I hear a lot of talk about divorce ... I have always believed the only good reasons are physical abuse or infidelity ... what does everyone else think? What justifies divorce? Is it ok if you just "fall out of love" with someone, or don't get the attention you need/want?
2007-08-03 04:04:36 · 20 answers · asked by Random_Girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way, I'm not married so I'm not trying to justify anything - I'm just curious.
2007-08-03 04:15:07 · update #1
The dealbreakers are infidelity and all kinds of abuse, whether it's physical, emotional or verbal. NO ONE should stay with an abusive mate!
2007-08-03 04:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the only real reasons for divorce are 1. Abandonment 2. Abuse 3. Betrayal (Cheating) and 4. Substance Abuse that they are not willing to get treatment for. I don't think falling out of love is a good reason. There are always hard times and if you are willing to work through them then there is always that love that brought you together. That is what counseling is for.
2007-08-03 04:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by luckygirl_2021 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe the same. Are the people that got divorced really fallen out of love or just in a rut, not trying. It's amazing in this divorced filled world to meet older people that have been married 50 years and still love each other. Maybe our generations have gotten used to things being easy or convenient and don't know what it takes is work and commitment.
2007-08-03 04:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by tired mom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adultery and Abuse. (Whether it be physical / emotional)
I personally do not feel that divorce is right b/c "you don't love each other anymore". Sometimes marriage isn't all about 'feelings' its about committment. If someone really wants to be with someone for the rest of you life- act like it- if you treat someone with love- eventually the feelings will be there. Human beings are way to fickel and emotions are the icing on the cake- its about committment-
you can COMMIT to love- and the requires actions both ways- It requires open communication about needs and wants/ the desires for the marriage- it requires friendship between two people- and it must ALWAYS be worked on. If one is feeling ignored- it needs to be worked on through honest communication- and through the commitment to make the marriage work- there must be change.
but no-
for me falling "out" of love isn't an option. It just shouldn't happen- Who ever said marriage wasn't work??? If someone isn't up fr the challenges of marriage, the work- and doesn't want to keep their vows-
WHy marry?
2007-08-03 04:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by LuvMy2Kids 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a lot of people marry without being really in love. That's why some divorce because they say they fall out of love or there's no love anymore. I think with true love there's no falling out and it doesn't stop. So those who divorce because there's no love, they never had it in the first place.
2007-08-03 04:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only valid reasons for divorce are addictions and abuse.
Divorce, even from someone horrible (let alone someone you used to love) is horrendous. It entails a great sense of loss and failure. If you have a religious objection to divorce (I'm Christian but I don't), you might also feel shame and guilt.
Divorce has an impact beyond the husband and wife. Kids blame themselves for the divorce. Grandparents might not be able to see their grandchildren anymore.
I'm not saying don't do it, I'm saying take all factors into account before you decide what to do.
It sounds to me as if you are looking to others to justify a decision you have already made. Don't play it that way, please. For your own sake.
2007-08-03 04:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only Abuse- mentally and physically...I believe a form of mental abuse is infidelity because you basically make the person feel like they are worth nothing to you anymore....
2007-08-03 04:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think, if you come to realization that you really don't want to be with this person for the rest of your life, it's a good reason to divorce and not prolong the agony. The reasons that bring one to such realization vary widely.
2007-08-03 04:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- Abuse (physical,emotional)
2- Infidelity
-My opinion..Everybody else thinks different = )
2007-08-03 04:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by Latina4life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What justifies a divorce: U just cant tolerate each other.
U have incompatible zodiac or have different religions
or were born in different environments. U have a lot
of suspicion about your spouse about having an affair.
Or ur spouse is impotent.
2007-08-03 04:09:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋