My bf got bday gifts from female co-workers a day before for his bday and I'm jealous. I'm really peeved off about that. He seemed excited to tell me but as he was telling me I just kept changing the subject and rolling my eyes. I wanted to be the first to give him his bday gift and see his reaction...and those stupid brods did it first. Am I over reacting.
2007-09-19 04:46:25 · 18 answers · asked by loving life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I understand how you feel.. You probably had something very special for him, and you feel like they stole your thunder... Try not to feel jealous about that. As long as their gift to him wasn't too personal, I wouldn't worry about it.. Everyone loves to receive gifts, and he probably didn't realize that it bugged you when he was carrying on.. Don't worry honey!
2007-09-19 04:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by nikki f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what the birthday gifts were, so I assume that they were not inappropriate, so I'm going to say yes, you are very much overreacting. If you wanted to be the first person to give him a birthday gift, you should've given it to him in the morning before he left for work (if you live together), or the night before. You bf was probably excited because he probably wasn't even expecting gifts from co-workers. Be happy that your bf is well liked at work, and get out of your own way. If he's done nothing inappropriate, and the gifts weren't inappropriate, I don't really know what your beef is. And "stupid broads"? Thats just wrong!
2007-09-19 12:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by grace95838 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would depend on what the gift was. Unless he's really good friends with these people, a card would have been sufficient. If it was something extravagent, I would of been pissed too. And like some people might say it has something to do with being insecure i totally dissagree. It has nothing to do with that and everything to do with respect and common courtesy. I think that these days co-workers have gotten just a liiiiitttle too friendly. It's like they've got their sticky little fingers in everything before you can even get a shot! I have a friend that was putting together a surprise bday party for her fiance but the women he worked with threw a huge one for him before she could. A line should be drawn somewhere
2007-09-19 11:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some workplaces, people celebrate and recognize the birthdays of others, so gift-giving is quite normal.
He is with YOU not them..
perhaps they enjoy working with him and consider him a great friend... when we work closely with someone, there is a sort of "bond".... and since we spend the greater part of our weekdays at work, it's can be very normal to feel that those your work with are an 'extended family' of sorts.
I think that there is no room for jealousy in a relationship. If you are jealous, perhaps you could consider working on the problem (because it IS a problem and it destroys relationships). There are a lot of resources if you do a yahoo search. Try looking up JEALOUSY SELF-HELP.
Acting like we are five years old, rolling our eyes, and not having the capacity to feel HAPPY FOR our loved one, is quite odd.... you aren't with him to be in a competition with others, are you? You seem to be competing with his co-workers.
2007-09-19 11:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With an attitude like that, I'm surprised your boyfriend is still hanging around. What are you jealous of, that they gave him nicer gifts than you did or you're afraid he will like their gifts better than yours?
You're over reacting. If he had anything to hide do you think he would have told you about the gifts? And, yes, he has every right to be excited about receiving birthday gifts. He showed you a heckuva lot more respect than you showed him. Get over yourself!
2007-09-19 11:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by Laredo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a little bit. I understand that you wanted to give him his first gift. But if his office is anything like my office, birthdays are an excuse for cake and gifts. I wouldn't be threatened about it. They were just being nice and what person isn't excited when they are given gifts? Don't be silly! As long as they didn't give him anything inappropriate you have nothing to worry about. Not to mention that he was just happy about his bday that he wanted to share that moment with you. Don't ruin his day just because you are insecure!
2007-09-19 11:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to be mean or anything, but it sounds like you are insecure just a bit! Remember, these are co-workers and they aren't sleeping with him! If you want to really make a relationship go down hill, start smothering a guy. He will not be around you if you keep doing it! Just relax and do not get so over worked about something that is really nothing!
Good luck to both of you....
2007-09-19 11:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, over reacting just a little lol He happens to have friends at work, and they happen to think enough of him to help celebrate his birthday, so what? Trust me, he's going to think more of whatever you get him than those women. He loves you so he's probably sitting at work on breaks talking to those women about how excited he is to find out what your doing for his bday!
2007-09-19 11:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by brandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not stupid, overreacting or childish, providing the gifts were inappropriate. If they were just simple gifts then you have nothing to worry about.
I too would be upset if they gave him naughty gifts. That is totally inappropriate for coworkers to do.
2007-09-19 11:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, what they did for him and what you'll do for him are totally separate. Who cares who gives him a present first (unless you got him the same thing)? In fact, you have the advantage of being able to give him his LAST present of the day. . . .
You are overreacting. Don't ruin his birthday by making it all about you.
2007-09-19 11:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋