I asked a girl from church on MySpace, who I have a crush on, if she was mad at me because she wouldn't accept my friend request. I also asked her if she wanted to be friends. I got this response...what does this mean for me? Should I just give up on her?
"hi im not mad at you but, i don't know i just don't feel comfortable around you. i just think that i can't be friends with you or anything like that. i don't want you to not come to church anymore though if you still want to go. have fun with ur life and don't feel bad about yourself and just be yourself. you'll find someone that likes u for you. maybe we could be friends in the future but i know not now. i just want you to know i don't hate you. i guess ill see you in church!"
2007-09-21 07:54:53 · 46 answers · asked by Peter M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Typical self-absorbed American woman. Places her "comfort" over simple human decency. After all, you only asked to be her friend on myspace.
But yeah, you should definitely move on.
Take a trip to Asia or South America. Much cooler women.
2007-09-21 08:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by twelve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is the point when you give up on the girl and go find someone that shares the same feelings for you.
She sounds kind of immature and I am sure you are wonderful person so I definently would not take the response personally but grow on it and be a better person. Look for a girl that likes you just as much as you like her.
Goodluck!!
P.S. Next time there is church see if you can bring a different girl just to spite her. :-)
2007-09-21 07:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Oops, did I say that? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very interesting, and straight to the point, we as people have a hard time listening when the answer is right in our faces. Maybe because we don’t want to face rejection. She has made herself very clean Shugar. Leave her alone, Maybe you remind her of some one that hurt her, sure it’s not fair to you but that is her lost. If you see her in church smile and be nice, but don’t sweat her meaning don’t be all in her face and talking to her and yada yada. Leave her alone. In time maybe she will come around until then I’m sure there is a lot of young ladies in church or else where who would love to be you friend Like me? . You can never have too many. I know if may not be what you wanted to hear, but you will feel better in the long run.
2007-09-21 08:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by Proverbs 31 women 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She means what she said at this time and point, she does not want a relationship with you, and seems to be very clear about her feelings. Let it go and find someone who will except you as you are. It might be something about you that makes her uncomfortable, and you need not push the issue, for it will only make her even more distance. She has stated, that she don't hate you or anything, but there is nothing their for you 2 as far as a b/f, or g/f, so back off and let go.
2007-09-21 08:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that she figured out that you are interested in her already and she doesn't want to lead you on. So she sent this out to you so that hopefully, you get the message. It's really nice of her to say this in a nice, formal way. She is basically telling you the honest truth about how she feels about you. She feels uncomfortable around you...so that means...she doesn't want to be around you because it makes her feel uncomfortable. But she hasn't excluded the option of being your friend...it's just not now. In the future, she said she MIGHT be friends with you...but it didn't say she will be. Just keep your head up, keep going to church and just be a good person. Maybe one day she will see that in you.
2007-09-21 08:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by dr. phillian here.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are coming on too strong for her taste....to me, based on what you've shared, it doesn't seem like it, but maybe that's how she feels. I would just back off as she asked, because if you push too hard she may not want to be your friend in the future either. But it definately seems as though she knows you like her, and unforunately for you, does not feel the same way. It does suck, but we all have to experience this at some point in our life. Take it in stride, and don't let it get you down. You'll be alright.
2007-09-21 08:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by TMama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is her way of nicely saying that she knows that you probably have a crush on her but she's not interested. Maybe she doesn't want to be friends because knowing that you have a crush on her kind of creeps her out or she doesn't want to lead you on. She did say that she doesn't hate you though, so that's good. Try not to worry about it so much, and don't act weird when you see her in church. Just say hi if you pass by her and keep going.
2007-09-21 08:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have scared her somehow, and she really isn't into you. I would start looking other places for crushes. She is not comfortable being around you, because maybe you stare at her to much, or you demand her attention, I'm not sure, but sorry man, she's not into you and doesn't like you not even for a friend at this point.
2007-09-21 08:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tommy's_Sweet_Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately sweetie, she does not like you...for whatever reason. There could be plenty of reasons, but I do not want to assume.
To be honest it sounds like she has her own issues to take care of. She herself is being honest and that is a good quality!
I would just be friendly around her and say hello when you see her, open doors for her if she is around, other than that go on with your day as if "this" never happened.
Good Luck!
2007-09-21 08:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by no 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means what she says it means...right now she's not comfy around you, down the road who knows?
Get to know her, if she's comfortable speaking with you...in time, maybe a really good friendship or more could come from that.
2007-09-21 08:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋