You love(d) or like(d) someone, but not the same amount of love/like is returned back to you. I've heard that just because you love/like someone don't expect them to return it back to you. And when you have expectations, thats when everything goes wrong. The someone knows how you feel about them but nothing changes. So what do you do? Stop loving them? When? How?
2007-09-21 07:48:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW, they're in a relationship.
2007-09-21 07:57:37 · update #1
You cannot just stop loving them. You have to have patience and love from afar. Unrequited love sucks and it happens often. If you just stop loving them, then maybe you don't love them at all. Not all feelings are reciprocated in life and that is what hurts. Be there for the person, remain friends and try not to show your feelings. It is very hard but you can do it. You have to try and not make this person a necessity in your life or your heart will surely break. Take the time you do have with this person and savor it. Eventually the flame will dim...but never die. This person is missing out on your love, so they have lost, not you. I wish you so much strength and love, good luck.
2007-09-21 07:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't stop loving them no matter what. Once you love someone it is forever and just because they no longer return the same feelings doesn't mean that you should stop loving them. Just stop showing it and then maybe they will realize.
I know if my current boyfriend of 2 years stopped loving me..I would never be able to fully stop loving him.
2007-09-21 14:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Oops, did I say that? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The day I met my husband - I just knew we would be together forever. We dated pretty heavily for about a year before I said the three magic words. His response was "don't tell me that". I was crushed but determined not to give up. Eventually, we grew apart and didn't speak for over a year. One day, I read in the paper that his mother had passed away. I tried to contact him, but he didn't return my call. I went to the funeral, but didn't push - I gave him a hug and told him to call me if he needed anything. About a week later, he showed up on my doorstep and we have been together ever since - that was 15 years ago. Hey - you never know. If you love him with all your heart - hang in there - it just may be worth it in the end! Good Luck!
2007-09-21 14:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by jjsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I was married for 30 years, going through a divorce,.... now of two years in the courts, yes I loved him, but he showed me he didn't love me back, he felt going to work was enough to show love, how sad and we had a 22 years old also who he could care less about. To long of a story, I'm in to much pain after 30 years of crap.
2007-09-21 14:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing your in a situation where you like someone and he/she doesn't liek you back. TRUST ME this has happened to EVERYONE and will happen A LOT of times! 80% of the poeple you will liek throught out your life won't liek you back. It's just the way of life. And soon, you will find someon that likes you back just as much as you like them. May take some time though. Sucks right? yup...
2007-09-21 14:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't stop loving them...however u can definitely try to if you feel thats the best way to go...
some ppl choose to stay in that position (loving em forever without having anything in return)
but yes what you heard is right...
2007-09-21 14:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by ANONYMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just move on if they aint feeling you and sometimes people think you cant but try getting with someone maybe they can change that feeling that pain sometimes it dont go away but trying is worth it and if it dosent go away then maybe it was ment to be maybe talking to that person and telling them could change the hole persective of things everything happens for a reason
-jessica
2007-09-21 14:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by jezziker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line is does the other person return you enough affection and devotion to make you happy? Stop loving them is your choice but if they don't make you happy then you owe it to yourself to find someone who does - otherwise you'll be miserable.
2007-09-21 14:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jim Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no f'n clue i still am in love with the girl that i've loves for abut a year (love @ 1st sight) and she won't even reply to my messages :(((
Make's me so dang depressed just thinking about it
But ne ways add me to yahoo messenger
kane151018@yahoo.com
2007-09-21 14:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel u, i guess u just have 2 accept that they dont feel as strongly or find some1 that will. but in most relationships 1 person is more deeply involved then the other
2007-09-21 14:55:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋