i found out today that this dude likes me but i only like him as a friend and my friends are gonna try get us together but i'm really scared of saying no incase i hurt anyones feelings.what should i do?
sorry about the spellings :D
thx 4 your help xx
2007-09-05 06:43:07 · 18 answers · asked by random.princess 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let your friends know how you feel, they will understand if they are your friends. Try not to directly say anything to the guy, as it will hurt his feelings, just don't respond to his advances. You may have to say something to him, in which case remember not to be sarcastic or patronising - both seemingly automatic esponses to this situation. Hopefully he will see that you just want to be friends, however if he keeps reminding you that he likes you even after this and is still flirting you may want to consider where you place your friendships, as this is very disrespectful behaviour.
2007-09-05 06:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by matthewmooregirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Think That If He Likes You He Isnt Wrong To Ask You Out But I Dont Think Your Wrong To Say No Either. If You Dont Want To Date Him Then I Think You Should Tell Him How You Feel And Deal With The Consequences As They Come. If He Likes You That Much He Will Accept That Your Just Not Ready To Date Him. Also Try Not To Make It Awkward Between You Two. Try To Talk As Much As You Can But Try Your Hardest Not To Send Out Signals That Will Make Him Think You Want To Date Him. Thats Not Very Good Sending Mixed Signals. Another Thing To Make It Not Awkard Is To Arranage For You And Him To Go Out Somewhere But Invite Othere People Too So Its Not Like A Date. And Also, This Bit Is Important, Make Sure That When You Ask Him You Tell Him That Other People Are Goin. E.g. Hiya 'Sam' Would You Like To Come To The Movies With Me, 'Mark', 'Lucy', 'Ryan' And 'Katie'. This Way He Doesnt Get The Wrong Idea. If You Say No To HIm And Still Continue Talking You Can Still Be Friends And That Is Like A Compromise For Both Of You Because He Wont Be Really Sad Thinking That You Dont Like Him. One Last Thing Is Maybe Hav A Party Night And Play Spin The Bottle. If You Kiss It Wouldnt Be The Worst Thing Because Then He Is Happy And You Are Too Because You Arent Dating, If This Sends Out The Wrong Signal Just Simply Say To Him, Im Sorry But I Thought We Talked About This. And Leave It At That So It Isnt Awkward. I Hope That Helped. =D
2007-09-05 14:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just be honest!!
Tell the guy that at this time you only see him as a friend, but that a few dates as friends would be nice..
Let me tell you a short story:
See I got a phone call to my dad's house when I got back from the NAVY!! It was a casual friend for High School who wanted to go out for a movie or just to eat!!
I could not remember who it was so I looked him up in the year book!! When I saw the photo I was like Oh God!! What have I done??
Yet I went on a head and it turned out that he was the man that I was looking for... Being from Veracruz he had a way about him that makes me watch in amazement that he choose to have me as his women!!
He looks and sings like Luis Miguel.... But I can not stand that man!!
OK what happened right... Started dating on Aug.3..... Moved in on Oct 4...... Married on April 16, 2001....
I would not have gotten this gift if I had just said no..
So go ahead, you never know!!!
2007-09-05 13:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't you ask your friends to not say anything, if you explain the situation to them. If you like this dude as a friend, then it may be that he only sees you as a friend. On the other hand you never know it might turn out to be more than friendship if you give it a go. It's not whats on the outside that counts you know. He may not be goodlooking but he may treat you like a princess and then turn into your prince.
2007-09-05 14:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest! Tell your friends that you don't like him like that! You shouldn't have to feel trapped in a relationship you don't want to be in so that your friends and this boy are happy!
I really don't think your friends would be hurt if you didn'tlike the guy, they are YOUR friends, they probably just want to help you because they think you like him! And as for the guy i think he would be more hurt ig you said yes when he asked you out and you didn't really like him than if you were just honest with him!
Boys do notice these things lol, he'll be able to tell a mile off if your not that into him and it wouldn't be nice for you to be in a relationship just because you feel pressured!
Honestly don't worry about it, just be honest itwill work out fine!
2007-09-05 13:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by hypermadboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to this guy before your friends do, if you don't want a relationship then it is best to be honest from the start to prevent anyone getting hurt. then go to your friend, tell them that you are thank full for what they are trying to do but he ain't the type you can have romantic feelings for. MAKE IT VERY CLEAR! don't give the guy cheesy lines like 'i respect you to much as a friend' that's just hurt full, tell him what you are really feeling, just say you don't want to give him false hope, but you would love to be friend. don't be mean about it, just remember you can never have to many friends!
good luck
2007-09-05 13:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the worst thing anyone can do is mismatch a couple! I mean you are not obliged to go out with him. However you dont know how well you might get on until you go on a date, so do what you feel is right not because theyre pressuring you.
2007-09-05 13:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by a beautiful lie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, I really think that you are making a big fuss here, I know you don't realise, it but if a guy likes you great, if you don't feel the same he won't throw himself off the bridge. Tell your friends how you feel, if they are friends they won't encourage him further, if they persist then you will have to tell him yourself I reckon he'll get over you!
2007-09-05 13:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by patlynn2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your friends tell you what you should do or who you should date.
Tell them straight out you appreciate their efforts, but you're not interested in dating him. It's better than going out with him and giving him the impression your interested in more than a friendship.
2007-09-05 13:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friends that you`re not interested because you like someone else. they might bug you to find out who it is but keep it as your own little secret lol good luck x x
2007-09-05 13:51:44 · answer #10 · answered by bonbon24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋