2007-10-07 07:22:54 · 9 answers · asked by Lina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Who said that? Divorce facts say its a bad idea to get married at a teenager, and that the divorce rate lowers significantly after you are 25. But nothing says waiting from 29 to 31 makes any difference.
By 30, the previous relationships are what really matters. Why have they failed? Why hasnt the person been married by the time he is 30, or if he has, how many previous marriages has he had? The divorce rate is higher for 2nd marriages than 1st marriages and it is significantly higher for each marriage after.
One thing that may be good after you are 30, is that you know what you want in a relationship and in life. You have finished your college education and gotten settled in your career. You are more financially secure than you were before. At 30, you've had your own life--which probably means your own interests and friendships. Experts say a married couple needs to continue to have some of their own interests, some time away from their spouse (like guys night). It helps the relationship thrive.
However that all depends on the individual. Some people at 30 are no more financially independent or settled in life than they were at 18.
2007-10-07 07:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's the emotional and mental maturity that matters when getting married. It is true that many people don't reach a mature point until 30. However, some people reach that point before they are 30. While a commitment to each other is a must, it's always a good idea to wait to get married until at least you've graduated college (or completed some type of career training), have money saved for a "rainy day", and have established a career. Some people get there before 30, some after....
2007-10-08 18:13:55 · answer #2 · answered by jc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're going to get many different opinions on this subject. Many people feel that getting married before you've lived on your own, experienced life, graduated college / began a career etc. is a mistake. Others believe that a woman by the age of 30 has less of a chance of finding someone to marry her because she's too old. (My mother believes that unmarried 25 year-olds are "old maids" which is ridiculous of course).
My personal philosophy is you've got to know yourself and what it is you're looking for in a partner. It's not about reaching a certain age or being accomplished. It's more so about recognizing a compatible mate and developing a mature love. That can happen at any time -- it's just more likely to happen when you're older. (To my mother's dismay, I got married at the age of 26 -- just one month before my 27th birthday).
2007-10-07 09:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this something you heard somewhere and want a contradiction for or are you just asking the question to see who agrees with it? There is no "right" age for getting married. It's about knowing who you are and knowing when you've met the right person you can see yourself growing with. Getting married young has worked for many ... but we also currently have the highest divorce rate and very short marriages right now (i.e. under a year). The institution of marriage just doesn't seem to hold the meaning it once used to ... and that's sad ... but it's still true. Marriage (or any long term relationship) is WORK ... and something you have to be willing to work at every day. If you're ready for that and find the right person ... age is not the significant factor.
2007-10-07 09:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Pisces Chicka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't know what you want yet. People in their 20s should be traveling, going to school, meeting lots of people, building their wealth, and defining themselves. Difficult to do that if you're married and tied down with kids and a mortgage.
30 is very young - don't believe there are any reproductive issues - that's a myth. 40 starts to get hard for a woman but 30 is a great age to have children. That way she can enjoy her 20s and be mature enough to be a good mom.
2007-10-07 07:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by Laeticia 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
well why do you think that? i mean if you want kids and all that i think that getting married BEFORE 30 is best because i mean .. when your kid will be 10 you will be something like 40?! so it's better i think to marry before 30, enjoy the sex life while its young
2007-10-11 07:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
who says that? You SHOULD get married before you are 30 years old. (If you meet the right one of course) By the time you turn 30, there will be slim pickings and the ratio for having a health baby starts to decline.
2007-10-07 07:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by tRc11 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It doesn't matter what age, as long as the time is right for both of you but I have heard that before and simply it is due to the fact that you are still learning about yourself, you still have to experience things and accomplish things to meet your goals.
2007-10-07 07:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where did you get that idea?!!!I think it doesn't matter how old you are.If you love each other & are willing to spend your life together,who cares about age...
2007-10-07 21:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~ Ali ~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋