emoitional pain is a killer?

Question

i been sexually active and to be in 10th grade thats bad to me. i wanted to know what it was like and i enjoyed it. i kept doing to. with different guys. but then i decided to change. i was going to wait for that right person to come along, someone that i loved and trusted enough to get on that sexual level with. this one guy came along last week i spent the whole day with him since i had nothing else to do. he was the sweetest. and he tried to have sex with me but i wouldnt. he asked me out and i said yes so i felt alittle more comforatable around him. maybe too much. about 3 hrs later i finally gave in and had sex with him. i cried afterwards and now he told my friend we dont even go out. now im hurt that he would do me like that. and plus this one guy that really cares for me woudl be so hurt if i told him.....what can i do..i want to do the right thing but temptation is something else.

Answer 1

Its not temptation, I know, I've been there. Your pride screwing. Your getting feel good feelings out of screwing people and its costing you because the feelings temperary. The fix, well the fix is beyond you right now, you've sort of made your bed, you've done what us homeboy used to call "blowing up" which is when a female basically gets a males mentailty. So congrualtions your just like us males! Getting your jollies out of getting other people to get naked and have sex with you! Isn't it wonderful? Thats right it hurts, but us males lie all the time about how we feel so were going to do a better job then you about. So really unless you come clean with yourself about what you really doing, your never going to get over this.... its good your "seeing" you have a problem, now see if you can "see" the fix. Because your lieing hunnie, your not after the sex anymore then a boyz after boobs, you need to belong to someone who cares about you, never loss sight of that, or else you deserve what you did to yourself....