My husband left 8 weeks ago now leaving me and my 2 kids for a girl he had been having a 3 mth affair with. He has since asked to come back as he misses me and our 2 children, i have agreed to this but he still hasn't come home and its been nearly a week since he said he wanted to come back. I've asked why he hasn't returned and he says he doesn't know what to say to her.
2007-08-03 04:24:44 · 14 answers · asked by winner2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't imagine how painful that is. I also can't imagine how betrayed you must feel right now. You gave this man two wonderful children, and committed yourself to being a good wife (I can see that if you’re waiting for him). He cheated, he put his family in jeopardy not you! Why should you have to wait for him? What are you waiting for? Do you honestly think that he will come back and you will have your family back? It doesn’t work that way. What is to say that he will not cheat again? You say he can't figure out how to tell her it's over. That’s some Bull S#$% right there! It pisses me off just hearing that. What he's really telling you, is that he can't figure out how to stop having sex with this woman and come back to his family. Have some respect for yourself and your family and move on. He will regret it his whole life and that would be enough satisfaction for me.
Good Luck!
2007-08-03 04:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Lenka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he hasn't ended it with her yet. How can he expect you to let him come home when he is still seeing another woman, and why would you want to? If he really wants to come home he will just tell her so and end it and come home. If I were you I would give him a time frame and then stick to it. Tell him that he has a certain amount of time to tell her it's over and get himself home or to forget it! I think that if he was really sure that coming back home was what he wanted he would have run back as soon as you gave him the okay to. I hope everything works out the way you want it to...good luck!!
2007-08-03 11:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Warning bells are going off in my head.
Be careful getting involved with him for the sake of the kids. Do they understand that Daddy left? If he comes back and it doesn't work, is it fair to put them through that again?
The woman he had an affair with? Where is she in the picture? Did they break up and he's coming back to you now?
Do you trust this man who cheated on you? Will you think in the back of your mind that he will do it again?
I suggest councilling. It sounds like your husband is a very confused man. He has to make choices.
2007-08-03 11:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by blanchardchristina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I woulnt let him come back until He agrees to some ground rules. Like no cheating or he is gone, for starters. I would also give him a time frame for breaking it off with the other woman. Otherwise he will just string you along. You deserve better than this. Instead of just accepting it all, be proactive, and remember he is the one who cheated, you have the power to change and set the rules.
2007-08-03 11:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Close the door and lock it! This guy wants his cake and eat it too. Respect yourself and don't let someone treat you this way. File for a divorce and have him served at his girlfriends house. Move on.
2007-08-03 11:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not allow him back. What are you teaching your children? How will they cope with life? Grow a spine lady. Your husband is scum and he abandoned his children for sex. If you ever let him back you will only be teaching your boys that it is okay for them to treat their women that way. Or if you have girls that is okay for them to be treated this way.
2007-08-03 11:34:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't really know what he wants. If you want to try to work things out with him them tell him not to contact you again until he's got his sh** together and is ready to move back in (bags packed ready to walk in the door). If you think you won't be able to forgive and forget tell him its over, because if you can't do that you'll just be prolonging the inevitable. (a break up). I'm sorry you are going through this, and I wish you luck and wisdom with your decision.
2007-08-03 11:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by gorgeous 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
my gosh girls wise up please.... if he left u he will do it again dont give is a...ss the option of coming back be the stronger and the better person let him go stop being his rug its proven it worse for the kids than if he just stays gone than him coming and going it will hurt but in time it will heal think more of your self u r worth alot.
2007-08-03 11:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by Alica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good women. Why shouldn't he have the best of both worlds? He'll come home as soon as he gets tired of her and just bounce back and forth.
2007-08-03 11:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to tell her - I HAVE A WIFE AND CHILDREN. He's still putting her ahead of you. It hurts and it sucks and it's not easy, but you need to move on.
2007-08-03 11:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by Beth 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋