I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years, and I love her very much. We've talk a few times about getting married, and I've made it clear that I'm not willing to get married if she's not willing to change her name. She's not a celebrity or business professional, there's no reason for her to keep her name. She said she's not willing to change her name, she says it will change who she is. I've told her that's not true, I've told her that my feelings are not about ownership, they're about family unity and tradition. She won't hear any of it.
We've been living together for a while, and I really don't see what the point of getting married is without her changing her name. Tax breaks, whatever. Commitment? I don't see the commitment without uniting as a family.
Can I get some advice? Tell me how I'm wrong, or how could I convice her she is.
2007-09-19
04:50:51
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