Family & Relationships - 21 September 2007

I just had a baby with my husband, we're going through a divorce. It was my decision and the hardest one I've ever had to make. We've fought for 5 years and even though we have been to counseling, it never got better. Plus, he's very ill tempered so it ended up bringing out the worst of me. There's so much more to the story, but I needed to leave. I don't want my daughter to go through that - and yes, people...I will be giving him as much visitation as he want (which right now, isn't much - he has two other children who live with him) So people, don't think I'm going to keep her from him - I need him to be in her life because I know she needs him.

But, really....I'm just sad. Can someone give me a virtual hug please??

2007-09-21 08:12:59 · 68 answers · asked by boz4425 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-21 08:12:32 · 36 answers · asked by m 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I am getting married next month and cannot seem to come up with a good intro song to play at the reception for myself and new husband. We have Hella Good by No Doubt for the bridal party intros. Any thoughts? Nothing slow, we want up beat and fun!

2007-09-21 08:11:29 · 10 answers · asked by Sara B 1 in Weddings

2007-09-21 08:07:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

sexually harassed by an 18 year old i went to his mom's daycare and when no one was looking would stick his hand down my pants i eventuall told my mom but now i think sex is horrible and i feel like i will never want to try it im 13 and i definatlly wouldn't do it now im too young but when im older i still won't want to and im afraid people won't like me for it how do i get over this?

2007-09-21 08:07:52 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What do you do ,when your like that ?

2007-09-21 08:07:50 · 34 answers · asked by ? 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

Did you guys read about the German Politician who suggested this?

http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20070921/od_uk_nm/oukoe_uk_germany_politics_marriage

I think she's on to something!

I'm not sure about the exact statistics, but I know that over half of married couples end up divorced anyways. Think of all the money they would save on divorce lawyers! The only problem I can think of, is what would happen to the kids and the couples material possessions? How would they be split up?

Of course if you are entirely in love and want to spend the rest of your life with your partner, your marriage should be renewed free of charge with just a couple of signatures or something. Unless of course you want to have another ceremony.

I think this law will inspire people to work harder to keep their marriages alive and happy. If you know that after 7 years, your spouse has the option to just not renew the marriage, free of charge, you'll probably make a better effort in your relationship.

2007-09-21 08:05:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

and when you try to stick up for yourself, you are the bad guy?, how has this affected your future relationships?

2007-09-21 08:04:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

In other words, sometimes I catch myself thinking about wanting to have an affair, I know deep inside I could never do something like that, but is it bad to think about having an affair or is something wrong with me?

2007-09-21 08:03:27 · 37 answers · asked by emigirl6363 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-21 08:02:46 · 4 answers · asked by wife in South Africa 2 in Friends

2007-09-21 07:57:26 · 3 answers · asked by spontanious 1 in Singles & Dating

they had talked on the phone multiple times, what would you do? About three weeks ago (on my birthday) I found out they were still talking on the phone and had actually seen each other once although she claims it was return some of his stuff and they didn't have sex. She assured me they had only talked a few times, that the affair was over, and she would let me know if he called again. Looking on our most recent phone bill, he called 6 times on my birthday, just minutes after my wife assured me it wouldn't happen again. She never said anything to me. In all, since we got back together they have spoken on the phone over 50 times, nearly every day, often 3 and 4 times a day. What should I do? There have been no phone calls (that I know of) for the past 10 days, since I called and threatened him. But they could have changed their preferred method of contact. My wife claims she is committed to me and that the affair is posivitely over, but phone bills don't lie, do they?

2007-09-21 07:56:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

please no country songs!!! thanks :)

2007-09-21 07:55:09 · 29 answers · asked by Lolita 3 in Weddings

I asked a girl from church on MySpace, who I have a crush on, if she was mad at me because she wouldn't accept my friend request. I also asked her if she wanted to be friends. I got this response...what does this mean for me? Should I just give up on her?



"hi im not mad at you but, i don't know i just don't feel comfortable around you. i just think that i can't be friends with you or anything like that. i don't want you to not come to church anymore though if you still want to go. have fun with ur life and don't feel bad about yourself and just be yourself. you'll find someone that likes u for you. maybe we could be friends in the future but i know not now. i just want you to know i don't hate you. i guess ill see you in church!"

2007-09-21 07:54:53 · 46 answers · asked by Peter M 1 in Singles & Dating

I've mixed feelings because sometimes I wonder what he's after because I'm not a bad booking or stupid but he's very handsome and sure of himself

2007-09-21 07:51:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

okay here it goes me and my fiancee got in a fight and he took my ring away.... and he told me part of the reason is because he might leave to go study in new york for 5 years and his church offers a program that pays for his school... and he has to put in his application in december.... also it's a year waiting list... and by then he'll decide if he wants to marry me... but recently he asked me not to go to a very important event in my family... it's my cousins babies batism and she's also my bestfriend... he said if i don't go he promises to marry me the next day... but i told him i don't want to get married right away.... and i also told him but you said you might leave to new york and leave me... i said i rather wait until your sure you want to stay... man he got so mad at me he said your putting your family before me... but that's not true i love him so much... i always put him first... Do you think i was right or am i putting my family before him?

2007-09-21 07:51:26 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

You love(d) or like(d) someone, but not the same amount of love/like is returned back to you. I've heard that just because you love/like someone don't expect them to return it back to you. And when you have expectations, thats when everything goes wrong. The someone knows how you feel about them but nothing changes. So what do you do? Stop loving them? When? How?

2007-09-21 07:48:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

how do you know when a 40 year old man is going thru midlife crises ,and dont' say sports cars , there is more to that right??
my hubby just turned 40 this month he is acting distant and always says hes going to leave , read the other 2 questions then you will understand my point...

2007-09-21 07:47:37 · 9 answers · asked by E.M. 4 in Marriage & Divorce

First wake up late then look outside to find a fox had been in me bins and all my weeks contents were strewn across me front garden, get to work and drop me phone down the loo! Thank god its friday!

2007-09-21 07:46:47 · 2 answers · asked by Jen n Kev 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I've just started college, and have two wonderful boys, do you think its wrong of me to stay with my abusive husband until I'm done with college and then leave him? I have no job right now, and no family or friends to help me out either.

2007-09-21 07:44:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i have joint custody of my 13yr old with my ex husband but he refuses to discuss any issues bout her with me... I need some info from him and he will won't give it to me. I can't afford to hire a lawyer just to get him to speak to me about her medical, school and other activities that I need to know about or discuss with him. If u have any advice please let me know.Thanks

2007-09-21 07:43:30 · 7 answers · asked by speclt1970 2 in Family

i rly need to get over my crush cuz i wuz thinking about him and sayin is he rly worth it idk so how can i get over him its so hard cuz i want a bf so bad and i thought he was the one and i dont kno any more so ..... like i want to ask him out but idk wut he would say cuz if he says no i will be crushed and so yep?

2007-09-21 07:43:23 · 5 answers · asked by valeri ann 3 in Singles & Dating

how do u know if she is falling for u?

2007-09-21 07:42:46 · 2 answers · asked by spontanious 1 in Singles & Dating

I've asked this before (still being voted on), but the answers were so fascinating, I decided to do it again.

2007-09-21 07:42:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-21 07:42:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm a French girl living in Paris and I dream of going out with a British guy but can't find any...

2007-09-21 07:38:16 · 23 answers · asked by Laura 1 in Singles & Dating

I recently won the lottery and my marrige hasnt been to well(12 years and 2 kids) me and my wife decided a couple of weeks ago to file for divorce, well after taxes I will get around 80 million and I dont want her to get half, california is a 50/50 state so likely she would get half, now I dont care about the house and
I can pay child support. she was against me buying lotto tickets but I bought one and won, I havent cashed it yet, and i dont know how long I'll be able to. I would wait till the divorce is over but that takes a long time. should I send the money to and offshore wire account or something, I honestly would rather die that give up 40 million(but if I do die then she gets it all) how do I stop her from getting half? since technically I bought the ticket during the marriage?

2007-09-21 07:37:41 · 20 answers · asked by james l 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was just courious because my father was charging us 400 a month and we just had a small room in his mobile home.

2007-09-21 07:34:39 · 7 answers · asked by superstar 6 in Family

Someone said I am a mindfuck???...I have never heard of that before? I yahooed it and got nothing!

Soo what does it mean? help would be great! thanks

2007-09-21 07:28:31 · 4 answers · asked by Lynn 3 in Singles & Dating

If he loves me still and believe in the sanctity of our marriage, that it is as well our commitment to God not just to ourselves, he shouldnt have filed. We should have to face it together, but i feel that hes leaving the problems on my own.He thinks its all my fault, and i refuse to believe that in my heart. WE both made mistakes together, and shouldnt couples solve them together, and not leave his/her partner when the going gets tough? Or is it just an American culture that differs in ours, but i know a lot of mixed marriages that survive though the toughest times.I am devastated, i feel that hes being selfish.

2007-09-21 07:24:43 · 17 answers · asked by BubblegumFighter 2 in Marriage & Divorce