I meet my father/dad/ after 30years after a long search. And everything went fine at first, then he told me all about himself and some of my family from his side. As it turns out my dad and some of his family uncles etc.. Have been underworld gangsters for more than 50 years which blew me away and some of the stories he told me well...! Anyway we dont talk now his choosing I thought I gave it my best shot. So now Im in the dilemma of should I open up and write a book about what I know? I also know the film industry was and still is interesed in making a film about certain characters. I dont think I owe my dad any loalty as I looked for him for all those years. He didnt look for me and its not my fault i know what i know now.
Well what should I do?
What would you do?
2007-10-24 19:28:19 · 11 answers · asked by Gogo Mojo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When I say should I write a book, what I mean is Its about my life and what a life I have had. Then where it leads to and obviously what I know now. And yes the money is a factor who wouldnt want to make money?
2007-10-24 19:58:14 · update #1
Okay...I havent explained my situation to well of course they would be fiction characters to an extent.Obviously I would not incriminate my dad or his old croonies. And no Im not scared and your right he is a nasty piece of work!
2007-10-24 20:09:11 · update #2
I wouldn't be writing a book that's for sure, if he really is what you say the your life could be at risk, that would just seem foolhardy. I would leave well alone and besides who can condone people like this, walk away and leave him to get on with his life.
2007-10-24 19:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would just accept what I had learnt from your discovery and get on with life. I wouldn't write a book about it. By meeting him after all that time you now have some closure as you know where your roots lie. Where you came from and that you are lucky to not be a chip off the old block(like him). Which you may well have been if he was a part of your life.
Parents are people too, and some really mess up and some stay away rather than messing their kids lifes up. So I would just move on and be happy that now I know. Even though it was not what I expected or particularly wanted.
Families are weird sometimes and just because we are related to someone it doesn't mean we will be like them or even like them. I would be happy that I turned out the way that I did.
Take care and good on you for never stopping to look for him. Sorry that it turned out the way that it did though. But if you hadn't found him you would still be looking.
2007-10-25 03:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Forgetmenotshell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
firstly you right you don't owe your father any loyalty at all, and if he is really a gangster then he should be reported and him and his gang stopped.
secondly feel free to write a book about your life, offer it to a film company if you like, but you should have some morals not to make money from crime, if the stories he has told have involved him or others hurting/killing people, dealing drugs, anything to do with guns etc you have an obligation to stop it, you cannot take what would effectively be blood money.
2007-10-25 05:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your desire to make something out of your long wait for a dad and that you came up with nothing really for all those years of searching. But there can also be a worse outcome. Don't risk your present happiness for the book writing. You have to have talent to do it right, anyway. Loyalty is hard to come by these days, and you should look to the people who enrich your life now.
2007-10-25 02:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by desertflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not reconnect with him and ask him if you could write his life story... perhaps in a fictionalized framework... with the intent of producing a novel for entertainment purposes.
Start with the real stories and then twist them around a bit so nobody gets in trouble. He would probably have a good time telling you more and more stories as he digs through the archives of his mind.
Yes, you should split the proceeds with him.
2007-10-25 02:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it because you are disappointed about how it turned out with him, that you want to get back at him like this ? Or do you just see the chance of a fast buck ?
I am sure he told you these things in confidence so it is not correct that you owe him no loyalty.
2007-10-25 02:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I definately WOULDN'T invite backlash from anything to do with Gangsters!
Keep it under your hat & stop trying to profit from who your father was. You owe him nothing & you may feel as though he owes you a great deal but just remember nothing good comes from betrayal.
If you do feel the story must be told adapt it to negate anyone's identity being revealed and publish it as a fiction.
2007-10-25 02:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. These are real bad guys, not just Hollywood actors and things could go bad fast. No money is worth it.
2007-10-25 02:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sell your story to the papers it could be worth a fair bit of dosh
2007-10-25 05:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you think yor dad would say (or do) to you about writing a book about what he told you?do you need money?
2007-10-25 02:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Pooks 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋