i have joint custody of my 13yr old with my ex husband but he refuses to discuss any issues bout her with me... I need some info from him and he will won't give it to me. I can't afford to hire a lawyer just to get him to speak to me about her medical, school and other activities that I need to know about or discuss with him. If u have any advice please let me know.Thanks
2007-09-21 07:43:30 · 7 answers · asked by speclt1970 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you have joint custody, then you may request her medical records from her doctor and her school records from the school. You don't need him. My daughter is going through this same thing with her kids and her ex.
She requested copies and got them.
2007-09-21 07:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to the teachers and doctors yourself.
Talk to your daughter. Let her know that you care, you're not prying, and because you & your ex are having communication issues, she shouldn't be the one to suffer. Explain that she - unfortunately - may have to grow up a little too fast & she may have to take care of her school & medical issues herself (like filling out medical forms, arranging dentist & doctor appointments, being responsible for any school necessities).
You could even put a spin on it: it stinks now to do this, but many people don't learn those skills until they're on their own after college, and these self-sufficient abilities will help greatly in the workplace as an adult.
2007-09-21 07:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter to him on what you need to know. send the letter via certified mail requesting HIS signature. If he does not wish to participate in sharing the answers you request then dont include him in school/activities issues and medical as well. You will have documented proof your TRIED to reach him to discuss the issues at hand. Call a lawyer as well you can get some questions answered free on the first call. best of luck here.
2007-09-21 07:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though there was a certain amount of acrimony inherent in your breakup; I can readily relate to this dynamic. So, at least in the short term, you'll need to circumvent him in some way. Since you have joint custody, any data available to him is likewise available to you, so go straight to the source. Talk to the school, speak with her physicians, etc. and be as communicative with your daughter as possible about things that are going on with her. He may talk with you again in time (I did), but healing takes time, and the healing process can't be rushed.
2007-09-21 08:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not care about speaking to you so I would suggest that he take custody for a while so that you can go to school or simply because you want your daughter to know her father.
If that doesn't work or is not a great idea to you just leave him alone.
2007-09-21 18:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sanita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the doc your self and go to her school meet with her teacher ask your daughter about what sport or other activities she is in .email him or wright him a note telling him what is going on in you house with her maybe he will open up about it then tell him you just looking out for whats best for her that's something you both can agree on
good luck
2007-09-21 07:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks that you want child support. Write him a letter or you can just ask the girl. She's old enough to tell you things like that.
2007-09-21 07:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by Mark and Allie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋