Me and my boyfriend are one hour apart (thats by air flight!) hes In Melbourne and i'm in Sydney, one state away. i feel hes gonna break up with me because hes all stressed, hes worried about school he said he thinks hes gonna fail (and i think thats my fault because in stead of studying hes being hopping online and on the phone to talk to me!) he said he doesn't know about what he wants anymore and i know the major issues making him feel like this is actually the distance and he even said to me i don't think its good we go out because I'm up here and your down there and I'm worried about other guys. so i was wondering what can i do to save this? year 11 is finishing tomorrow, and my family and i are moving to his sate in December, so I'll be with him soon, but what can i do now, i really cant bare to lose him, hes the best bf i have ever had. please no advice saying dump him! coz thats not helpful at all. thanks! ♥ x
2007-10-24 19:49:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Long distance realtionship do not work. That's for reality. But I can tell that you really are in to this guy and that losing him would be difficult for you.
However, based on your story, I can tell that he won't let go of you either. He just wants to have some time and space and he's just sorting things out. He's just set his studies as his first priority. He has his goal which is to finish his studies. It would be unfair on his part if you demand him to spend more time on you. It would only make matters worst if you put pressure in him if you keep on asking for attention, trust me. Instead, just try to understand him and give him some time and space. Support him in his studies. He would really appreciate it if you would support him finish his studies.
Send him a note saying that you are 'behind his back', meaning you support him all the way and that you love so much and that you miss him. Tell him also that if ever he has time maybe he could call you or send you a note just to say 'hi' and that 'he is doing just fine'.
Wishing the best for both of you.
2007-10-24 20:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Zed23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to you isnt' making him fail. I've been in one for 4 years now, he lives in Germany and i live in the U.S. we are both in college and passing our classes. I've gotten discouraged many times where i feel like your bf and i think that maybe its not worth it, most of the time i dont' mean it when i say it i just want to know that my bf is gonna fight to keep it together. Talk to him, let him know that he doesn't have to worry about other guys, tell him how you worry too, and tell him that you trust him enough to worry but not worry so much that is breaks you guys apart. Plan the times that you guys will talk, and try not to go over the time frame. My bf and i plan the times we talk that way we have a cut off point, it sounds harsh because sometimes we have a lot to say. When my bf knows i have an exam he will make sure that we talk for an hour and then tell me to go study. If you haven't already, get a webcam so that he gets to see you. I hope things work out, Good luck and let me know how it goes, let him know you want it to work. :)
2007-10-25 15:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Isabella20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him --- i really dont think that his talking to you has really made a difference to his exam prospects ---- if you are moving down in Dec that is not far away at all --- i would never suggest breaking up --- i think he is experiencing only what all of us experience when about to finish school --- what am i going to do for the rest of my life??? ---- he will get past it --- be there and let him know you care and remind him that its not long until you will be together ---- best wishes --- (i did my HSC mmmmm about 37 years ago and it was the same then and im still working out what i want to do with the rest of my life pmsl)
2007-10-24 19:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might not be helpful in your opinion, but telling you to dump him is the correct advise. If he is feeling trapped and you are ruining his education. Then don't you think hanging on is just going to drive a wedge even further between you two?
Trust me, break it off and let him finish school. If you get back together after that then great. If you don't then it wasn't ment to be.
2007-10-24 19:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋