Family & Relationships - 7 October 2007

why are men so dum,,,,i hear alot of older women who been married for years say they husbands are dum and useless,,,so im thinking i under stand alittle because now my husband is dum and useless,,but i would like to hear what some other married women say about their husbands after some years with them,,,,,

2007-10-07 07:30:06 · 9 answers · asked by darkangelflea 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i been sexually active and to be in 10th grade thats bad to me. i wanted to know what it was like and i enjoyed it. i kept doing to. with different guys. but then i decided to change. i was going to wait for that right person to come along, someone that i loved and trusted enough to get on that sexual level with. this one guy came along last week i spent the whole day with him since i had nothing else to do. he was the sweetest. and he tried to have sex with me but i wouldnt. he asked me out and i said yes so i felt alittle more comforatable around him. maybe too much. about 3 hrs later i finally gave in and had sex with him. i cried afterwards and now he told my friend we dont even go out. now im hurt that he would do me like that. and plus this one guy that really cares for me woudl be so hurt if i told him.....what can i do..i want to do the right thing but temptation is something else.

2007-10-07 07:29:52 · 1 answers · asked by ♥Nishi Boo♥ 1 in Singles & Dating

CLOSE friends for 3 yrs and he's secretly liked me but he never went for it b/c he thought the chances of being w. me were slim only to find out that after all this time, I felt the same way back - I was the first girl he fell in love with (both in our 20's and gave him his first kiss; no sex just kisses) BUT we decided to be friends and not to rush (i would be his first girlfriend and said he wanted somethinf more "real, long lasting" with me - "shy guy type") When things were getting normal, "life challenges" (death) and rumors/assumptions from friends made us drift apart (he pushed me away) and it created tension BUT rather than giving up or seeking revenge, we worked it out and everything is starting to be better than before, the relationship grew (this happened in a 9 month span)

Alot of progress has happened in that time but i feel that we're starting over from the very beginning from when we first met. He was sooo unusually quiet with me and normal and outgoing with everyone else. We got to know each other better and through the years, i got him to open up to me where we would talk all the time. He said that he could tell me anything and everything. Now that ALL of that drama has happened, I know things will never be COMPLETELY the same but our bond and closeness will be there...i know it. I feel that i'm back at the beginning again. He's not being himself...with his friends he's "outgoing" and with me, he's just awkward - are we back at one again?

2007-10-07 07:26:50 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

girls are show that they are very simple and honest, not like a boy who always run for girls,,

2007-10-07 07:26:15 · 6 answers · asked by bhavesh v 1 in Singles & Dating

my son is almost 5 and his bilogical father has seen him only 2 times in a little over 2 years then in nov. 2005 he came over and decided he wanted to be there he cae around and seen him like every weekend till feb of 06 when his next child was born. we were never married hes not married to his girlfriend now he even pays child support on that child he lives 3 hours away from me and when he called me in feb 06 t tell me he didnt want anything else to do with him thats the last i heard from him till aug. of 2007. now hes filling for full custody or atlest visation. iv been married for 2 years now and have 2 other kis live in a decent size house and my husband has had the same jb for 3 years his father cant keep for longer than 5 weeks. iv never denied him to see my son untill the last phne call i dont know what to do im scared f losing my baby. my son is scared to death of him. he screams if i ever mention his name. help

2007-10-07 07:25:32 · 7 answers · asked by Misty 1 in Family

I often think when someone tell you what they want you to know that's them not being totally honest!!!!!! Was I correct, or am I correct in thinking that way? Because in past relationship if I found that someone told me just enough it didn't work, it always and often fell apart... Am I right if your being in a committed relationship should the person that you are committed to leave out anything, especially when they make friends of the opposite sex?

2007-10-07 07:24:05 · 7 answers · asked by rita_hiemy 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-07 07:22:54 · 9 answers · asked by Lina 1 in Weddings

I always have clear guidelines of what the guy i want to be with should have. Now i have found him, i shut him down when he made a move. I feel like a loser because i am just so terrified of being in a relation, either with work or school too. I just cant commit. We are both in college, we are working and have our heads on our shoulders, but the thing that i hate the most is that i like him so much but no matter how many times i try to show it, i end up turning around & running away from the opportunity. i yearn for stability and comfort, but i am being emotionally challenged.

What can i do???????, and the obvious answers are out of it, don't say go talk to him, because that wont work.

2007-10-07 07:22:42 · 5 answers · asked by Christina L 3 in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend of 1 year broke up with me 2 weeks ago. We were deeply in love and she was my first true love and I was hers. I guess she just "changed" when she got to college. But anyways she broke up with me and then said she wanted to wait a little while to see if she wanted to get back with me. I said I would wait as long as she wanted, but then she told me that I would be miserable waiting for her so she told me to do what I wanted. She found out that I was seeing another girl and called me crying saying I moved on too fast and saying everything I said about waiting for her and still loving her was bs even though she told me to move on. I think I heard her say she still wanted to be with me but when I asked her to repeat she said it didn't matter any more. At the end of the conversation she said "i love u" which i haven't heard in a long time. I want to be with her and would choose her over any girl, but I get so many mixed signals from her. What should I do?

2007-10-07 07:22:38 · 4 answers · asked by yeap123012 1 in Singles & Dating

ok we been together for 7 years, he moved in with his then lesbian co-worker 8 month ago who had her girlfriend living with her then. we had some problems at that time. he came back to me in july for 4 days to move back to her . i was heart broken and worked on the fact him being gone forever.yes i did ask him to come back.he came back 7 weeks later he stayed 5 weeks i thought we will work it out 2 days before he left he told me he was depressed but had nothing to talk about. i came home from work to find a dear john letter on my counter. he told me he tried to love me like before it wasn;t the same and that i will find some one else
he finnally told me he is in love with his co worker / roomate .
my question is why did you come back if u in love with her and put me trough this again? i don't believe him wanting to try i think him and his girl had a fight and he just came back.
he told me he loved me just 2 days before he left my a... again.
i feel so betrayeld .

2007-10-07 07:17:04 · 12 answers · asked by maria s 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Whenever I'm hanging out at my friend's place, his girlfriend pays more attention to me then him. Be it sitting on my lap, long hugs, kisses on the cheek, she's done all that and then some. When this happens, my friend gives me a death stare. Which is the one of the few emotion he really ever shows because he's somewhat robotic. Other then the stare he never mentions it.

Recently I got a letter in the mail about a nine day business trip overseas that is part of a continuing education class. Now she wants to go with me to an information night reguarding the trip. When I asked if she wanted to bring my friend along, she whined "Yeah, I guess he could come too". Now, I'm wondering if this girl is attracted to me. My friend told me that out of our group of friends, I'm the only one she really likes being around. I'll admit that I'm attracted to her but, I dont want to screw over my friend. If she is attracted to me then what should I do?

2007-10-07 07:14:01 · 4 answers · asked by Risnek 2 in Singles & Dating

She doesn't know i know i found out by reading her xanga, but i still really like her and i want to tell her i like her just to get it off my chest. Should i ask her out as if i didnt know? or should i tell her i know but i really like her? It would be hard to ask her out knowing what shed say, should i have a friend tell her i like her?

2007-10-07 07:13:09 · 15 answers · asked by Bob B 2 in Singles & Dating

In your last relationship or marraige, who's was to blame for the departure? Was it a nice split.. or down and dirty?

2007-10-07 07:10:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My wife and I haven't been happily married for about 3 years now. We had an argument a few weeks ago about how things were going. I understand now that the majority of our problems were my fault. I quit spending time with her and quit making her feel special. I got selfish, I've been working 2 jobs for the past 2 years and I was more worried about my "alone time" than I was about my family. I know what I need to do to fix things in our relationship but I'm afraid it may be to late. My wife told me she is not in love with me anymore and is not sure if she wants to work it out. She tells me her mind is telling her to stay but her heart wants her to leave. I love my wife and I want to make things right with her but I'm afraid she may be happier with out me. Do I do what may be right for her and leave, give her space to work things out with herself, or do I stay and try to work it out with her and possibly drive her away even more.

2007-10-07 07:08:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-07 07:05:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

you wouldnt fancy another guy. Im attracted to other guys, is this a sign of unhappiness in a relationship?

2007-10-07 07:03:56 · 12 answers · asked by jessie 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok so heres the situation.Today i went to my little cousins birthday party.My sixteen year old cousin and her dad was makin fun of me.So i made her flinch by pretending to throw a pillow at her.Then she tells her dad that i was annoying her.So then my uncle(my cousins dad) came up to me and said"if u make my daughter flinch again, ill punch you out and u wont know if im kidding or not. Now my uncle likes to think that hes incharge of everything and that he can say what ever he wants to me when its my dads job to tell me what to do.So this isnt the first time that he has givin me a stret before.Also,sometimes when im not doing anything,he just walks by and piches me for know reason.So what do you think i should do.I dont want to do nothing because im sick of him and his daughter pissin me off.what do you think i should do?by the way im 12 and my uncle is 48.

2007-10-07 06:53:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Hi its my dads 50th next week and as im the eldest daughter i have to organise something for him. He said he doesn't want a party or too much fuss (they all say that) but i feel your only 50 once so i would like to do something quite big. He had a suprise party for his 40th so i would like to do something different that he wont forget! Also can anyone help me on gift ideas...what do you buy a man that has everything?? Thanks x

2007-10-07 06:46:51 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I have to write a paper and i wanted to get an unofficial prelimary poll to get an idea which direction to go in.... thanks so much

Men:
Where r u from?
Are you single?
Are u circumcised?
How often do you recieve oral sex?
How often do you have sexual intercourse?

Women:
Where r you from?
do you prefer circumcised or uncircumcised men for the following activities:
---Oral sex
---Intercourse
---Manual stimulation
Do you think intercourse feels different depending on a man's circumcision status? Different how?

2007-10-07 06:46:43 · 2 answers · asked by meagen k 1 in Singles & Dating

Ive been on yahoo, match, plentoffish, eharmoney and stil cant find my match... what can i do to meet someone in this age group?

2007-10-07 06:43:58 · 1 answers · asked by blondejewlie 1 in Singles & Dating

because i heard so.
also if you are a virgin i heard that since it is your first time your cherry will pop & blood will go all over the white sheets. isn't that emberessing?!?!?!

2007-10-07 06:43:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My mum is well sick. We recently moved to the U.S. for proper medical treatment of her lung cancer. The only relatives I have alive besides my mum is my 12 year old sister, my neice (who's parents have given her up so she now lives with her grandmother). Would there be anyone willing to adopt me and my sister, or would we have to be fostered for a couple of years?
Also, my neice, her grandmother is not related to me, she is her step dad's mum and will probably die a good 2 years

2007-10-07 06:41:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

About 4 months ago i started talking to guy from work. Simple flirting at first and then as we got to know each other better we started to get more serious. We are perfect for eachother in every way...except he has been married for 12 years and I am in the middle of a divorce. We do believe that we were ment for eachother and that we were supossed to meet and fall in love. His wife found out that we were seeing eachother and now we have called it quits. I am completely heart broken, i have never in my life felt the way that i feel for him. He is so torn between she and i. He doesn't know what to do. Let me add that he is in no way leading me on. We are truely in love, but at the same time didnt mean to let things get this far and we didnt intend to hurt anybody. My question is, do we follow our hearts and find a way to be together, or should we deny ourselves this love and move on with our lives?

2007-10-07 06:34:38 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i never did anything wrong and now my world seems to be tumbling down hill i cant handle this HELP ME!!

2007-10-07 06:34:32 · 7 answers · asked by miranda 1 in Singles & Dating

Why does he have to come over and watch football at my house? He hollers and screams at the tv. He wants me beside him and I hate watching football. How many men would like to be forced to watch 4 hours of soap opera? I think of zillion other things to do and I hate the hollering and the holding of my tv and home hostage during the game. It is enough to drive me outside to do yard work only he wants me to SUFFER with him. What can I do????

2007-10-07 06:30:19 · 8 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

Like a few years ago I would like have most of my day by myself and that's completely changed there is never no one else in the house. I mean I go out and do things like any normal person by myself and I'm looking for a job so I'll be working soon and I go to school but I never get any actual time alone at home, I just feel smothered most of the time is there anything I can do. I can't move out until I make some more money.

2007-10-07 06:28:16 · 5 answers · asked by secretservice 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

plaese help me no wot it is

2007-10-07 06:26:44 · 19 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Let's say a friend ("Mary") stole over $20,000 from a previous employer, went to court and was found guilty, and then skipped town. The previous employer is now looking for "Mary", has contacted you asking if you know where "Mary" is, and "Mary" is your neighbor. Would you tell the employer?

2007-10-07 06:22:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I married a man that doesn't love me back. We have two beautiful children ages 3 and 4. He works part time but doesn't tell me where. He's been in and out of jail and provides no income for our family. He comes and goes as he pleases but he's not all that bad. There are days where he'll come and tell me loves me. He does love our children even though he doesn't like to be left alone with them for more then two hours. I understand because they can be a handful but he loves them I just know it.
He doesn't always come home but I understand how much he needs to be with his friends. He won't go on family vacations with us, if he does he usually bails in the middle of it. I love him to much to let him go what should I do? The children need a father and in the end I'd be alone raising them if I do leave. What should I do? he won't go to family or marriage therapy of any sort. I know he's got issues of his own but his pride stands in the way.

2007-10-07 06:18:43 · 15 answers · asked by wildflow34 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm really mad at this one guy for screwing me over at homecoming. He asked me to homecoming then came with another girl. Anyone have any good songs for me?

2007-10-07 06:18:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating