Family & Relationships - 3 August 2007

It seems everything I want to do and get excited about, he has to shoot me down. I told him I wanted to go back to school and be a nurse or radiographer, and he said it would be a problem because I am bad at math. I'm really not that bad at it, but he always brings it up. I also like to write, and I brought up wanting to write a novel, maybe not to get it published, but for fun at least. He said I wouldn't be good at it because I don't have a degree in writing. Plus, he said, "You really think you can write as well as authors?" and then kind of chuckled. It really hurts and makes me think he doesn't think I'm very smart of something. Why does he do this? If he ever has an idea, I am 100% supportive of him, even if I don't think it's a good idea. I wouldn't ever say so, because you never know about these things. So why is he like this to me? Anyone else have the same problems?

2007-08-03 04:31:56 · 24 answers · asked by azrielle 3 in Marriage & Divorce

have problems because he wants sex too much, and you don't want it as much as him? If so, how does this make him feel about the relationship, and how do you handle it so that it is not a huge issue that involves arguing all the time? Thanks.

2007-08-03 04:30:01 · 21 answers · asked by starchild4485 2 in Singles & Dating

I am having a family dellima. My ex-husband and I have recently remarried. My daughter (9yo) and I lived in a house next to my mother and my grandparents. They have been very helpful through the years. I frequently expressed thanks. I did things for them to help out. I mowed everyones yard and did some weedeatting. Watched my moms dogs, checked on my grandmother when I was off ect......I sat at home and did nothing but be the best mom I could be and go to work. I have always loved my ex husband. We were young and got mixed up with drugs. That is the main reason we divorced. We have both matured, cleaned up, and work. When we got married my family told me to move out. This is my home and my daughters home for 4yrs. My mother told me the house was mine but not the land in case I went back to my ex. Now she is taking that back. My whole family tells me "You never appreciate anything we do for you". How do you show appreciation and how long are you suppose to be indebpted

2007-08-03 04:28:17 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

been dating a guy for a month and starting to fall for him..only thing is he doesnt believe in marriage and is not fussed about kids (to be honest i dont think he wants them). I want to get married in next few years with kids following later. my dilema is hes the first decent guy ive dated that i can see myself being with long term but do i take the chance on him and hope he will change his views (as he may just not ahve been with the right girl to feel he wants to commit in those ways) or not even go there and call it off now before i fall too deep. has anyone else been in similar situation. i know u cant change a person but wot about mould them abit to your way of thinking?

2007-08-03 04:28:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my girlfriend has trouble at home, he parents will soon be getting divorced. the other day, after an argument her mother repeatedly called her 'disgusting' and 'a disgrace to the family' (she didnt do some housework) while she cried and told her to stop because she was hurting her (she is 16). she is suffering emotionally and when she asked her mother to let her see a psychiatrist (preferably with her mom) her mother refused claiming it would be an emarrassment. there is only so much i can do....please offer comments and advice, thank you

2007-08-03 04:26:27 · 8 answers · asked by boredatwork 4 in Family

My husband left 8 weeks ago now leaving me and my 2 kids for a girl he had been having a 3 mth affair with. He has since asked to come back as he misses me and our 2 children, i have agreed to this but he still hasn't come home and its been nearly a week since he said he wanted to come back. I've asked why he hasn't returned and he says he doesn't know what to say to her.

2007-08-03 04:24:44 · 14 answers · asked by winner2007 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am having a family dellima. My ex-husband and I have recently remarried. My daughter (9yo) and I lived in a house next to my mother and my grandparents. They have been very helpful through the years. I frequently expressed thanks. I did things for them to help out. I mowed everyones yard and did some weedeatting. Watched my moms dogs, checked on my grandmother when I was off ect......I sat at home and did nothing but be the best mom I could be and go to work. I have always loved my ex husband. We were young and got mixed up with drugs. That is the main reason we divorced. We have both matured, cleaned up, and work. When we got married my family told me to move out. This is my home and my daughters home for 4yrs. My mother told me the house was mine but not the land in case I went back to my ex. Now she is taking that back. My whole family tells me "You never appreciate anything we do for you". How do you show appreciation and how long are you suppose to be indebpted

2007-08-03 04:23:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

She stay at home on the computer, when I'm at work. I only have about 2 to 3 hours to her all day. the points are about the same right now. Please help.

2007-08-03 04:22:49 · 5 answers · asked by sofar 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-08-03 04:20:36 · 18 answers · asked by Kelly L 4 in Weddings

I been dating a man i thought was great, but recently i found out he was married and i told him i want nothing do with him unless he leaves her. He without asking me booked me and my 5 year old son a holiday to see my parents as a sorry. The flight was for today, However he canceled the flight two hours before it was due to leave. Then he rang me while having sex!!!!, mins after his wife rang me leaving a msg saying i was to pay the money back which is £500. I think they both played a sick game with me but i don't know what game?? (How Sick)

2007-08-03 04:19:14 · 29 answers · asked by happyslappy 3 in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend has trouble in bed hes a 1 minute man he cant keep it up for more then a minute then he cums...this has never happened to me before is something wrong? should i tell him because i have been noticing after he cums he still trys to keep going for me but it doesnt work i just give up on him?does anyone know anything that can help make him last longer? :-| thanks

2007-08-03 04:16:50 · 14 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Singles & Dating

They was married for 21/2 years but together for 5 yrs but without any warning he left, things had been a bit rocky for a while and they were having conselling which i thought was going well, she is devastated that this has happened.
but i was more shocked at the reasons why this had happened, when i asked have her why she told me that her husband prefered internet sex rather than having any contact with her although from the outside you would have thought they were a perfect couple they did eveything together i knew she had been depressed but i assumed it was because of postnatal depression they have 3yr boy together has anyone gone though this so i can help her recover from this.

2007-08-03 04:14:44 · 10 answers · asked by scats 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-03 04:13:11 · 16 answers · asked by Lee L 2 in Singles & Dating

i need a male strip club!!!! in miami, only males!!! we girls wanna have fun to!!!

2007-08-03 04:12:38 · 1 answers · asked by vitamin w 1 in Singles & Dating

I dont know what 2 do me and my ex broke up...But i dont know what 2 do i cant get over him && it bothers me he is everything 2 me
I really need help!
that would be cool if you guys helped me
BUt please dont say get over him i like just need help on what 2 do
THX!=]

2007-08-03 04:09:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriends father works in banking. He makes about the same annually as my father does. My father is a psychologist. My bf is always saying how his father is better, makes more money, they r richer, etc. I never try 2 compete w/ him so I dont understand where this is coming from, is it jealousy? His father could be labeled as "new money" he worked as a brick layer for years and about 5 years ago he lucked out with banking. He went bankrupt and used 2 work at dunkin donuts. Im not trying 2 put his dad down, he's a hard working man but my bf is always saying things like that my dad isnt a real doctor, etc. My dad slaved for years for a doctorate, plus, his father has tax write offs, whenver we go out to dinner he writes it off as dinner w/ a client, etc. so his dad has advantages that mine doesn't. Where is this coming from? He is always trying 2 make it like they are better but he 4gets I knew him back b4 his dad made it big. How should I handle this?

2007-08-03 04:08:42 · 11 answers · asked by marm212 5 in Family

I hear a lot of talk about divorce ... I have always believed the only good reasons are physical abuse or infidelity ... what does everyone else think? What justifies divorce? Is it ok if you just "fall out of love" with someone, or don't get the attention you need/want?

2007-08-03 04:04:36 · 20 answers · asked by Random_Girl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Ever since I was around age 7, my parents have been divorced. I live with my mom. My dad lives on the other side of the country, so I don't get to see him nearly as much as I'd like. I see my dad once a year for about 6 weeks in the summer. It may sound like a long time, but believe me, it goes by faster than you could ever imagine.

I'm a senior in high school, and ever since that day we moved away from my dad I've always felt like there was something missing in my life. I have a stepdad, but its not the same. I have seriously been thinking about moving up there with him to go to college around there. My mom thinks my dad gives me to much freedom and that I would throw away any potential I have. She thinks its best for me to stay here, but I would really like to live with my dad atleast for my college years to try to make up for lost time. But I don't want to ruin my relationship with my mom by choosing to live with my dad.

I'm at a crossroads in my life. What would you do?

2007-08-03 03:59:46 · 6 answers · asked by jack b 1 in Family

Of corse, common Law still prevails in America (Constitution and State Constitutions are common law documents), but for those who have bought into this "liscense" to marry (the state), does it make sense that you work hard all of your life, obtain wealth, only to meet someone, marry to the state, divorce, and they get half your money, when they've done NOTHING. Woman, or Man. I can see if you "marry", then the both of you go into business etc., and gain wealth, then of corse, some sort on contract should be in place, protecting the both of you. But , this is rarely the case. What do you think? I know, this has gone on for yrs.....bu it makes me wonder about having to obtain permission from government to be with the one you love.

2007-08-03 03:56:52 · 10 answers · asked by lleigh03 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok lately I have been finding wierd text on my bfs phone that he is sending to people...every time I ask him about them he gets really upset that Im accusing of cheating and says he would never do that! It seems like he really means it but it still is just making me sick that he is talking like this to someone else! How should I go about telling him that I dont appreciate it with him thinking I am accusing him...I love him with all my heart and would be completely heart broken if we broke up! I just cant mentally take this anymore I want the truth....Im to the point where if I see another one Im going to give the number a call!

2007-08-03 03:53:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If a man cheated his girl ... this is so painful indeed of course if the girl discovered that later. And If a girl cheated her man ... that would be painful too but the question here, according to the different mental, psychological and emotional variations between a man and a woman .. who gets more painfully affected from cheating most? Is it a girl who keeps suffering much its consequences or a boy?

2007-08-03 03:52:24 · 21 answers · asked by Sara007 5 in Singles & Dating

Ok, just to clarify a few things...
13 is too young be over-concerned about relationships
15 should still be considered too young for sex
Being a virgin is ok, and shouldn't be looked down on
Nice guys do exist
Good women also exist
Cheating is wrong, no matter what the situation is
Take care of your kids then yourself
Not all of one gender or another behave as your loser ex did.
Sexual relations with family is wrong...no mater what
if you are 18 or over, leave the underage ones alone
if you are underage, the 18+ guy/girl you are crushing on should know better
if you are over 21, age doesn't matter
Between 18-21 it's a personal POV if you can handle large age gaps.
Yes, you will find someone perfect for you someday.
Now my question...are there any general questions I've seen a million times on here yet that I haven't answered?
BTW...I'm 28, male, engaged, and a nice guy. A little upfront, but honest enough to admit it.

2007-08-03 03:51:16 · 9 answers · asked by chaoss13 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-08-03 03:47:15 · 20 answers · asked by nanna 5 in Marriage & Divorce

what does it mean when a guy says "flavor of the week"?

2007-08-03 03:46:22 · 2 answers · asked by fran c 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My boyf has just really annoyed me. He works an early morning shift this week as finishes at midday. All week he has been meeting his friend for some beers in the afternoon - which is fine of course. However I am seeing him tonight and he has gone again this afternoon - he told me and I was like "ok" and he said "well I should hope it's ok, thank you very much." He's always on my back like that. So I say nicely "what we going to do tonight" given that it's my weekend too and he's like "I suppose we can do something nice." This really annoyed me "I suppose". So I said to him "well I should hope you would want to do something nice with me". He then swore at me and made out like I was an unreasonable person. I feel he justs want to live his life with no consideration for me like I am just tagged on with no compromise and whenever I fight my own corner he has this way of beating me down so I feel like i am being a nag. Am I unreasonable?

2007-08-03 03:43:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Been with B/F 1 year I am 33 he is 8 years younger we are really happy and I know he loves me to bits as I do - yet I get very jealous over certain things, love scenes in a film, if he looked at a mag with naked women in e.t.c I know he loves me and he is not a "perv" type man - but...I still feel it - not sure if its the age gap - I even worry about him playing computer games in case there is that type of thing in it.....what is wrong with me -I am attractive e.t.c...so worried it will destroy us.

2007-08-03 03:40:34 · 22 answers · asked by keeley 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm 30lbs overweight and he is 50lbs overweight. how do you get over that comment?

2007-08-03 03:38:56 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I don't want a divorce anymore. When we split, my wife was angry at me and i was angry at her. I don't want it anymore. However attornies are involved and because of accusations flying around, the attornies don't want us to talk to each other. I don't want this divorce anymore. I don't know how my wife feels because i can't talk to her. The attornies have made it now where we can't trust each other and us throwing accusations each other's way. Plus our families think we're both better off without the other. How can I stop this craziness? I don't want to divorce her but she seems to still want it....I think. I can't talk to her though because too many legal things have been drawn up and if i do there might be some sort of restraining order issued because it's gotten to the point where our attornies told us to leave each other alone. What can I do? I don't want to divorce her. I know she has bad mouthed me to everyone. Can this be fixed? if so ladies, how?

2007-08-03 03:35:16 · 10 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Marriage & Divorce

SHAWN IS !!!!!

2007-08-03 03:34:53 · 5 answers · asked by SHAWN 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

why do they always go straight to the bathroom after sex? what are they doing in there? i mean im no stranger to sex or anything but ive never really asked what they are doing.

2007-08-03 03:34:13 · 13 answers · asked by rocker2084 1 in Singles & Dating