or it will just hurt her more later on. tell her now but make sure she's in a state where she wont do anything that could harm her or the baby.
2007-10-24 19:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by artguru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a hint: don't sleep with someone you don't want to raise a family with.
It's too late for you, but if you are any kind of man, you will take responsibility for what you did (and keep your fly zipped up too).
Edit:
The fact is that you have a child. A son or daughter. You are now a father.
It's time to be a man.
2007-10-24 19:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by johnny_100pesos 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what you have to do now and you know what you shouldn't have done before. Don't you think you have enough kids out of wedlock? Do you support your kids financially and emotionally or are you a deadbeat? Got any STD's yet? You better learn to put something over that thing and you better grow up. . .
2007-10-24 19:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by towanda 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her and tell her how you feel. Why lie and lead her on. It's best to tell her now so she can better prepare herself to be single with a child. Also you should learn to use protection, and take the time to get to know people before impregnating them.
2007-10-24 19:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree wit the ones below...just rember
dnt push a girl away so much tht she turns around and walks out of ur life, bcoz she may never turn back.
maybe nxt time u shud thnk before u do stuff, coz u just screwed up this girls life, and the unborn baby's. maybe thre wont be a nxt time.
2007-10-24 19:22:15 · answer #11 · answered by Cheeky Munky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋