I always have clear guidelines of what the guy i want to be with should have. Now i have found him, i shut him down when he made a move. I feel like a loser because i am just so terrified of being in a relation, either with work or school too. I just cant commit. We are both in college, we are working and have our heads on our shoulders, but the thing that i hate the most is that i like him so much but no matter how many times i try to show it, i end up turning around & running away from the opportunity. i yearn for stability and comfort, but i am being emotionally challenged.
What can i do???????, and the obvious answers are out of it, don't say go talk to him, because that wont work.
2007-10-07 07:22:42 · 5 answers · asked by Christina L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Something in your past has made you afraid of healthy, committed relationships. Either something that happened to you directly, or something about your parents' relationship growing up. And you haven't dealt with it yet. (Ignoring it or "trying to forget it" doesn't work.)
I would guess that you have a past history of dating guys who treated you badly, or pushed away anyone who treated you well.
You have some work to do on yourself before you're going to be able to deal with such a relationship. Some counseling is in order. A part of your "relationship machine" is broken, and it needs to be fixed before there is any hope of the machine working correctly.
2007-10-07 08:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by mraudio88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him cause if you don't let him know what is going on is going to move on to someone that can show him the emotion and love he wants. I am not saying it will be easy but you need to do it. Yes this answer is obvious but it is the only real answer that anyone can give you. If you can't show him how you feel then you can do anything else... such as a dinner for two by candle light, or a nice walk , etc. You get the point. and by the way you said you were acting makes you seem uninterested in him and how he feels about you and your future relationship.
goodluck.
2007-10-07 14:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer you hate to hear is the best one. Honestly, you already know the answer to this question. There is no way you are going to get with this guy and get into a relationship with him until you face your fears. Telling him about how you feel and what are your concerns are is the only way to get through this. There is no magic button or phrase that can be said to solve this problem. The truth hurts, but until you decide to face it head on, then you are going to continue to run from every opportunity that presents itself.
2007-10-07 14:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by chante n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So made a list of the perfect guy for you. That's great, but it's only the first step. Now you have to work on what you're putting into a relationship.
2007-10-07 14:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are being *smart*!
I think you have enought on your plate.
Couldn't you just keep the romance w/ him light and go slow?
It doesn't have to be a rush rush, all about us type of thing does it?
2007-10-07 14:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by iliveforit2007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋