Family & Relationships - 5 September 2007

2007-09-05 07:11:19 · 3 answers · asked by MELISSA 1 in Singles & Dating

I know I have to go down to the local court house; tell them I want a divorce, then what happens? we have nothing to divide, it should be over pretty quick. I was just wondering what happens with the paper work, how long it takes in NJ etc.

2007-09-05 07:09:21 · 7 answers · asked by Jersey Style 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married for 5 1/2 years now & I love my husband to death but all we do is fight, fight, fight!! Over stupid things & i really don't think that things will get any better, I think all the time about leaving him & all of my friends know that I do not want to be there anymore, I try to find any reason to leave the house & not come home from work b/c I know that there will probably be a fight waiting when I get home. But everytime I get ready to leave him, I can not bring my self to leave!!! Why???? This has been going on for months, I will pack up all of my stuff & put it in the car but can not seem to back out of the drive way!!

We have a 5 year old but I know that she will always be in both of our lives so I know that is not what is keeping me there!!

I am only 24 years old & am so tired of crying everyday over this!

2007-09-05 07:06:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Dose she have them because she can not can not sudafed buy a man? Ican belive the Toy's she has. All kinds of shapesand sizes.

2007-09-05 07:06:22 · 4 answers · asked by tadm 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Just can't remember the word. I think it begins with an R?

2007-09-05 07:02:24 · 25 answers · asked by Molly 1 in Friends

I am a 16 year old male living in england, I am just bored with life, i left school a few months back and planning on doing an apprenticeship, but my life seems empty, i have no girlfriend (although I have been told I am good looking), part time job, and all i do on weekends is get drunk and go to the football. Then the same allover again: work, sleep, eat and more boredom, how do i get out of this rut, and no i dont want to volunteer!

2007-09-05 07:01:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I've been on my job for about 6 months now and they recently hired a new girl to work with me. She's been here like 4 days and every time I walk away from my desk for any length of time she changes the station I have my radio set to. I'm a black guy who just so happens to like to listen to talk radio and comedy duos during the day. It makes my day go by faster when i can hear something funny or get in on an interesting topic. I don't like a lot of music. I'm almost 40 so most of the music out today does not interest me. Her first day here she asked me if I listen to any black stations. i told her no. But every time my back is turned so is my radio. I'm trying to be nice since we share a common area but I'm not sure I can take much more of coming back to my desk and finding my radio on a station I don't listen to. What do you suggest? Again, I've told her I don't listen to that type of stuff.

2007-09-05 07:01:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok your brother married an abusive sociopath who abused your brother and her kids(gave them medicine just so they'd go to sleep for example and neglect them). Well they're divorced, the kids are taken away from her.

The ex wife of your bro emails you and adds you to her myspace. You a forgiving person you are is tempted to email her because you're curious as to how she's doing. But you also wonder if you contact her, will it endanger one of your neice's lives.(the other two kids aren't your brother's and they've been put in a foster home. Your neice (your bro's daughter) lives with your mom).

Email her or not? Or just block her?

2007-09-05 07:01:08 · 5 answers · asked by Butterfly 1 in Family

OMG, I am so upset. As it is my son doesn't get to see my mother-in-law due to her alcohol&drug problem. My sis-in-law and her family got along w/ us ok and kept their alcoholic problem away, and would only come over when sober. The other night we were awoken by one of their kids begging us to call the cops. The cops came and the parents were beating the kids, each other, yelling, screaming, on and on. When the cops got there everyone lied and police did nothing despite me seeing it all and reporting it. I called every agency that I could for help for the kids but NO LUCK AND NOTHING HAPPENED. My husbands family all has addiction issues except him, we have cut everyone off. I am sad about it for my son and husband but I know I can't force them to quit. Words of advice or support? I'm bummed about it and love those kids but can't get them out of that home, no court or police believe whats really happening. Tried everything, I'm a social worker so I know the legal side too. Nothing workd

2007-09-05 07:00:04 · 3 answers · asked by Sweetness 6 in Family

it is exciting to hear; then some wants me to ask every detail of her party single life. She is always bringing fun times up before we met ( parties, casual sex). Since I had very little of these experiances, it makes me feel like i've missed out. I'm newly divorced after boring long marriage. I'm sure its just insecurity on my part, but would like some advice on handling this topic when she brings it up about fun times earlier without me feeling like im asking more detail after detail?

2007-09-05 06:58:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

admitted to having an affair with our tour guide and surf instructor... she said she promises to not do it again. I'm trying to buy her a gift for her honesty......... and suggestions

2007-09-05 06:55:51 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

there is no point even to try to get even, isn't it so? They are big, important people and you are like nothing. Isn't it better just to try to accept that you were beaten and taken advantage of, lick up your wounds and try to forget as best as you can?

2007-09-05 06:55:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im trying to find my dads grave, i havent visited my dads grave in a few years, i know that sounds awful but the fact is i havent, my family isnt sure where abouts is it, i know what cematary it is and the plot but im not sure where about is it, im searching it on the internet but i cant find my dad anywhere, any help would be greatful

2007-09-05 06:54:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My fiance has a twelve year old child he has been raising since the child was 3 years old. The mother occasionally sees the child and she has 2 other children from two separate fathers. My fiance does not have legal custody of him. Basically it was a mutual agreement. I understand she has other kids but birthdays and holidays come and go and she does nothing. Meanwhile, since he & I have been serious at least a year I finance all the costs. I have no problem with this at all, I feel it's my obligation as his parent/guardian but I feel society wants to crucify men who do not pay child support. Should this not apply to women as well? Is there anyway to legally bind her to pay something? We could use that to save for college for him someday. I do not propose that by her paying it absolves us of our responsibilites but it does help. Any advice?

2007-09-05 06:52:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I left my kids and grandbabies a year ago moved away got married and cant seem to be happy working here i sold my buisness to my daughter all i ever known was that job,i loved it and miss it well she has offered a job to me but it would entail living there during the week and coming here(home) on the weekends because it is to far to drive back and forth. I am afraid to tell my husband but i am not happy here i have had 3 jobs and turned down numerous because I was afraid to have to learn something new?Or i just flat out dont want to be here. I am 52 yrs old.I know nobody here but my husband ,people are so to themselves.The thing i am afraid of is losing him or our marriage going to pot because i am not here and that is my old stomping grounds.,with my x there.Help i need some advice.

2007-09-05 06:51:59 · 2 answers · asked by maxine101 1 in Family

I am 18 and in college. My dad has decided he wants to stop paying child support can he do that legally or is there some way he can has to keep paying?

2007-09-05 06:49:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband and I have been through so many issues (cheating, addiction, abuse, all on his part). We are now in marriage counseling and have gone to two sessions. The ironic thing is that all of those issues have stopped and my husband is truly changed now, but when he was doing all of those terrible things to me I didn't want to leave him, now that he's "changed" I feel like I truly want to leave him. It's really weird and I don't understand why when he was doing these terrible things, I stayed with him because I though I really loved him, but now that he has stopped these things it almost feels like to little to late and I'm over him. The marriage counseling is not changing anything and I'm just so over it, but I stay for my child and baby on the way and because divorce is not something that anyone in my family has ever done. I'm just waiting for some kind of "miracle" to occur in the counseling but it doesn't. Any suggestions?

2007-09-05 06:48:33 · 11 answers · asked by allie s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

One night recently, my best friend and I had a conversation next to a camp fire about his upcoming wedding. After a few drinks, he informed me that because he doesn't want any drama and his fiance hates me, I am no longer going to be in the wedding.

I went from being the best man, to not even being allowed to go to bachelor party, be in the wedding or go to the reception. Does this seem normal? Has anyone else had this happen to them? If so, what did you do?

Fiance history: I spent 2 summers working with my best friend, so we spent a lot of time together at work and then we would work out at the gym. I was blamed for "spending too much time" with him and trying to steal him away from her. They have been together for forever and a day, so obviously they are not going to break up. And, I have been a gracious enough friend to not say anything bad about her ever!!!! I put up with everything because he is my best friend. Any thoughts?

2007-09-05 06:46:19 · 32 answers · asked by rfrey0907 3 in Weddings

Would you marry your spouse again if given the chance?

2007-09-05 06:45:51 · 24 answers · asked by PrincessJ 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-05 06:45:20 · 1 answers · asked by prettyjhoy88 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

We were together 10 years. After trying everything I could think of to help pur relationship survive, he left me for his addiction to meth. He quickly realized he had nowhere to go. Prior to his leaving, things had gotten bad: lying, yelling, screaming, threatening, stealing, cheating, all on his part. He wanted to come home; I said no, not if we're going to make each other miserable, as our new hobby. I loved him, still love him, with my entire soul. I believed we would be together forever, we were the best of friends. his addiction took it all away.
i haven't heard from him in 18 months; I ask about him everytime I can, it's important to me that he is ok. he won't hear of me or speak about me, until last week. He sent me an email telling me that he "hates me for abandoning him when he was sick" and telling me he still misses me in the same sentence.
I can't cope, emotionally, with the hate and hurt he holds toward me in his heart.

2007-09-05 06:43:22 · 13 answers · asked by mzindica 4 in Marriage & Divorce

i found out today that this dude likes me but i only like him as a friend and my friends are gonna try get us together but i'm really scared of saying no incase i hurt anyones feelings.what should i do?

sorry about the spellings :D


thx 4 your help xx

2007-09-05 06:43:07 · 18 answers · asked by random.princess 4 in Singles & Dating

My spouse has just asked for divorce. We have two children, ages 3 yrs and 6 months. Her request was a shock to me. Sure we had some problems but nothing to get to this point. My biggest hurt is that she has been denying me time with my kids. I live with my parents right now and she does not like my mother. My mother has tried hard to get along. They have never had words but she just does not like her. She wants me to sign an agreement basically keeping my children away from my parents and really limiting my time with my children. I have not signed. I think that this is being spiteful. I work until 10pm most nights as I manage a restaurant so my parents have been picking up the kids and caring for them until I get home. I leave for work around 12ish each day. I believe that since she wants the divorce, she should file but she does not have the money and wants me to. I have not done so. Please give me some advice on how I can deal with my situation regarding my children.

2007-09-05 06:41:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

should you just leave? I mean, he is obviously not into you, and just want to use you and enter some kind of a competition which you will never win anyway. And while you strive to be the best living woman ever, he'll just enjoy the ride, and will dump you at the end of it.
Am I right?

2007-09-05 06:38:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

A lot of people said that they would feel as if they failed as a parent if they lost their kids' respect for them as a parent figure.

Why the feeling of failure?

2007-09-05 06:36:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my husband, 2 1/2 y.o. daughter and I live in a different state than all of my family. We moved 4 years ago, and for a while, I liked being here. Recently, I can't shake this feeling of urgency to move back home. I am constantly sad, and I know it's not good for my daughter to see. My family visits often, and I know I am lucky to be so close with everyone, but I need more balance in my life. I live with my husband 3 weeks per month, and for a week I go back home. It feels like a constant roller coaster ride. I have no friends or anything here where I live, so I go from being completely alone (my husband works and goes to school so we hardly see eachother, and I am a stay at home mom) to being completely surrounded and overwhelmed by family when I am with them. My daughter cries for her grandparents everyday, and honestly, so do I. What can I do to get through this time? I have tried to get my husband to move us home for over a year, he says next year, but I'm not sure. I feel trapped.

2007-09-05 06:35:01 · 10 answers · asked by izzymo 5 in Family

seems like people give up more easily these days. Do you think that sometimes it takes the bad times to appreciate the good? that sticking it out & working together to get through the difficult times makes a marriage stronger?

I don't believe in divorce. My husband & I have had our share of bad times, but the good times far outweigh them. I for one could never walk away from the promise I made to him & to God. What do you think?

2007-09-05 06:29:59 · 24 answers · asked by PrincessJ 3 in Marriage & Divorce

how can u avoid someone have u got any tips for me please help ?


thx :)

2007-09-05 06:29:51 · 5 answers · asked by random.princess 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

love qs

2007-09-05 06:29:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He's really ignorant and kind of controlling, and I'm pretty sure he's going to be abusive. Also, he tried to make out with me at a party, which caused a fight between them. He lives 1000 miles away... you can imagine what he does over there.

2007-09-05 06:28:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce